1514: What if it’s not about you?

23 Jan

Around here we tend to beat ourselves up a lot and find all the faults within ourselves. Today I'm sharing a powerful question that might help you look at things more fairly.

Episode transcript:

Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. And to wrap up this week on the Daily Pep, Sassy Meg is here. So there's been something I've been thinking about a lot lately and I have a feeling that a lot of us have too. And I want to share a reminder that might just be the thing you need to hear today. And it is this. Other people's perspectives of you, other people's judgments. The way some people question and try to invalidate your dreams says so much more about them than than it ever does about you in the moment. It can be so hard to remember that they may be simply projecting their own shit onto you and it's actually nothing about you.

Maybe there's something about what you're going to do or what you're planning that is holding up a mirror to a part of their lives that maybe they don't want to see. And it comes out as a bit of a criticism towards yourself when it is all about them. Now this is not me saying that that's okay. It is really shitty to be on the receiving end of that. And usually we tend to go internal pretty quickly and try and find all the ways that they are right or they're not right. And we tend to end up using it as something else to beat ourselves with. But what if it actually isn't a reflection on you, it's not a judgment on your character, but it says more about what's going on in their life and maybe what they're dealing with or not dealing with. Many of us are multi passionates, we're creatives, we are highly sensitive, we are empaths.

Some of us are neurospicy and we are used to being the square peg in the round hole. And we are very used to maybe struggling with our confidence or thinking that there's something wrong with us. But my dear, there is absolutely not. And I think this can be a really helpful reframe to see what else could be going on and take a pause before our dream chitter takes it and runs with it. So that is a question I invite you to take with you into your life and ask yourself in a really positive way, what if it isn't about you and what if it was never about you and it is simply somebody projecting their own shit. So that's a wrap for this week. I can't wait to be back with you next week. And I look forward to being in your lovely ears on Monday for the daily pep or in your inbox on Sunday if you're part of my fabulous email community and you can find out more about that and join by going to the rebelrousers.com letters and the link is in the show notes.

Have a good one. Try and be even 20% kinder to yourself and remember as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter.

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