135: The gift that comes with saying no
If you struggle with people pleasing and saying no - like many of us do - today's episode is for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. You're listening to the Daily Pep, which is the only daily podcast for creative and multi passionate women who want to quit being the very own personal dream shitters and just be their own rebel rouser instead. Today I want to talk about one of people pleasing sisters, if you will, which is all about saying no. Now around here, we're all about building a wholehearted creative life that only you can live, but also one that makes the world a brighter place too. And because we're so values driven and because we just want to do what we can to help and make a difference in the world, it can be really hard to say no. We've all been in that situation where somebody has asked us something and before we know it, we've said yes without even considering our time, what we've got on our plate, or whether we even want to do the thing. We've all been in those situations where we've walked away from the conversation thinking, why or why did I say yes? And we just wish that we could just turn back time for a second. And we're just so frustrated with ourselves because we told ourselves we wouldn't do this anymore.
If it sounds like I'm reading your mind at the moment, it's because I've been in this place many, many, many times. But today I want to offer you a bit of a reframe. And the reframe is this. There is actually a gift that comes with saying no. Because when you say no to something, you are saying yes to something else. And you can choose what you say yes to. You can choose your priorities for whatever season of life you're in at the moment. You can choose to say yes to more time for yourself and your family.
You can say yes to pretty much anything. But a lot of the time saying yes starts with saying no. So maybe it's time to just get really clear on what you would like to say yes to. Maybe it's about getting all the colored pens out and just the big scrap of paper and just working out what you would like to say yes to in your life and getting really intentional about the decisions you want to make. And then from that you can really flip that on its head and work out, okay, if these things are actually really important to me and I want to make time for them, I want to prioritize the energy for them, then the things that don't fit within this framework, well, they just don't become an automatic yes. It really can be as simple as this. When somebody makes a request on your time or your energy or your skills, just pause. Remember that you don't have to give an answer in most cases right now and you have every right to say, I'll get back to you on that.
Saying no can feel really scary, especially if you're not used to it. But when you start to see the gift behind it and start to see all the ways that you can really start prioritising what's important to you, we can actually start to get pretty passionate about what you say no to. So that is your food for thought for today. Have a think about what you're saying no to and what you're saying yes to in your life and see if those things align with your values and how you would actually like to use your precious time and energy. I hope you have a lovely Tuesday. I can't wait to see you back here tomorrow. And if you want to be part of a fabulous community of like minded courage makers and get access to all the behind the scenes bits and the most vulnerable bits I don't share anywhere else, make sure you're signed up for my weekly emails. You can sign up by going to thathummingbirdlife.com and clicking on Send their emails or signing up anywhere on the homepage. Have a good one and remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you. Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
