1129: On having our own backs
It's so easy to have faith in others, yet so hard to have faith in ourselves. So grab a post-it-note, Monday you has some advice they need to hear!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, daily peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So this week on the daily pep, I've been sharing about the 5 most helpful things that I've learned about how to take your dreams off the someday pile and get out of your own way. And I wanna wrap up this week by really focusing on our own inner wisdom and how we can have our own back. So in One Woman Band Club on a Friday, we toot our own horns. I start off by asking everybody what their biggest horn toot from the week is, which is what the thing you're most proud of, and then we chat through how we got on with our priorities for the week. And then I get everybody to set themselves some Monday wisdom. Now not only is this a really nice way to end the week, it is designed with a lot of intention in mind based on the fact that as those of us socialize as women, we are not really encouraged to take up space and share about what we have done. We're taught that to do that is bragging, that is a negative thing, and we often downplay our achievements and what we've done and also completely fail to recognize the progress we make.
So by tooting our horns on a Friday, it is such a good way of building that muscle and taking up space. And every time I run 1 more band, I find something very similar happens. To start off with, it feels a bit uncomfortable finding something to toot your own horn about, especially with other people. But by the second or the third week, it is really hard to actually limit your horn to to one thing. I find that it goes from being this uncomfortable thing that we're socialized not to do to being something that people really look forward to. They have a list of their wins for the week, and life starts being a lot more fulfilling, a lot more satisfying, and we also start to enjoy our days more realizing that we do get shit done, that we are enough. And we also get so much better at realizing what is realistic and also kind to expect ourselves to do every week and just generally better at setting goals. So that is part of why I love the Friday and why I designed it the way I did, but the second bit is magical too.
So when we set our Monday Wisdom, we think ahead to the following Monday and think about what we're gonna most wanna hear. And the reason we do this in advance is because we tend to be a lot kinder to our future selves than we are to our present selves, and we also have a bit more objectivity. Monday seems quite a far way away, and we can really dive deep and we tend to know what we need to hear. We know what we need to give ourselves permission to do, and it is the ideal way of giving ourselves a pep talk because it is exactly what we need to hear. So often, it is all too easy to look outside of ourselves when we've had the answers all along. And it's also a pretty fucking powerful way of starting a Monday realizing how fucking wise you are. A lot of the time people are shocked by how wise their Friday sales were and how right they were. So give this a try yourself.
Press pause, find a post it note, and write yourself a Monday wisdom. Think about what Monday you really needs to hear or would be grateful to hear. Write it as if you are writing it to a dear friend, and then whip it out on Monday and see how right you were. The thing is a lot of this is unconventional and a lot of this is, by its nature, uncomfortable because it goes against so much of how we've been socialized as women and how typical productivity bullshit works. But I'm telling you, self kindness and accessing your own inner wisdom are 2 of the most helpful things that you can do to get your dreams off the Sunday power and to build a life that you love. And you are so much more capable than you know and so much of this starts with building that muscle. So try it on for size. Here's to getting shit done in a way that works with you rather than against you.
And a quick reminder before we end, the early bird offer ends today. So if you grab your spot by the end of the day, you also get a 1 to 1 coaching call with me where we work to get you unstuck, find momentum, a shitload more clarity, as well as a confidence and energy boost. You can save your spot for the September round of 1 woman band club by going to therebelrousers.com/onewomanband. I would love to see you there. And whether you're joining the September round or not, remember that there is an alternative way to work on and build your dreams in a way that is fun, that is compassionate, and doesn't involve you being so damn hard on yourselves. Have a fabulous weekend. I hope you find some unexpected joy and I'll see you on Monday.
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