1171: 3 tips for hardcore resistance
If the resistance is real for getting things done, then today’s episode is for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Tuesday to you. So yesterday, we kicked off the daily pep talking about just doing the thing. How we often spend more time thinking about doing the thing when we actually do doing the thing. And how we can create a bit of space for ourselves. And today, I just wanna speak to those things that you really, really don't wanna get done, which you're not getting done no matter how hard you try, and the resistance is really real. So I've got three things you might wanna try if that is the case for you, and I know it's often the case for me. So number 1 is to check whether it's still even relevant.
Has it been kicking about on your to do list for absolute weeks, maybe even months? And maybe, actually, the time has passed and you just need to let it go. If that is the case, give yourself grace. Let it go. Know that this is not a personal failing, and this is not a reflection on you as a human. It is just something on your to do list, and that absolutely does not get to define your self worth. The second thing is how can you make it even smaller? Martha Beck has this great quote, which I'm absolutely gonna butcher, which goes something like, if you're not taking the next step, the next step is too big. So go back to it and see how you can make it even smaller. Don't judge yourself if you feel that it is tiny already.
Let's go for the smallest, smallest, smallest thing you can do, remembering that action often begets action. And then the third thing is to get somebody else involved. We all have different flavors of hard, and sometimes our own flavors of hard are other people's flavors of easy. It is okay to ask for help even if it is asking someone to sit on the phone with you while you start it. Or ask somebody to do it for you in exchange for doing something joyful for them. But also remember that it doesn't have to be transactional and that friends like to help friends. Remember there are other things that can help you feel less alone too. I personally find Reddit can be incredibly reassuring when I can't get myself to do something that feels pretty basic and I'm giving myself a really hard time.
When I realize there are other people going through it, it just takes a weight of shame off it. And if in doubt, tell yourself that you're practicing doing the thing rather than actually doing the thing. So here's to making our lives a bit easier. Here's to not beating ourselves up so much, for giving ourselves grace, and for knowing that you're not alone because you truly aren't. And I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes and it comes from Mary Anne Radmaccher and she says, 'Courage doesn't always rule. Sometimes courage is a little voice at the end of the day that says, I'll try again tomorrow. You've got this. You can do it. And see you bright and early as usual tomorrow morning.
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