1547: Something to remember during a confidence wobble

Today I’m sharing what I’m learning through my recent confidence wobble and today’s Daily Pep is a reminder to both of us that we’re not alone, and we’ve got this.

Episode transcript:

Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. Today I thought it would be helpful to share something that I've been going through in my own life because I think it is something we all struggle with, and I keep getting reminded of the same thing over and over again. And I figured that you might need to hear it too. So lately I have been having a right confidence wobble. The perfectionism has been out to play, the people pleasing has been there, the self-doubt has been off the charts, and my inner dream chitter has fucking loved every single second of it. And one of the interesting things about this particular confidence wobble, because there have been many, is that I've really noticed that I've been looking outside of myself for answers. I have been assuming that somebody will know exactly what I need to do, whether that is about life stuff or business stuff, and it has been so, so hard not just to get sucked into other people's confidence and other people's assertiveness, especially when they are claiming that they know all the answers. Now, most other days of the year, I would spot that a mile off because I am so not a fan of that.

I hate this guru shit. I know that nobody has their shit figured out, no matter how much effort they put into trying to make it look otherwise. But I have just been so suckered in because sometimes it is the easy route, and sometimes it is easier to try and borrow somebody else's confidence than it is to try and find your own.. But the thing that I keep circling and spiraling back to is that if I sit with myself, I know I've got the answers. If I get a bit quiet, I also know that I have my own back, and I know that nobody knows me better than me, which can sometimes feel a bit like a double-edged sword because I also know very well what my most successful avoidance strategies are too. So if, like me, you've been having a bit of a confidence wobble lately, I wanted to pop in and say you're absolutely not alone, and get even more selective than usual about whose voices you let in, because chances are your inner dreamshitter is really, really loud. And I think we also have some of our defenses down,, and bullshit that we wouldn't really give two shits about normally starts to feel slightly alluring. And I'm saying this to both of us.

We know what we're doing. We know deep down that we can do it, and if we're not sure what we're doing, we can rely on ourselves and trust ourselves to figure it out, even if it is really fucking frustrating that we always have to. See if you can find a way to get quiet and listen to that quiet voice. For me, that looks like journaling, and it looks like writing letters from my future self to my present self, or to my past self. And know that this is temporary, and it will pass. And if you are not currently going through a confidence wobble, I see you, I cheer you on, and you fucking got it. So that's what I've been thinking about lately. I hope you're having an unexpectedly nice week, and I hope a stranger gives you a compliment.

Happy Hump Day, and I'll see you tomorrow.

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