1451: Let's work with ourselves, not against ourselves
Today I'm offering a gentler way to honour your quirks, gifts, and authentic self!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So yesterday I introduced you to my fabulous tour the Rebel Archetype Pros, and it has been an absolute joy seeing what kind of rebels we have amongst them us. And if you've missed out on the fun, you can go uncover your Rebel Archetype by going to thereebelroses.com quiz or using the link in the Show Notes. Now today I thought it might be interesting to dive a bit deeper into the whole working on ourselves thing, because I think it will come as no surprise to any of you who've been listening a while. We tend to be really into personal development around here. We are lifelong learners, we are working on our own shit and we are trying to build a life that really authentically aligns with who we are, what matters to us, and what brings us joy. And if we're in this sphere, we're probably reading a bunch of self help books, we're probably on a bunch of newsletters, we probably listen to a bunch of podcasts, and we've also probably come across what I lovingly call the self help bullshit. And you probably know exactly what I'm referring to.
The really rigid ways of how you should be living your life in three easy steps which are going to guarantee lifelong happiness. The obsession of getting up at 5am and doing so much before 6am that you probably need to nap again by 7am and also just the absolute bollocks that has you feeling worse about yourself than you did to begin with. My huge gripe with a lot of the self help stuff out there, and I know things are improving is how we're often left feeling that we are a problem that needs to be fixed. I remember burning out really, really hard just over 10 years ago, having time off work and going into the self help section of Waterstones, which in the UK is kind of our equivalent to Barnes and Noble. Feeling pretty vulnerable if I'm honest, and also being just completely overwhelmed by how many things I was now supposed to be working on and how everybody had this blueprint. But when the blueprint didn't work, I wasn't necessarily encouraged to criticize or critique the blueprint, but rather it must be me doing something wrong yet again. Now I know we are all much more discerning and things have changed a lot for the better, but I do think there is a risk when we're into the whole kind of personal development world of feeling like there is something wrong with us and we just need to figure out what it is and solve it. And I just want to pop in today and remind you that there's nothing wrong with you.
You do not need to be fixed. You are not a problem to be solved. I think so many of our challenges can come from trying to fit ourselves into different moulds, following other people's rules for what a good life or a productive life looks like and ignoring the things that we already know to be true. So much of my work is about coming home to yourself, unlearning as much as learning and also finding and honouring your own ways to do things and knowing that they are probably much more valid than whatever the current self help bestseller is currently saying. I don't even know what it is. We can end up spending so much time inadvertently working against ourselves when maybe the answer is to work with ourselves, to accept that maybe we're going to feel like a square peg in a round hole some days. Maybe we have challenges and things about ourselves that really frustrate us. And maybe we also have gifts that we didn't even know were there.
The whole idea behind my Rebel Archetype quiz was really to equip you with some fresh perspectives of seeing yourself and seeing with what you're already working with and how that is already fabulous. Often we feel like in order to make change we need to burn everything down. But the truth is sometimes it is just really about some tiny tweaks and they can make all the difference. So the Rebel Archetype is there as a tool for you if you want to dive into it. And I hope as you go about your day to day you remember that you are not some blob of clay sitting on the pottery wheel ready to be made into something beautiful by somebody else. But you are already this quirky, fabulous, wonderfully weird vase that contains multitudes and can hold so many bright flowers and so much joy. Speaking of joy, I hope you find some unexpected joy today and I'll be back with you again tomorrow. See you then.
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