1553: A tip for all us people pleasers
Today I'm sharing something simple you can do that might feel a bit uncomfortable at the time, but your future self will be seriously grateful for.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, we are celebrating the power of the pause. In a world where everything has to be instantaneous and everything is so reactive, where we feel like we have to have got everything done yesterday and we have to have the right answer at the right time, I just want to remind you that in most cases you are able to, and it probably is best, to take a pause. It can be so easy to forget to check in with ourselves, only to agree to things we really wish we didn't say yes to, and then have to spend even more time trying to get out of it. Or dreading having to go to the thing itself. The same is hard conversations. I have a rule where I don't answer the phone, I don't answer a message if I'm angry, and I will sit on it for a bit. And all too often we feel like we have to work to everybody else's timescale and forget that we can just give ourselves a second.
Things like, "I'll let you know," "I'll get back to you on that," "Let me have a think," are all are absolutely valid responses, but if we're people pleasers, they tend not to be the first thing that comes to mind, and it does take a bit of practice, and it can be a little bit uncomfortable to begin with. Also, remember that "I'm at capacity" is also a perfectly valid response, and not everybody has equal access to your precious time and energy. So here's to reinstating the pause. Here's to checking in with yourself first before you agree to something, and here's to knowing that your response and how you feel is perfectly valid. You don't have to become a pretzel for other people, and sometimes a slightly uncomfortable no saves you a fuckload of time and stress further down the line. Have a fabulous rest of your day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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