1582: Outgrowing things is human
If you’re in the messy middle, or you’ve got growing pains, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong - today’s episode is for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday. And a very happy hump day to you. So today I wanted to pop in and remind you that it is okay to outgrow people and it is okay to outgrow things. One of both the joys and the challenges of being a human and being alive is, is that we are constantly changing. Our needs change, our dreams change. And as cheesy as the saying is, we do grow through what we go through. And sometimes that means that we need to leave things behind. Other times it means we need to try new things on for size.
And sometimes we're in that middle awkward growing phase. And it's okay if you don't know the answers too. For so many of us, if something starts to feel off, one of the first things that we can be tempted to do consciously or unconsciously is to somehow point the blame at ourselves or try and figure out what's going on with us, assuming that we're the problem. And sometimes there is a problem, and sometimes it's not you, and sometimes there isn't a problem. It's just that things don't feel quite right anymore. And that's okay too. And I think it is so worth listening to. So whether you are going through growing pains or whether you're looking around at your life and you're seeing things that maybe don't fit you anymore, know that that is a good sign because you are developing, you're changing, you're growing.
And while that can feel uncomfortable around here, we don't like feeling stagnant either. Get curious about what the opportunity is here. Know that grief comes in many forms and grieving change is okay too. And remember that you don't need to solve everything today. And chances are if you did solve everything today, you would probably spend a fair amount of time revisiting decisions, cleaning things up. So it might not be as efficient as you think it would be. Sometimes we are just in the messy middle and I know from a lot of personal experience it is never as fun or as interesting as as it sounds in a lot of self help books, but it is also pretty necessary. Be extra kind to yourself.
Give yourself even more grace and compassion than normal and know that this is part of the process of being a human and you are doing nothing wrong. So I hope you have a good hump day. We are over halfway through the week and I can't wait to be back with you bright and early as usual tomorrow. Take care.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1580: What if it's selfless, not selfish?
If you've ever felt like taking time for you, working on your creative projects or prioritising yourself is selfish, then today's episode is for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So to kick off this week on the Daily Pep, I really want to make the argument that working on our own stuff and doing the things that light us up is actually more selfless than it is selfish. Recently I conducted an annual survey for my fabulous email community, and one of the main questions was, what do you most struggle with when it comes to chasing your dreams or creating a life you love? And the patterns were pretty consistent. There were a lot of similar themes and also a lot of similar answers. One of the things that came up is kind of having competing priorities when it comes to our own dreams and the loved ones in our lives and how easy it is to put everybody else's needs in front of our own, and just how tied up we are in saying yes to everybody else and how hard it can be to choose ourselves. Now, if we are socialized as women, we are socialized to put everybody else first. Our needs go to the bottom of the pile. And often there are so many messages, whether overt or covert, that tell us that doing things for ourselves is selfish, that taking time to do our own things when we could be using that time on other people is somehow wrong.
And I just want to pop in with a huge fuck that. Because here's the thing. Apart from the fact that we all deserve to do the things that we love and the things that light us up, those very things often tend to be the things that make the world brighter anyway. We are big hearted, we are compassionate, we give a shit about the world, and that can really be seen in the things that we create. And even if we can't make that link for ourselves and we don't see our projects that way, working on our own stuff and creating things tends to make us happier in general. It builds our resilience. It gives us something to really look forward to. And I don't know about you, but when I've got a project on the go, I'm a nicer person to be around.
One of the huge reasons I do the Daily Pep is because I want to live in a world where women choose themselves, where they do their creative projects, and where we keep going despite our inner dream shitters and all the external bullshit. Because what we have to give to the world matters. The world can only be made a richer and more hopeful place for our projects existing in it. And I don't know about you, but I much prefer the version of the world where as women, we create the things we want to see in the world and we work on our projects rather than the version where we stay small. We get completely trapped by the bullshit and the fuckers who don't align with our values win. So this week, create something. Work on something important to you and know that any teeny tiny action counts. Putting yourself into the equation is certainly not selfish and the world needs you exactly as you are, not some improved version of yourself.
So Happy Monday. Know that the Women's Creativity Circle is here for support and flexible structure in doing this stuff. And here's to remembering that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1579: Do it scrappy
If you wish you had a regular creative practice, but only create once in a blue moon, this one’s for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily peppers and a very happy Friday to you. So sometimes I sit down with my microphone and I have absolutely no idea about what that day's daily pep is going to be about. My mind goes completely blank and I just sit here for a bit. I'd love to say that I have some kind of box of tricks or some magic strategy, but really I just let my brain wander for a while. I often get sidetracked. I literally did just now, looking up somebody I haven't seen for over 20 years on Facebook. But at some point there will be something that gives me the seed of an idea and and rather than sit with it until it's completely fleshed out, I press record and I see what happens.
And in some way or another, everything falls into place. And the reason I share that today is because I want to debunk some of what we think about having a creative practice. We think it has to look a certain way, namely beautiful or impressive. We think that practice is just about getting perfect at something, and we think that practice is all about getting to a success. But I see it slightly differently. For me, practice really is about building up your self trust muscle. It's about getting to the point where it's no longer scary or intimidating, and it's getting to the point where you know that you're going to be able to pull it out the bag because you've done it so many times before. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I get frustrated when I can't think of anything but.
But apart from I think, two occasions where I really had nothing and I was absolutely exhausted because I've shown up and done it this much, I trust that something will come to me even if I've got no clue what it is. Now, I am not suggesting that you start a daily podcast, and this isn't a rallying cry for taking on a daily project, but what it is is a reminder that your confidence and your self trust are often comes in doing the thing. It comes in showing up, it comes in winging it, it comes in pulling it off at the end and it comes in the form of muscle memory. So if you are not as far ahead as you'd like to be with a particular area of your creativity or a particular skill, chances are highly likely that everything your dream shooter says is absolute bullshit. And maybe you need to put in the reps and enough reps until you firmly know that you can show up and do the damn thing. And the thing about doing it fairly often is that at some point you start to become a bit less bothered by the outcome. Or at least you become a lot less of a perfectionist because it's not all hanging on this one rare time that you sit down to do the thing rather than which involves so much pressure. So this episode is a permission to do it scrappy, to do it imperfect, to show up on a fairly regular basis even if you half arse it, rather than once in a blue moon giving it your all.
And if you want a bonus bit of advice, create a container around it, something that works for you. I know that episodes have to come out by 6am UK time every weekday and I literally don't have time to be a perfectionist unless I want to spend the whole day on it. And if I did I would get seriously annoyed with myself, also seriously resentful of the project and I probably wouldn't do it anyway. So work with yourself and know that constraints can often give us a fair bit of freedom and flexibility. And if you are listening to this and right now it is once in a blue moon that you create or you do the thing and you find it hard to carve out time to see things through, you wish you could do it with a fabulous bunch of like minded women. My new six month coaching program may just be for you. It's called the Women's Creativity Circle. It's all about taking our projects off the Sunday pile.
We get started in May with twice a week making sessions to really carve out time for our projects and to really put in the reps, to put in the practice with some accountability to get us making more and to give us a fuck ton more self trust too. You can find out more by going to the link in the show notes or over to therebelrousers.com/creativitycircle and if you really want to get your projects off the Sunday pile with me in your corner, it is going to work wonders. So check that out if you're interested. Have a good one and and remember that everything changes when you believe you matter. And part of you believing you matter is showing up for yourself. You've done it in the past, you can do it now and it does get easier with time. I'll see you on Monday.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1577: Recognise your patterns + f*ck the bullsh*t
When it comes to when our dreamsh*tter turns up, it's not usually as random as we think it is. Today we're diving into recognising our patterns, and doing the damn thing anyway.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So yesterday I finished the sales page for my brand new community program which is starting in May. Now, I haven't shared it publicly really yet, just to the wait list, but if you do fancy a sneak peek, search for the egg emoji in the show notes and you can see it before a lot of other people. But the reason I bring it up today is because finishing putting it all together reminded me of something that I always forget. So Yesterday, me and Mr. Meg were walking home from a coffee shop and thinking out loud about this new thing I'm launching. I asked, what if it’s just a bit shit.
And Mr. Meg looked at me and said, there it is. And I just looked at him and he reminded me that every single time I'm on the finish line to creating any new program, any new product, any new project, I seriously get the wobbles and just seriously doubt myself. I suddenly believe that everything I do is utter shite, that I am somehow hoodwinking people into something. And I completely forget who I am. My experience, my strengths, and my inner dream shitter just takes over. Yet every single time I'm surprised when it happens, I genuinely start to believe the lies that my inner dream shitter tells me. And often it's only when I've gone quite far down the rabbit hole or somebody points out to me do I realize, oh yeah, this is just part of the process.
This is one of my patterns and this is what happens at this stage of things. And I share this today because we've all got our processes. We've all got those times where our dream shitter is the loudest. And when we're doing something that really matters to us, maybe we're starting it or maybe we're coming to the end. That's when our inner dream shitter can really start to take hold. There's this bit in the fabulous book Playing Big by Tara Moore where she talks about how if we feel like we found our calling, we might assume that our inner critic gets less loud. But actually the opposite is true. And sometimes it's even a sign that we're on the right path.
All of this is to say, really question your inner dream shitter question when it shows up and have a think back and see if there are patterns. And around here we are creative and we are great at finding patterns. So use your creativity for good and for your own sake. And this might also be a great conversation to have with loved ones or supportive friends to see if you can help figure out each other's patterns because chances are you've seen them, and we tend to be way more compassionate to other people than we are ourselves. If you're curious what my new community program is all about, and spoiler alert, it has a lot to do with our personal creative projects. Go find the egg in the show notes and go take a peek before anyone else. Here's for seeing our dream shitters bullshit as it is. Just total, absolute bollocks. And here's to finishing things. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1575: Three questions to help you have a more fulfilling week
Together at the start of the week, we’re taking five minutes to set some realistic intentions, put you back in the equation, and help you have a more fulfilling week.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Monday to you. As we start a fresh new week, I thought it might be helpful to look over your week together and work to make it a bit more sustainable and at a pace that gets shit done but doesn't burn you out. So when you think about the things that you have to do this week, it can be helpful to start with looking at where are the gaps and how can you plan for some rest. Now this flies in the face of conventional productivity advice and for good reason, because squeezing in every single thing is a recipe for burnout. Also, as multi passionates and as rebels, we start to rebel against a really tight schedule anyway and we can only be so productive if there's no time for us. So first things first, let's have a look where we're scheduling rest. What are some things that you can say no to? Is there anything put on your calendar by somebody else that really you have no desire to do and no real need to do? Or is there anything that could be an email rather than a meeting? The problem with spaces in our calendar is that we've been taught to fill every available one and that any minute you are available, if there's nothing showing up. But buffer time is important, rest is important, and there is only so much that we can expect ourselves to do in any one day and none of us has unlimited capacity, unfortunately.
So that's the first bit. For the second bit, do you actually know what you need to do this week in order to end the week feeling satisfied, fulfilled and maybe even proud of yourself? It is so easy for the week to be taken up by odds and ends that feel good to scratch off your to do list that might make other people happy, but what are the things that you need to do to feel good at the end of the week? Now this isn't about being as productive as you can, it is just about being really intentional. I think so many of us have had weeks where we get so much bitty stuff done and we end the week feeling absolutely exhausted. But we're also frustrated because we didn't get to the big fuckers. So if you had to choose, what are your three biggest fuckers this week that would feel really good to get done and you would go to bed on Friday night feeling pretty damn proud of yourself. And the last question I have for you is what is the easiest way to get those things done in a way that does honour your current season and your current capacity? Have you made them more complicated than they need to be? And if you weren't worried about anybody seeing your messy process, how would you do it your way? So those are my three helpful questions to help you have a more fulfilling week. To have a week where you get shit done without burning out, and a week where you actually honor your capacity. So to recap, number one, where are you planning in rest? Number two, what are the three things that you really want to intentionally tend to this week? And number three, how can you simplify them and get them done in the easiest way that honors your capacity and the season that you're in? On a Monday, it can be really tempting just to dive in, but I know from so much of my own experience and the wonderful clients I work with that just taking that bit of time, it can be literally five minutes.
To put yourself into the equation, to get intentional can make a massive difference. And Friday you will be really grateful. I hope you have a fabulous start to the week. Remember that it is a marathon and not a sprint and I'll see you back here tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1574: Let’s get real about rewarding ourselves
Whether you’re rewards motivated or not, today’s episode is a reminder that many of us need as we wrap up this week, and head into the weekend.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So I know for me and the fabulous women I work with that we can have a bit of a funky relationship when it comes to rewarding ourselves. For some of us, we are really rewards motivated. For others of us, we know we're just going to do the thing anyway, so it doesn't make a difference. But something I think we can all really grapple with is this idea of what we're deserving of. So as we go into the weekend, which is when for a lot of us, we try and take some time out or do things for ourselves, I wanted to pop in with a bit of a reminder that meeting your own basic needs is not a reward for you doing something. I remember years ago where I would tell myself, right, well, you can go on a walk after you've got this thing done that you've been avoiding. And it took a while for me to realize that that is just really unfair.
My body needs to move. That's not something that I have to earn and that I don't have to live so transactionally. It's also not lost on me the irony that I would probably have a much easier time getting something done after a walk rather than before it. Anyway, if we look at reading and books, including today's lovely sponsor, The Willoughby Book Club, we don't have to earn reading time either. Reading can be great for our nervous systems to put our minds somewhere else for a while, and the idea that we have to work for that is just really hard. So going into this weekend, we remember that you get to relax and chill out if you can, regardless of what remains on your to do list. Even if you had a week where you got fuck all done, that does not mean you have to deprive yourself of everything pleasurable, take care of you, move your body in a way that feels good. Feed your brain with interesting stuff that stimulates your creativity and curiosity, even if it's a guilty pleasure, which is another concept I think is a load of bullshit.
And know that you do not have to work and exchange items crossed off on your to do list in order to do the shit that makes you feel at least half human. Have a great weekend. I hope something unexpectedly delightful happens. I hope you get to have a good walk or you read a good book or whatever you and your body need right now. And I can't wait to share more of my Bulgarian adventures with you on Sunday if you're part of my email community. And I can't wait to share a new episode of the Daily Pep with you next Monday. Have a good one. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1572: Coffee shops, watercolours and getting in the sea
So often we do the brave thing, and then don't give ourselves any credit. So today I'm sharing what we're missing.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday. And a very happy hump day to you. So we have been in Bulgaria for a couple of weeks now, and one of the things I have been loving doing is checking out all of the local coffee shops. I am such a sucker for fairy lights. I seem to really be able to focus when there's a lot of noise around me. And I also just love watching the world go by. And in all honesty, it is much more about the vibe for me than the coffee itself. I've only really started drinking coffee over the past couple of years and it all tastes pretty good to me.
And the reason I'm sharing this with you today is a reminder for all of us that the more we do something, the more we figure out what works for us and what doesn't work for us. I can now describe to you probably for about three hours, which I won't, exactly what I like and what I don't like from a coffee shop down to the most minute details yet. For most of us, when we're starting something new or we're gathering the courage to do something maybe for the first time or for the first couple of times, we put so much pressure on ourselves to figure it all out right away. We might, for example, start watercolor painting and decide on the first go that we're just no good at it. We might not even stop to consider whether we like doing it. We just kind of go in with one big question of is it a yes? Is it a no? And then we kind of move on. But here's where I'm landing. Every time we do something and every time we try something, we're collecting information, we're finding what does work for us, and sometimes even more helpfully, we're finding what doesn't work for us.
And the more we do these things, the closer we're going to get to the things that really light us up. And also it's going to become a whole lot less scary. And I think our world really starts to open up too. So today's daily pep is a rallying cry for taking imperfect action and for figuring out the answers through doing things rather than imagining what something might be like. There is only so much information we can gather about the sea when we are sitting on the side of it, as opposed to when we're in the water. And as frustrating as it can sometimes be, sometimes we just have to get our feet wet. So we went all over the place today. We've talked about coffee shops, we've talked about watercolors and we've talked about getting in the sea.
But I hope there is something in here that gives you the courage to just do the thing, to just try the thing and to add some nuance to whether something is a success or a failure in the form of what information it gives you. So happy hump day. Dip your feet in the water and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1570: You do not have to be someone else's comfort blanket
Popping in with a couple of important and sometimes challenging reminders that I've got a feeling you need to hear as we start this new week!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. I thought it might be helpful to pop in at the start of new week to remind you that it's okay to say no to other people and they're sometimes reasonable or unreasonable requests and demands, and to remind you that you do not have to be somebody else's entire comfort blanket. If you're listening to this podcast, chances are you are an empath with a big heart. You are probably a fixer, and you are probably excellent at helping other people. But you might also be really good at putting yourself last, saying no to yourself and putting everybody else's needs above your own. But the fact that you have needs doesn't make you selfish. It doesn't make you needy. It simply makes you human.
And in a world where if we're socialised as women, it can be so damn hard to remember that. The truth is we have to say yes to ourselves before we say yes to somebody else. And not just because that way we can help more people, which we can and we do have more capacity, but because we matter too. We get to be part of the equation. And as much as it may make us roll our eyes, it is true that the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. And it is really fucking important to tend to it. So take today's episode as a huge permission slip to keep choosing yourself to tell other people you're at capacity if you need to, to remember that it's okay if you're going through a sunny season and a friend is going through a stormy season, both can exist at the same time and never to dull your sparkle to make somebody else feel more comfortable. Whatever today looks like, I hope it's a good one.
Remember that believing that we matter and choosing ourselves and saying no are all muscles that we have to build. And if it takes time and involves a whole bunch of stumbles, that's okay too. I can't wait to see you back here tomorrow. And remember, you are doing so much better than you think you are. I'll see you then.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1569: Choose self-compassion over self-criticism
Sometimes the most counter intuitive advice is the best advice of all. So if you’ve stumbled this week, this one’s for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. is the end of the week. It is so nearly the weekend and we have made it. Now it is fair to say we all have days where we get a lot less done than we wanted to, where we override our very best intentions and end up sticking the TV on or scrolling on our phones rather than working on our creative projects or doing something that we really wanted to do for ourselves. And there are other days where just nothing much is happening and we can't get ourselves to do anything. First of all, I think we have to remind ourselves that we are human having and we all get times like that. And secondly, I think this is a really important part. The way we react to ourselves and the extent to which we maybe catastrophize not doing the thing has a big impact on whether we're likely to do the thing we want to do in the future.
And also our sense of self confidence. The truth is that we all stumble. We all stumble fairly regularly some of the time. We definitely don't live up to our best intentions or the version ourselves we think we were. And the really counterintuitive truth is that if we were able to have more grace and compassion towards ourselves when we stumble, rather than letting it snowball and get away from us, we would probably have a much better time of sticking to our intentions and also being closer to that version of ourselves that we would like to be. I know I've been getting really frustrated with my own energy levels recently and I've realized that I tried to put about 50 hours into one 24 hour period. I have all these wild ambitions for any particular day. I do just one of those things and I'm pretty fucking knackered.
And then I get pretty grumpy. I start to get frustrated at my own body and it just ends up being really unsatisfying. But I found that on the days where I can shrug it off, I tend to have a much better next day. And I can reclaim the day a little bit more than the days in which I kind of set up camp and really give myself a hard time. And I've seen this with so many of the women I work with. Self compassion gets everybody so much further than self criticism. But because we are taught the exact opposite from a young age, and because society doesn't necessarily work like that, it can feel like a ridiculous notion that only turns out to be true when you try it. So as we get to the end of the week, I invite you to choose self compassion over self criticism and to forgive yourself of any stumbles that you've had this week, knowing that if anything, all it makes you is a wonderfully imperfect human like the rest of us.
See if you can spot where your inner dream shitter is absolutely catastrophizing and see if you can get to a place where you can just kind of shrug your shoulders and think shit happens and keep moving forward. And I really do think that action is self compassion's magical twin. If you can keep yourself in motion even with the teeniest tiniest steps and you can do it with some self compassion, then my goodness, you are gonna fly. So that's it for this Friday. I hope you have a fabulous weekend. I hope you practice lots of self compassion, I hope you keep going with the teeny tiny steps, and I hope you remember that you are a wonderfully imperfect human who adds more than you know to the world. I'll see you on Monday back here on the Daily Pep or in your inbox on Sunday. If you're part of my email community where I'll be sharing just how my latest adventure in Bulgaria is really going, you can join that email community by going to therebelrousers.com/letters.
And either way, I can't wait to see you soon. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1568: This pizza analogy can help you honour your seasons
Today’s slightly bizarre pizza analogy is designed to help you honour you needs and seasons, and remind you that you’re doing okay!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, I want to talk about our needs and how we respond to them with a pizza analogy. Now for some of you, it may be way too early in the morning to talk about pizza. For me, there's never a bad time to talk about pizza, so let's dive in. So we all tend to have our favorite pizza toppings. For me, I am all about the barbecue sauce. It is a fuck yes to pineapple and I love all the meats.
That is what I will go for as my kind of default if I'm choosing a pizza. But sometimes I really don't give a shit. I just want the pizza. Other times I just want a really good plain old fashioned margarita. My default is generally a thin crust, but there are definitely times where I'll go for a deep pan and I definitely won't turn down a Detroit style pizza. And other times I'm just not in the mood for pizza. And the reason I'm sharing this, and hopefully it's all going to start to make sense in a minute, is because I think pizzas can be a really helpful way of looking at our own needs and our own lives. So for example, there are some days where it's just life as usual.
We would pick the same toppings that we always go for and we would seriously enjoy it. There are other times when we are just too fucking busy for pizza. Sometimes we just need to go back to basics and make things as simple as humanly possible. And maybe that's our definition of a good life for now. And other times it is a season to get experimental and, and to shake shit up. And the important thing is none of these are better than the other. Obviously we'd like to lessen the hard seasons and make them more bearable. But a good life doesn't have to be the one with all the bells and whistles on it.
In some seasons we may have just a slice of pizza rather than the whole thing or the whole pie. And that can be really, really satisfying too. And sometimes it can be a grab and go slice. We wish we had the time, the space, the energy for the whole thing. And we just have to make do. And it can suck. And I think sometimes where we end up tripping ourselves up is that we feel like if we haven't got time to make the pizza from scratch, make it beautifully with all of our favorite things, then it just doesn't count. And that is absolutely not true.
We set the bar so high for ourselves, that any effort is completely disregarded unless it's the best thing ever. And that is just completely unrealistic and unsustainable. Because life has rhythms. It has seasons. Things change. And that's okay. It can be really fucking frustrating. And it also means that you're not doing anything wrong.
You are human. So whatever kind of a pizza season you're in right now, whether you're enjoying your absolute favorite, whether you're grabbing a bite of somebody else's, or whether you're just thinking, do you know what? Fuck pizza. Know that you're not doing anything wrong. Know that you are definitely doing more than you think you are, that your best is bound to look different on different days. And remember that cold pizza can be really good. Too often we want to savor things in the moment as they happen. And sometimes that just doesn't go according to plan. But that doesn't mean you don't get to enjoy it later.
So try this rather strange analogy on for size for you. Have a think about what's going on in your own life, what you can give yourself grace and compassion for, and what you might want to set aside to enjoy later. And have a good one. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1567: Are you actually counting your successes?
So often we do the brave thing, and then don't give ourselves any credit. So today I'm sharing what we're missing.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It's fair to say around here that we are not the best at giving ourselves compliments, though we are seriously fucking working on it. And as humans, we are hardwired to see what we haven't done versus what we have done. And I think what can end up happening is we can seriously overlook some things that we have achieved because not only do we think we have to do the thing, but we also think we have to be amazing at it as well. Recently, me and Mr. Meg started a new dance class. We went to a Lindy Hop class and let's just say we both have to two pairs of left feet. And when we got home, we were reflecting on it and I was saying, I mark it as a huge success.
We did something new. We were brave for trying it, especially in a new country. And I shared that. I felt proud of myself and asked if Mr. Meg did. And he said that he didn't think it counted because he didn't enjoy it. And I lovingly say, fuck that. If we only count something as a success, if we did it in the first place, if we enjoyed it and we were good at it, not only is that a really tall order, but we're also going to miss out on a ton of successes along the way.
For me with the dance class, whether I liked it or whether I was good at it is very subjective. But the fact that I went, nobody can argue with that. And that in itself is something to be proud of. So often we only give ourselves credit for our effort to if it pays off or the result is really good. And we forget that often it's the actual putting in of the effort that is often the biggest thing and the thing that takes the most courage. So my question for you this hump day is what successes have you had that you have completely overlooked or not even recognized? And how would your life change if your definition of success seriously incorporated your effort and not just the outcome or you recorded the outcome as a separate success? We are way too hard on ourselves and often we don't see how far we've come because we literally don't even recognize or acknowledge the wins we've had when we've had them, because up until now they haven't been wins. Instead, we've put the focus further down the line. So I think it's time to change that.
Let's give ourselves credit where credit is due. And I think you have a lot of overdue credit, my dear. So that's a wrap for today's daily pep. I hope you find some unexpected joy on this hump day. And please remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter. And you really do fucking matter. See you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1565: It’s okay if a hat gets squashed
If you’re not ready for a new week, are feeling overwhelmed, or you’re wondering how on Earth everybody else does it all, then this one’s for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So to kick off this week on the Daily Pep, I wanted to pop in with a reminder that it is okay not to feel ready for this week or not to be ready for another Monday. For so many of us, we live with this really unhelpful myth that everybody but ourselves has everything figured out. Somehow everybody else but us got the memo, and everybody else is doing all of the things all of the time, consistently. They're never dropping any plates. Meanwhile, for us, some of the time we are running round like headless chickens and we are dropping and breaking plates left, right and centre. And I just want to remind you that that is completely normal. To be alive in this time period is to have so much fucking shit to do all of the time that it is no wonder we forget things.
It's no wonder we procrastinate. It's no wonder we put things off. And it's no wonder that sometimes we leave it to the very last minute. And my question for you today is, what if that is simply a reflection of the times rather than some kind of reflection or a character assassination on you as a human being? You are already way too hard on yourself by the fact that you listen to this podcast. I know that you give everybody else in your life so much more grace than you do yourself. And you are doing so much of a better job than you think you are. We all have those lists of things that need doing that needed doing yesterday and six months ago. And sometimes it can feel really, really overwhelming.
And you're seriously not alone in that. There are so many hats that we have to wear to function as a human being in this society, let alone the number of hats that we want to wear as multi passionate and creative people. And it's okay if some of them fall out of the closet sometimes, or if a hat gets squashed the same way. You can't be everything to everyone. You can't do everything all the time. And if you listen to this, this Monday, feeling really fucking overwhelmed, I recommend picking just one or two things to focus on today that you want to knock off the to do list. And if there are any things that have kind of got blaring red sirens, attend to them first. If not, pick the easiest, easiest thing you can do.
Nobody has a picture perfect life or all of their shit together, no matter how much they try and convince you otherwise. And the people that do a really good job of convincing you that they have, chances are they are spending a colossal amount of effort in making it look like they do. So let's use our energy for the things we have to do and the things we want to do. Fuck keeping up appearances. And know that you really are doing a better job than you think you are. Have a good one, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1564: This will make your next Monday better
Today I'm sharing with you a really helpful and easy practice to give your next week's self a compassionate start to the week!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So it is the end of the week, and I reckon a Friday at the end of the week is a great time to somehow give our Monday self a pep talk. I've talked about this idea of your future self on previous episodes of the Daily Pep and I still maintain that we are usually much kinder to our future selves and have more compassion to our future selves than we do our present selves. And the thing about a Friday is that we tend to be done. We might be fresh out of facts, we may be so ready for the weekend, and we may be exhausted. And chances are, the pep talk or the bit of wisdom we would give to our Monday selves, well, we just don't hold back. We know what we need next week and we've just got that clarity. One of the things that we used to do in my now retired signature program One Woman Band Club was every Friday when we gathered to toot our horns, I would invite everybody to write write down a piece of wisdom for their next Monday selves.
And on our call on that following Monday, I would share it with them. And every single time. It was amazing. Just the intuition and the clarity and just how exactly spot on it was. So this Friday I invite you to do it for yourself. It only has to be maximum a line long. It can also be one or two words. Just get still for a second and think about what does Monday you need to hear.
And chances are you know exactly what that is. And part two is you find a way to share that with yourself. Now I find scheduling emails to myself really helpful for this. If you for example, know you're not going to look at your planner or your laptop until Monday, post it note can do a great job. Or you might find a fun alternative way. The important thing is is you get it out of your head. You get it somewhere and you put it somewhere that Monday you will find it. And believe me, we did this for over five years and it never ever stopped being magical.
And we were also always so amazed at how it just completely interrupts you in the dream chitter and just stops some of that Monday panic. Because you're rooted into what is really important. So what does your Monday self need to hear? Don't judge it. Trust what comes up. Find a way to share it with yourself. And go into next week knowing that you've got your own back. I hope whatever you're doing this weekend, you do something for you. You find some unexpected joy and that you remember as always that everything changes when you believe you matter. I look forward to being in your inbox on Sunday if you're part of my wonderful email community, and you can join that by going to therebelrousers.com/letters or back in your lug holes on Monday. Either way, I'll see you then.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1563: Your challenge for today...
This Thursday, I have a teeny tiny challenge for you. I've made it ridiculously simple, and it might just add some creativity and curiosity to your day!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's episode, I have a challenge for you, and I want you to try something new today. Now, you may have a day where you are up to your eyeballs, and I am not trying to add stress to your plate, but I bet there is somewhere that you can add something absolutely minuscule that you've never been before. It could be trying a new route somewhere or going down a street you've never been before. It could be reading a short poem on your lunch break. It could be listening to a track of an artist that you've never ever heard before in your life. And one of the ways I love doing that is by picking a country and having a look at their top 100 songs and just picking one of them. Trying new things is a great way of reminding our brains that we can do new things.
They're not always scary. It's also a great way of getting yourself out of a rut or your routines. And it's also a fabulous way of giving your curiosity and your creativity a jump start. Sometimes it can feel like life can get really small, or we're scrolling and we feel like everything's the same, and we forget that there is this huge, wide world out there full of fascinating things that we have never come across. And sometimes it's things that we might never come across unless we intentionally go looking. I know for me, I tend to play the same two songs on repeat for months. And just jolting yourself out of something that you usually do can be a great way of finding, creating and remembering dreams and things you want to do. And it can also help make us feel a bit more alive, which I think a lot of us are looking for.
So your mission today, if you choose to accept, and I really hope you do, is to try something or do something new. Make it embarrassingly small, and you might just find that it might be your unexpected joy of the day. Have a good one. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1562: Curate your season
Today we're diving into everything intentional living, and the opportunity to curate our own seasons.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So I'm about to embark on our next travel adventure, and it will be the first one where we've taken a flight as opposed to driving across Europe. And my goodness, I. I did not realize just how much I had packed our car to full capacity until I realized just how little you can get in a suitcase. And one of the things that has made me do is really kind of curate what I'm going to focus on during this season. I literally can only take a couple of books. I have maybe five outfits at best, and I've had to be really, really intentional about every single decision I've made. And I think that's something we all have in common around here, that we're trying to build intentional lives.
And sometimes you do have occasions, like this coming trip, where you're kind of forced to curate and edit things down in a way that I think can be really helpful. So for today's episode of the Daily Pep, I thought it could be interesting to spend a bit of time thinking about what kind of a season you're in in your own life or what chapter you're in, like we talked about on Monday, and what's needed for this particular season and chapter. And with many things in life, I've often found reverse engineering and figuring out what I don't want to be incredibly helpful and often gives me more clarity opposed to the blank page of what I do want. So maybe it's about thinking, what do you want to let go of in this season of your life? Or what do you just no longer have room for? It doesn't have to be big. It doesn't have to be profound. It doesn't have to make sense to anybody else but you. But as we're coming into the spring in the northern hemisphere, it can be a really good time to think about what things we want to spring clean, what we want to let go of, and what we are just over now. If not much comes to mind, I invite you to literally think about your suitcase and think about having very little space in there.
Maybe space for a couple of books, a couple of art supplies, and really think about what projects are you excited about right now? What are you intrigued about? What is your capacity at this season of your life and what could bring you joy. So happy thinking, happy curating, and I look forward to back with you tomorrow in what I hope is sunny Bulgaria. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1560: Create your own chapters
Today we're taking back control of our own narratives and our own lives, and getting experimental about our current and next chapters!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So by now you've probably heard of that quote or saying that goes, do it for the plot. And I love that it can really encourage us to go try new things for the sake of it and just go and see what happens. But there are also so many other book metaphors that can make such a difference to our lives. And for me, one of them is thinking about chapters. And we've also heard the other saying that when one door closes, another door opens. And while that's true, there's this kind of air about it where, you know, life happens to us and reframing the things that happen to us. But I think with chapters, there's an opportunity here to really take back control a little bit and also have some fun.
Many of us are big readers around here and we will have read books with the most gigantic chapters that don't seem to end as well as the really micro punchy chapters. There are so many different ways to play with the same form and we get to decide what kind of chapter we're in. And we can decide when we open the chapter and when we close the chapter. So often we use external markers to really carve out the different chapters of our lives. But what if we had our own internal bookmarks? Because there is nothing to say that you can't start a brand new chapter today exactly as you are, no fixing required, and maybe a bit more experimental than the last one. The status quo would say that starting things happens at the start of new year, on your birthday, at the start of a new month, or the start of a new week. And I say fuck that. You can start your new chapter anytime you like.
It can be as long as you like, as short as you like. It only has to work for you. There will definitely be an element of mystery as to what happens in the story, because there always is. But there are some things that you can define and you can choose for yourself. So here's to a new chapter. Here's to really fucking enjoying the one that you're in. Here's to bringing your current chapter to an abrupt halt if you need one. And here's to remembering that you know you best. Have a good one and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1557: It’s not just about time management
Move over time batching, there’s a new b*tch in town!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, I have a practical tip for you. So when it comes to getting shit done, we hear a lot about batching things, and while batching things can be helpful, it If you are an overachiever like me, then it doesn't necessarily always go to plan because my temptation is always to beast mode things, and I also give myself way too much to do. I've spent the past 10 years learning how to work with my brain rather than against it, and I know that batching can tend to lead to burnout for me. But something that is helpful is bundling similar tasks that require a similar type of energy. And bundling can just be two things. It doesn't have to be an endless amount of things. Say you're making a phone call that you've been putting off, do another one you've been putting off at the same time.
For me, for example, recording an episode of The Daily Pep is much better done straight after one of my coaching calls or group programs because I'm already in that brain space. What I found is even though generally speaking, I want to go and slob out on the sofa. It's going to take me 10 times longer later because I've got to ramp myself up and get myself into that headspace again. Whereas while it might feel slightly like an extra lift, it's better to do it in the moment while I'm there instead. This can also work really well if you are somebody who struggles to respond to people, be that friends, loved ones, or colleagues. And having a 15-minute sprint where you just get back to as many people as you can in 15 minutes can often save you a lot more energy than if you build up to one at a time over a period of, say, a week. What I'm trying to say here is it's about energy management, not just time management. It's not necessarily about efficiency and saving time as much as it is limiting the time that we spend resisting doing things.
And taking advantage of building ourselves up, going with the energy when it's there, rather than it becoming yet another thing that you dread doing. So here's to bundling, not batching, unless batching works for you. And if you're curious about your own processes and want to understand them a bit more, and you want to find out why some things are harder for you than other things, and your own patterns when it comes to places you thrive and places you struggle My Rebel Archetype Assessment is designed to help you do just that. It is a genuinely helpful tool. It's also really fun. I thoroughly enjoyed adding some Dolly GIFs, and it might just be the confidence boost you didn't know you needed today. So if you don't already know your Rebel Archetype, you can go find it by going to therebelrousers.com/quiz and enjoy nerding out over your own brain. Have a good one, happy hump day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1555: Acknowledge what you're doing right
As we head into a new week, we're going to set the record straight on our inner dreamsh*tters!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday and a very happy start to the new week. Now, if you got all of us in a room together and asked us what we were struggling with, the answers would be plentiful. For some of us, it is managing our time and energy. For others, it's getting going and just getting shit done. And I think many of us struggle with a very loud inner dreamshitter, because I know if again in that same room I asked us all what we're doing right, the answers wouldn't be quite as forthcoming, and it would take a while to get there. And there are so many reasons for that. That is not a you thing, it's an all of us thing. Because our brain has a negativity bias, it tries to keep us safe, and we tend to keep hold of any criticism, constructive or not, way longer and way tighter than any compliment.
So as you're going about your day today and maybe thinking about a fresh week and maybe a habit that you're working on or something you want to start, I want you to stop for a second and think about the things that you are doing right. Maybe a habit you built that you built ages ago and now take for granted. Maybe something you started and something you've done that you've completely forgotten about. And the areas of life that don't need huge drastic improvements. For all of us, probably in every aspect of our life, we have these little tiny improvements we can make. Sometimes big improvements or big areas of construction are needed, and that is perfectly normal. But look at everything that you have done. We're not so great at doing that.
It is so easy to look at the future and look at the gap between where we are right now and where we want to go and focus on just how massive that gap is. But rarely do we stop and look at just how far we've come. You might not be where you want to be. That's okay. I think that's also part of personal development. Sometimes the more connected we are with ourselves and the more we grow and the more we are into personal development, we see how far we'd really like to go, and that's okay too. I just think sometimes it is worth taking a bit of a pit stop and looking behind you and allowing yourself to maybe even feel a bit proud of where you've come from and let yourself motivate you and inspire you on the path ahead. So here's acknowledging all the things you have got right.
Here's to knowing that if you can't see them right now, it doesn't mean there are none. It maybe means that your inner dream shitter is louder than normal. And if that is the case, remember that your dream shitter spouts absolute bollocks and will say whatever lie it needs to, to keep you safe and to stop you from doing the scary thing. Truth is very rarely relevant. So I hope you have a fabulous start to your week. I hope you find some wonderful pockets of joy, and I can't wait to be back with you as always tomorrow morning. Have a good one.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1554: Go on a wonder hunt
To wrap up this week on The Daily Pep!, I have some very human homework to invite some light in.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So to wrap up this week's Daily Pep, I thought I would share a quote with you that really resonated with me and is something that I think a lot of us just need to hear and think about as the world feels the way it does right now. So I've recently got into the novels of Catherine Ryan Hyde, and there's one passage in her fabulous novel 'Have you seen Luis Velez?' that really struck a chord, and it's this: 'The world is terrible and wonderful at the same time. One doesn't negate the other, but the wonderful keeps us in the game. It keeps us moving forward.' And if you're anything like me and the fabulous women I get to work with, shit has felt heavy lately, which is the biggest understatement ever. But the reason I love that quote is because it doesn't bullshit us. If you've been around here a while, you'll know all too well that I think "good vibes only" is toxic as fuck, and yet we do need to find a way to keep going. And holding those two things in our hands at once, and having it as a "yes, and" rather than an "or" or invalidating one of them, can feel incredibly complicated.
But it is one of the most helpful things we can do, and I think we are definitely, whether we like it or not, getting used to living in the nuance. I am a firm believer that joy is an act of rebellion, and that one of the things that we have to do as humans going through this is fight as hard as we can to retain some sense of wonder, some sense of awe, and to remember that there are good bits. Like the quote says, one does not negate the other, but it is the wonder that keeps us in the game and in moving forward, and I think many of us need a bit of a wonder treasure hunt right now. The messy thing about being human is that we have to find a way to hold grief and pure rage in the same hand as joy and wonder is part of what actually helps us stay human. So that is your very human homework for this weekend. I want you to go and find some wonder. That could look like spending time with people who light you up, intentionally doing something that really makes you smile for no other reason than it makes you smile, or go spend some time with some baby things if you can, whether that's baby flowers, baby humans, baby animals, And remember that life can be pretty fucking incredible, it can just be hard to remember it sometimes. Have a hopeful weekend, look for the wonder, and I'll be back with you on Monday, in your ears as usual for another episode of the Daily Pep, or in your inbox if you're part of my fabulous email community, where I'm sharing all of the behind-the-scenes stuff about my upcoming trip to Bulgaria.
And if you want to join me on that journey, you can join the email community by going to the link in the show notes or by going to therebelrousers.com/letters. Either way, I'll see you then. And remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter.
Episode transcript automatically produced by Castmagic.io
ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1553: A tip for all us people pleasers
Today I'm sharing something simple you can do that might feel a bit uncomfortable at the time, but your future self will be seriously grateful for.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, we are celebrating the power of the pause. In a world where everything has to be instantaneous and everything is so reactive, where we feel like we have to have got everything done yesterday and we have to have the right answer at the right time, I just want to remind you that in most cases you are able to, and it probably is best, to take a pause. It can be so easy to forget to check in with ourselves, only to agree to things we really wish we didn't say yes to, and then have to spend even more time trying to get out of it. Or dreading having to go to the thing itself. The same is hard conversations. I have a rule where I don't answer the phone, I don't answer a message if I'm angry, and I will sit on it for a bit. And all too often we feel like we have to work to everybody else's timescale and forget that we can just give ourselves a second.
Things like, "I'll let you know," "I'll get back to you on that," "Let me have a think," are all are absolutely valid responses, but if we're people pleasers, they tend not to be the first thing that comes to mind, and it does take a bit of practice, and it can be a little bit uncomfortable to begin with. Also, remember that "I'm at capacity" is also a perfectly valid response, and not everybody has equal access to your precious time and energy. So here's to reinstating the pause. Here's to checking in with yourself first before you agree to something, and here's to knowing that your response and how you feel is perfectly valid. You don't have to become a pretzel for other people, and sometimes a slightly uncomfortable no saves you a fuckload of time and stress further down the line. Have a fabulous rest of your day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
MORE REBEL-ROUSING THIS WAY!