1336: Trusting your gut
On today's episode, we're reminding ourselves that our decisions don’t need to make sense to anyone else but us.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So this week on the daily pet, we are exploring decision making. And we started off yesterday by exploring how there is never one perfect path you can take. And while that can seem overwhelming, it can also be pretty liberating. So for today's episode, I wanted to come at it from a slightly different angle and just remind you that just because your decisions or you're thinking about something in a different way to other people, maybe your loved ones, doesn't mean it's wrong. For a lot of us around here, like we were saying yesterday, we can spend quite a bit of time deliberating and analysing decisions. And one of the things a lot of us tend to do is ask other people what they think we should do or what they would do in our situation. And we don't do it from the perspective that we're gonna take it outright, But we use it as more data points, and we use it to kind of add to the pros and cons list and give ourselves different angles.
But many a time, what can end up happening, especially if it's somebody we respect or somebody we feel a lot of expectations from, whether that's kind of experienced internally or externally or somebody we feel like we've got obligations to, we end up either taking it to heart or really considering it when it might completely fly in the face of what we're trying to do or what we wanted in the first place. And in the process of trying to make a really smart decision, we can end up completely overwhelmed. We can end up just completely lost at what to do when the chances are we probably started off with some idea of what we wanted. But here's the thing, when we turn to other people, there is so much more going on than just them giving an honest account of what they think we should or could do. Even if they truly have our best intentions at heart, there's gonna be a lot weighing in on their perspective. And that can come from their experiences, their personal values, their fears, whether they're risk adverse or they really value stability or security. They can project a lot of their own stuff onto you. And they might have a preference because one of the options works out better for them.
Now people in our lives who may be outright dream shitters or narcissists, we can completely discount what they think. But it can be really hard not to get really sucked into what somebody else thinks you should do. And here's what I always come back to. One, you are the person who's making the decision and you are living with the consequences. You are the person that wakes up and lives your life every single day and goes through the minutiae of all of it. And number two, there is this great quote which goes along the lines of, don't ask somebody for directions to places they've never been. And that one has been really helpful for me because depending on the situation, some people may just not be qualified to really help you make an informed decision. And I don't mean to sound like a dick when I say that.
Chances are if they're a loved one, they really do wanna help even if they don't know that much about the thing. And yet we can put so much weight on that when it might not be as helpful as it could be. All of this is to say that you get to make your own decisions, and your decisions are still valid if they do not make sense to anybody else. And it's also okay if you're making a decision that other people around you wouldn't. We're all different, a bit like I was saying a minute ago. Everybody brings their own perspectives, experiences, and values to the equation, including you. So here's to listen to yourself even if it flies in the face of what other people think you should do. Here's to going back to what you really, really do want to do.
And here's to taking other people's opinions and perspectives with the biggest grain of salt and also pausing to stop and ask if you do actually want their opinion in the first place. Have a good Tuesday, and remember, everything changes when you believe you matter.
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