We're so good at dismissing our successes and achievements, and today we're turning that on its head!

Episode transcript:

Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Around here, we are all about celebrating our wins and looking at just how far we've come. And today, I wanna do things a bit differently because I just wanna use our time together today to encourage you to give yourself credit for just how much you do and how much you've got on your plate. Now naturally on a Friday, we are thinking about all the things that we did do. And let's face it, we spend a lot more time thinking about the things that we didn't do. One of the things I love to do in my group programs is have a toot your horn Friday where we celebrate our wins and actually acknowledge just how far we've come. And one of the reasons I'm such a huge advocate for doing that is that sometimes it is just so hard to look at what we've actually accomplished and not go down that rabbit hole of beating ourselves up, which for many of us, me included, is our kind of default way of being. And I think we do this for so many reasons.

If we're socialized as women, we're taught to be humble, not to brag, and we generally don't own the good things about ourselves. And we tend to give credit away to other people or external circumstances. For example, if somebody tells us we're doing a good job, we might respond with, oh, well, that was just a fluke. That was just one of those days. If we're working in a team, we might give all of the credit away to other people. And honestly, it's so easy to dismiss what we have done because so often we don't even recognize what we've contributed. And in the back of our mind, there's usually this idea of don't brag, sacrifice above all else, and just keep going. But today, I am saying a huge fuck that to all of this shit because taking credit does not make you arrogant, does not make you this horrible person.

But what it does make you is somebody who owns your strengths and your skills and also a shitload of motivation to keep going. Because if you can actually feel like you're making progress and you can celebrate your successes no matter how big or how small they are along the way, it is so much easier to keep that motivation and energy up, and it also makes life a whole lot more satisfying. So today, let's just for a second give yourself a bit of fucking credit. You do so many things, and, yeah, there are always gonna be external circumstances. But the one thing in common of all of these things is you and you get to take some of the credit. You get to own that. You get to toot your own horn, and you get to look at the things you have done and be compassionate for the things that you haven't done because chances are there are very valid reasons and you are busy doing other stuff. We're gonna dive more into this next week, but you do more than you know.

You have so much more on your plate than you probably even recognize, and you deserve so much more credit than you give yourself. And just a reminder for those of us who struggle with taking compliments, people don't tend to say things just for the point of being nice. So here's to telling yourself today, actually, I'm doing a bloody good job. And if you're in a dream, should have hyped up with all this stuff about what you haven't done or reminders about outstanding things, today it can just go fuck off. Give yourself credit, take the credit, and remember that you're doing pretty damn good. Whatever you get up to this weekend, I hope you do something to acknowledge all the things that you do do. And I can't wait to see you back here either in your inbox on Sunday for my regular letter of rebellion. There's more about that in the show notes if you don't already receive them or on your speakers on Monday morning.

Have a good one. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter and you really fucking matter.Good morning, daily peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Around here, we are all about celebrating our wins and looking at just how far we've come. And today, I wanna do things a bit differently because I just wanna use our time together today to encourage you to give yourself credit for just how much you do and how much you've got on your plate. Now naturally on a Friday, we are thinking about all the things that we did do. And let's face it, we spend a lot more time thinking about the things that we didn't do. One of the things I love to do in my group programs is have a toot your horn Friday where we celebrate our wins and actually acknowledge just how far we've come. And one of the reasons I'm such a huge advocate for doing that is that sometimes it is just so hard to look at what we've actually accomplished and not go down that rabbit hole of beating ourselves up, which for many of us, me included, is our kind of default way of being. And I think we do this for so many reasons.

If we're socialized as women, we're taught to be humble, not to brag, and we generally don't own the good things about ourselves. And we tend to give credit away to other people or external circumstances. For example, if somebody tells us we're doing a good job, we might respond with, oh, well, that was just a fluke. That was just one of those days. If we're working in a team, we might give all of the credit away to other people. And honestly, it's so easy to dismiss what we have done because so often we don't even recognize what we've contributed. And in the back of our mind, there's usually this idea of don't brag, sacrifice above all else, and just keep going. But today, I am saying a huge fuck that to all of this shit because taking credit does not make you arrogant, does not make you this horrible person.

But what it does make you is somebody who owns your strengths and your skills and also a shitload of motivation to keep going. Because if you can actually feel like you're making progress and you can celebrate your successes no matter how big or how small they are along the way, it is so much easier to keep that motivation and energy up, and it also makes life a whole lot more satisfying. So today, let's just for a second give yourself a bit of fucking credit. You do so many things, and, yeah, there are always gonna be external circumstances. But the one thing in common of all of these things is you and you get to take some of the credit. You get to own that. You get to toot your own horn, and you get to look at the things you have done and be compassionate for the things that you haven't done because chances are there are very valid reasons and you are busy doing other stuff. We're gonna dive more into this next week, but you do more than you know.

You have so much more on your plate than you probably even recognize, and you deserve so much more credit than you give yourself. And just a reminder for those of us who struggle with taking compliments, people don't tend to say things just for the point of being nice. So here's to telling yourself today, actually, I'm doing a bloody good job. And if you're in a dream, should have hyped up with all this stuff about what you haven't done or reminders about outstanding things, today it can just go fuck off. Give yourself credit, take the credit, and remember that you're doing pretty damn good. Whatever you get up to this weekend, I hope you do something to acknowledge all the things that you do do. And I can't wait to see you back here either in your inbox on Sunday for my regular letter of rebellion. There's more about that in the show notes if you don't already receive them or on your speakers on Monday morning.

Have a good one. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter and you really fucking matter.

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