072: You’re not in high school anymore

You get to choose who you spend time with and who you surround yourself with. That's what we're diving into in today's daily pep!

Resources:

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck - Sarah Knight

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.” - Alice Walker

Episode transcript:

Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. I'm Meg Kissack and I am so excited to start the day with you and thank you for tuning in for the Daily Pep. So if you clicked on this episode thinking that I was going to tell you to grow up and get serious, then you are definitely listening to the wrong podcast. This is all about Rebel Rising over here, and today we are celebrating the fact that you're not in high school anymore and what that means for how you get to choose to live your life now. I don't know about you, but high school was not an amazing experience for me. If you are pretty much a creative weirdo and you are a deep thinker and an empath and you've got your own way of doing things and you want to blaze your own trail, it is not the easiest time. But all of that aside, there's something separate that I really want to focus on today. Back when we're in school, we are put in with a group of people that we have no control over.

Whether we get on with the people, whether they're good for us, whether they make us feel like shit, it is pretty much irrelevant and there's not much you can do about it. But you're not in high school anymore, and you get to choose who you spend your time with. And maybe more importantly, you get to choose who you don't spend your time with. What I really want to remind you today is that you've got so much more choice over your life than you think you do. And we get caught up in comparing our lives and looking at what other people are doing that we might as well be back in high school. But you are no longer there. You no longer have to spend time with with the people that don't make you feel great. You get to choose who to surround yourself with.

And you've got so many more tools to deal with stuff now. You've got every right to put down boundaries. You've got every right to cut people from your life, and you get to walk out the door and not look back if that's what you need to do. Life is way too short to be spending it with people who make you feel shitty, with people that don't care about what you do and people who don't support the path you're on. And it doesn't have to be that drastic. You also don't have to make time for people that you've grown apart from or people that you have naturally drifted away from. You are older, you are wiser and you get to stand up for yourself. This reminds me of the title of the book by Sarah Knight called the the Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck.

In particular, this bit, which I come back to time and time again. Stop spending time you don't have doing things you don't want to do with people you don't like. Now, I don't know about you, but that makes a lot of sense to me. You are not in high school anymore. You have way more control over who you spend time with. And for the people that are in your life that you'd rather not be, but maybe their co workers or family and it's a bit more complicated. You get to put down pretty fucking clear boundaries. You get to decide how much of an influence they're gonna have on you.

And you get to decide to say fuck it and realize that their opinion of you really, really doesn't matter. I want to end today's episode with this quote by the phenomenal Alice Walker. And it's this. You. No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow. Remember that. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter. Have a great rest of your day, stand up for yourself, put boundaries in place, and I'll see you back here tomorrow.

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