087: Be fabulously you
You don't have to make yourself smaller to make someone else feel bigger, or make yourself fit into a box to make someone else feel comfortable. Today we're embracing your fabulous self!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. You're listening to the daily pet, which is the only daily podcast, the creative and multi passionate women. Wanna get out of their own way and put Epic share into the world. Now when it comes to building a life you love and doing your own thing, let's not beat around the bush. It can be a bit lonely. There are some people who don't understand why we do what we do or why we want the life we want. And some people, it doesn't matter how many different ways we try and explain what we do. They just don't get it.
For me, I've lost count of the amount of conversations I've had where I meet someone and they asked me what I do. I tried to explain it, and they drop off before the end of the first sentence. Sometimes when you don't fit easily into a box or easily into a job title, it makes other people uncomfortable. and it can make you feel a bit shitty and just add to the loneliness. So for today's pep talk, I just want to tell you that it's not your job to make other people feel people. Here's the funny thing. As society, we root for the underdog. We really cheer on nonconformity We really hold up the people who are doing things differently.
But sometimes when it comes to meeting one of those people in real life that don't do things the way that they quote should do, It's another story altogether. So if you're in that boat and a lot of us are, I just want to encourage you that No matter how tempting it sometimes is. Never fit yourself into a box because it feels easier or because you get so sick of the bee knees faces. The truth is that those people are not your people. It can be so frustrating when other people don't get what you do. And sometimes it can feel like a battle. On the one hand, you want more than anything to fit in and belong. On the other hand, you want to stand out and be different.
And sometimes it feels like a constant struggle as to which one's gonna win, but sometimes you have to face up to the truth. that you can't fit in unless you're willing to compromise so much of what makes you you, and make yourself smaller to make other people feel comfortable. The irony is if you did try everything you could to fit in, you'd feel like a fraud anyway because that just wouldn't be what is authentic to you. You might think that it would solve all your problems, but I'm sorry, but it won't. It can be a really horrible feeling. -- feeling like you don't fit in or that no one is ever gonna get you, but your people are out there. And the world needs you exactly as you are, even though sometimes you don't feel welcome, you get those bemused faces. and you feel like you have to explain your life and your life choices to everyone.
You do not. You do not have to make anybody feel comfortable. Is not your job to explain your life choices or justify the reasons why you do the things you do? There is no one out there like you and no one who can bring to the world exactly what you do in the way you do it. Here's the thing that I often come back to. There are so many things I wouldn't have done if I felt like I fit in or I felt like everybody got me, from the word go. I would have never started the daily pap nor the code maker's podcast. I would never have sought out the things that make me happy, like laughter yoga, performance, poetry, and country music. I wouldn't have found Mr Meg, who I met in 2002, where we bonded over our feeling of not fitting in and, obviously, emo music, and I wouldn't have owned my skills and talents like I did. And the same is true for you. There are things and experiences you never would have had if you fit in. If you confirmed you would have had to give up so many of the things that make you you, and you wouldn't be 2 thirds of the person you are today. Your difference is what sets the world on fire. And you are so much stronger than you think because of it. You just can't get through years of feeling like nobody gets you or that you don't fit in, That being strong and standing up for yourself, even if that is just in your head. So here's to never making yourself smaller to make somebody else feel bigger.
Here's to not fit in into a box, and here's to finding your people. If you're wondering where all the like minded women are hanging out, Go and check out the Couragemaker's podcast, which is a daily pep's sister podcast, where there are so many women sharing their own journeys, have not fallen into a box, their dreams, their fears, and all the things they've learned along the way. I've put the link to The Couragemaker's Podcast in the show notes. Here's to being fabulously you, and I can't wait to be back with you here tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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