1121: On giving yourself what you need
It's so easy to disregard our needs as luxuries, versus the necessities they are, and that's exactly what we're diving into today!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So 1 of the things that I am sick of in the personal development world is the fact that so many people in that space with podcasts, with books, with blogs, try to make out that they've got all their shit sorted out. And I know for me, I definitely do not have all my shit sorted out. Now 1 of the things that I struggle with is revenge bedtime procrastination. You might have heard the term, but it's essentially when you put off and put off and put off bedtime, even though you know your future self certainly isn't gonna thank you for it. For me, revenge bedtime looks like lying in bed on my phone, scrolling, and getting lost down the rabbit holes. I'm really good at telling myself that I'll just give it to the next quarter of an hour and then I will absolutely put my phone on charge and go to sleep. But that very, very rarely happens.
And I think we can give ourselves a massively hard time about this without taking into account that so many of the things that we end up procrastinating on or down the rabbit holes with are things that have been designed to be pretty addictive. There is so much psychology that goes into the user design and the user experience. And rather than thinking about that, we just immediately go to the fact that we have no willpower or discipline. And the reason I'm bringing this up today, it's gonna seem quite tangential, but we're gonna get there, is because lately, I've been thinking about for myself, what is something that I'm terming a luxury that is actually a necessity? So going back to the whole revenge bedtime procrastination thing, I think 1 of the main reasons I do it is because I don't give myself time to decompress during the day. I spend a lot of time coaching and on Zoom and holding space. And I know for me, I haven't been the best at giving myself time to really decompress from that, to quite literally give myself a breather and time to catch up with myself and time just to process everything. But 1 of the things I'm realizing lately is that after a call, if I can give myself 10 minutes to go outside and just really breathe and not really think about anything, it makes a world of difference. But what I've been doing instead is thinking that that is a luxury that is always shit to do that I haven't got time for that and depriving myself of that.
So no wonder when I get to bedtime, my brain's like, come on. Can we just have a quick holiday? Like, can we just take a bit of a break? Because I've been overloaded all day. And scrolling on your phone is a perfect way to do that. So this is a very, very long winded way of saying, what are the things in your life that you know really help you and make a massive difference that you're branding as a luxury rather than a necessity. And the things that each of us need are gonna vary completely from person to person. What really matters to you and what is something that really calms you or gives you life Maybe something that somebody else wouldn't even think of doing or somebody else would think is a luxury. And that's okay. The important thing here is to listen to ourselves and try and give ourselves what we need no matter how uncomfortable that may feel.
Now it is absolutely not all about being productive all the time. But if you're having a hard time giving yourself permission to do the things you need to do take this as an example. I know on the days where I give myself time to decompress, I am way less likely to spend literally hours on my phone at the end of the day. And by taking that time, I can actually get a decent night's sleep. I actually feel more fulfilled at the end of the day, and I wake up feeling a bit more refreshed. So give yourself grace with the things that you procrastinate with. Know that decompression is really important. And maybe the ways you procrastinate are more about you needing that decompression time than they are the fact that you're lazy, which you are not.
And here's to recognizing which things that are luxuries are actually necessities. So, have a think. A lot of food for thought for you here. Have a good one, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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