1361: An unconventional take on comparison

If you beat yourself up when it comes to comparison/jealousy, today we’re using our own curiosity as a superpower!

Episode transcript:

Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. If you ever get stuck comparing yourself to other people, if there are certain people that you're really jealous of, this one is for you. So it's often said that comparison is the thief of joy. And while I'm not disagreeing with that entirely, one of the things I'm really curious about is how we can use comparison to our own benefit. Because here's the thing, we all compare ourselves to other people, and at some point or another, there are going to be people that you are wildly jealous of or a little bit jealous of. So to just set matters straight to begin with, that is a human thing. There is nothing wrong with you. So if you give yourself a hard time around this, know that you're not alone.

And in fact, I think our sense of comparison and jealousy can be used as a bit of a compass, because generally, if you take time to figure out what are the themes that keep coming up, you can use them as really good clues about where to go next or maybe what's missing in your own life. And this is where we also put our fabulous creative brains to use, because jealousy and comparison are also pretty nuanced. Let's say you see somebody really toned and you feel a sense of jealousy. Maybe it's not as overt as you also want a six pack, but rather maybe you really want to start working on your own health journey a bit and show up for yourself a bit more. So what I'm saying here is that what you're jealous of might not be directly what you want in your life, and it really is worth kind of digging for the nuance a bit and actually spending a bit of time digging into and getting curious about who you're comparing yourself to and what are the different things that are coming up and using them as clues, especially as you're feeling lost in the artist's way. Julia Cameron talks about jealousy and she has got this fabulous quote, which is jealousy is a map. It tells us with excruciating precision just where and what we earn. So for today's daily pep, let's quit judging ourselves for comparing ourselves or being jealous of somebody else and use it to our own personal gain.

Use it as a way of getting curious about where we want to go. Also, have your bullshit filter turned all the way up, because chances are your dream jitter is going to have a lot to say on this and use it as a map. Now, if you're somebody that doesn't get jealous a lot, and I definitely fall into that category. And I'm not saying that to be holier than thou, it's just a fact. I don't tend to jealous. What I do find really interesting is when I do, that's when my curiosity really sparks and I get quite excited because there's something there and it tends to lead me towards something that I've not been thinking of or a clue of where I want to go that I might not have been previously aware of. So wherever you fall on the jealousy and comparison scale, give yourself grace. Try to choose curiosity over judgment and what you find might be quite exciting. I'll see you tomorrow. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.

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