1132: A sassy one about dreamsh*tters
Today I'm sharing some helpful ways to deal with external dreamsh*tters, as well as a massive permission slip to only share what you want to share (with who you want to share it with!)
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Wednesday to you. It is a hump day, and I am feeling sassy. So if you are struggling with your inner dream shitter or external dream shitters and you wanna cut through the bullshit, this one is for you. Now, lately, I have been thinking about how much of our heart and soul that we put into so many of the things that we do that we're passionate about and the reactions of other people. The way I see it, you have a couple of different types of dream shitters. You've got your very much intentional dream shitters who are only too happy, almost joyful, to tear your plans apart and tell you why they won't work. And they can range between people who are pretty passive aggressive and jealous and just outright bastards.
And then you've got your well intentioned dream shitters. So the people who, maybe to varying degrees, really do support you and want what's best for you but have all the questions. They ask you, why can't you do it a different way? They're reminding you of the risks you're taking. They're giving you piece of advice that sound more like warnings from a well intentioned place, but they still do a lot of damage. And then we add to the mix our inner dream shitters, which we know very, very well. And some of their favorite junk food is comprised of a lot of the stuff that is said to us or implied to us by external dream shutters. So first of all, let's just admit that is quite a lot. So the fact that we do anything is quite frankly a miracle.
And secondly, to dive into the meat of the episode, I just want to remind you that you do not have to share your heart and your soul and your ideas with anybody else. I'm a firm believer that people who get your respect have to earn your respect. That some people simply aren't worth wasting your precious air on, and that you get to be seriously fucking protective about the things that matter to you. And not everybody has access to them nor should have access to them. This is not about you being inauthentic. This is not about you lying or trying to hide things. It is about looking after you, standing up for you, and knowing that your ideas matter, you do have something to say, and you can do really cool shit in the world. You are allowed to have a vibrant internal life that you keep private.
You are allowed to answer dream shittters with really vague answers, and you're also allowed to not answer them at all. You also get to be really intentional about who you choose to share things with and also how you share them. Maybe some people are really good with helping at relationship problems, but tend to really put a dumpster on your creative dreams and vice versa and that's okay too. This whole thing is really nuanced and it isn't always that straightforward. Again, that is a human thing that is not an error that you're making. And another thing to remember is that you get to answer to a question with, I'd rather not talk about that. You do not have to explain yourself and quite frankly a lot of people, especially our external dream shitters, love any excuse to talk about themselves and so deflecting a conversation by asking them questions is usually a handy one. But you also get to simply walk away from the conversation as well.
We are already our own harshest critics, and we already give ourselves enough of a hard time that we don't need other people's bullshit either. We also don't need to rescue other people. We don't need to put up with their shit. And I really do get that sometimes it's not as simple as cutting somebody out of our life for so many reasons, but we get to take the power back and protect ourselves and keep ourselves safe in whatever ways we can. You are so much better and fucking brighter than you give yourself credit for. Go do your weird and wonderful things. Know that you are absolutely not alone, there is a whole crowd of us right behind you. And fuck dream shitters. We're over halfway through the week. Keep going and I'll see you tomorrow.
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