1679: Meeting yourself where you're at vs mental gymnastics
If you find yourself turning moment into an opportunity for self-flagellation, this one's for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So for me, as it comes to the end of the week, I am feeling knackered. And what I realize about myself and also a lot of the women I work with is that if we are people who tend to push ourselves pretty hard When we feel exhausted, rarely do we just think, okay, I'm feeling exhausted, I need to take care of myself. We immediately start going through a mental checklist of whether we are justified in how we feel. It doesn't take long until we're arguing with ourselves that actually we shouldn't feel this tired because we didn't even do XYZ, and instead of meeting ourselves where we're at and tending to where we actually are, We just get so much harder on ourselves, and we also spend so much extra precious time and energy on the mental gymnastics. Now, many self-help books will say that this is simply a mindset issue, but I think this goes so much deeper into systems of oppression, into all of the bullshit ways that we're taught we have to show up in the world, and it is not as easy as just turning it off or thinking brighter thoughts. But if we could take where we are at face value, we might be a hell of a lot kinder to ourselves. Around here, we are curious, we love to know the why, and sometimes it is about not needing to analyse every single one of our thoughts and being okay that we're tired because we're tired and letting it be as simple as that.
I know that I could spend a good hour on a list of reasons why I, quote, should be as tired as I am, and a list of reasons why I shouldn't be, and all the things I didn't get done. But it doesn't really get me anywhere, and actually, if I took that same amount of time and just slowed down and did something nice for myself, well, I think that is a much better use of time. But for so many of us, if we're not beating ourselves up, we think that we must be doing something wrong, and I want to call absolute bullshit on that. Whatever you did or didn't do this week is not a reflection of your value or your worth as a human being. Unlike near enough everything you will see around you, your value is not dependent on how productive you are. And you might just be tired because you're tired, and life is a lot. So see if you can go into this weekend giving yourself grace for where you are, rather than arguing with yourself or bargaining with yourself about how you should feel. And maybe simply ask yourself the question, what do you need right now? And listening to the answer, even if it doesn't make sense.
I hope you are kind to yourself this weekend. I hope you find some unexpected joy, and I can't wait to be back with you on Sunday if you are part of my Letters of Rebellion community. And you can find out more about that by going to therebelrousers.com/letters or clicking the link in the show notes. I'll be back here as usual bright and early on Monday morning. Take care and remember, everything changes when you believe you matter.
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Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1678: Chances are you need to hear this
Today I'm sharing something we all know logically, but I know I need to hear it again, and again, and I figured you might too.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So I'm popping in with you today with something that I have to remind myself a lot. I know I've probably shared it a couple of times here on the Daily Pep, but I think it bears repeating and is perhaps exactly what you need to hear today. And that is that it's okay to not know all the answers. Now, I'm not gonna lie, I spend a good portion of my life trying to figure out all the answers and picking something up and looking at it from every single angle. And the thing I act completely surprised at every single time is the fact that things often have a funny way of working out that you couldn't have predicted even if you tried. And believe me, I try. But the thing is, and I know we both know this logically, that there are many things that we literally can't know in advance because the information isn't there, or, and this is a lot of the time, there is no one right answer, and we can just make our own best guess with what we've got at the time, remembering that how we feel is as important as the facts.
So whatever your week is looking like, whatever you've got on your plate, whatever you're dealing with, I want to share a kind reminder that it's okay not to know all the answers. Sometimes it's not even possible, but that doesn't undo the fact that you are one wise, brave motherfucker, that you can and do make good decisions. And we also have to remember that sometimes we worry about things almost prematurely, That don't even end up being problems. So from one creative brain that tends to get quite carried away to yours, it is okay that we don't know the answers to everything, and that doesn't mean we're doing anything wrong. And let's see if we can buy back and reclaim some of the headspace and the time that we do spend trying to figure everything out and give ourselves a shitload of compassion. I don't know about you, but when I'm asked that question about whether I wish I had a crystal ball, I really, really don't want one. But my goodness, sometimes it would be handy. And maybe if we did have one, we would actually be more delighted and surprised than we thought.
Have a great rest of your Thursday. Remember, you're doing so much better than you think you are, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1677: Listen to the curious nudges
Today I'm sharing something that's really helping my creative resistance, and I think it might really help yours too!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So one of the things I've wanted to work on for quite some time now is my writing. I want to get sharper at it, I want to do it more, and believe me when I tell you I've got the books, I've got the courses and I know what to do. But oftentimes having what we need to have and knowing what we need to do does not make the thing done. And I want to share with you something that I'm doing this week that has just cracked a lot of things wide open as a reminder to leave room for the unexpected. So this weekend I was randomly just scrolling through Substack. It's not really important where I was looking, and I came across this series of writing prompts that the writer was releasing every week. And there was just simply part of my brain that thought, hmm, that looks interesting.
So this week I just decided, fuck it, let's give it a go. And I've probably done more work on my actual writing this week in terms of the craft than I have in a long time, even though I haven't actually spent that much time doing it. And I think what really helped is finding something that didn't already have existing pressure. It wasn't a course that I'd already put huge high hopes on. It wasn't a book or something from a writer that is absolutely on a pedestal for me, and it was enough curiosity to just think, do you know what, I'll just give this a go. And I think that's often what we need. I know I can put so much pressure on stuff, and my creative resistance often looks like perfectionism, and I get caught up in the best thing that I could learn from. But if you can catch your brain off guard a little bit And maybe if you leave a bit of room for the unexpected, you might find exactly what you've been looking for, and that doesn't come with all of the weighted stuff that other things sometimes can.
I know for a fact that if I was to look up a kind of guided year-long writing thing with prompts, I would probably still be trying to figure out which was the best one come next Christmas. But because my brain was half interested, because I hadn't planned it, And because there's a huge part of me that knows I really do want to work on this stuff, it just took away a lot of the self-sabotage and a lot of the creative resistance. So this is to say, keep an eye out for opportunities that you might not have considered, lean into those curious nudges, and know that whatever gets you started is what gets you started.
Now don't get me wrong, there is part of my brain, definitely my inner dreamshitter, which is jumping 50 steps ahead and wondering whether this is going to be something I stick to, whether it's sustainable, whether it's just going to be something else I forget, etc., etc., etc. But what I have to remember is that right now it doesn't fucking matter. What matters is I'm doing the thing that I wanted to do, and that I'm enjoying it, and that gets to be enough. So here's to finding something weird and wonderful that's to do with something you wanted to do, That allows you to do it without the pressure, that invites the fun back in, and also remembering you don't need to know how it turns out, and you can go with how it feels in the moment. Happy hump day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1675: Let's make Mondays a bit brighter!
It's that time of the year where we're supposed to be taking it easier, but that can be so hard with busy brains like ours. So today I've got a prompt to help us!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers,and a very happy Monday to you. So in my own life and also here on the Daily Pep, I'm starting to think a bit more seasonally and get a bit curious about how we can really establish our own rituals and routines based on the literal seasons and also based on the different seasons that we have in our own lives. And I thought it could be interesting to start with to think about how we approach a Monday, because for many of us, Mondays don't necessarily have the best connotations. We might think about going back to work, we might think about how we used to feel knowing it was school the next day when we were younger, there might be pressure to make this next week amazing, or it could be a bazillion other different things. And I think this is where it gets exciting because we get to take back control. And you get to have a ritual or a routine on a Monday that you really like and changes the way you think about a Monday. And I'm going to give you some examples of what I mean, because I don't mean huge sweeping changes, just things that maybe can help you romanticize your life a little bit, make things a bit more joyful, or get you out of a rut. So Monday could be about going a different route to somewhere you always go to.
And trying to figure out a different way to get there each Monday. It could be about declaring that Mondays are not for sorting life admin out. You do no life admin on a Monday unless it is absolutely urgent, and you get a bit rebellious and reclaim Monday as a day where you're also allowed to do nice things for yourself and not just sort everything out. It could be that you try a new recipe on a Monday It could be that you phone a certain friend, but what I'm trying to really say is that it doesn't have to be a big thing. And when I say about doing something nice for you on a Monday, I don't mean saying fuck it to all your obligations. Not many of us have that luxury. But maybe knowing that you don't have to tack everything onto a Monday, knowing that Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday you will still be getting shit done. So this Monday, I invite you to have a think about what comes up for you when you think about a Monday, and what could make it more joyful, Interesting, less depressing if you find it depressing, whatever you need it to be.
It's so easy for life to become very same old, same old. And also remember that we do have power to change things. So give it food for thought, perhaps especially if you're resisting this a little bit because perhaps you're not sure where you would start. And know that starting tiny is the whole point. We are not trying to create an entirely new project. We're trying to do something that is sustainable and easy for you to do and make your life a bit brighter. So happy thinking, happy Monday, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1674: Remember short bursts exist
Today I'm reminding you that you don't have to have hours and hours available to get sh*t done!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So this week on the Daily Pep, we have been focusing on getting back to our usual or new routines after the summer, not overhauling our entire systems And not falling into black and white thinking that we either get everything done or we don't bother. And I want to wrap up this week by sharing something that I know you know, but might be something that we are both fairly good at forgetting. And that is the fact that you can get more than you think you can done in a short amount of time.
So often we convince ourselves that we need massive, massive expanses of time In order to get anything done, but for lots of different things, especially what I refer to as little fuckers, you don't need an entire afternoon, and you can probably get some of them done in 10 minutes. I think we have all been there where we have put off and put off and put off doing something, and by the time we do it, we curse ourselves because it took no more than 10 minutes, but it has taken up so much of our brain space And I'm saying a huge fuck that because I want to reclaim both of our brain space for more fun and creative things. I know sometimes when I'm working on a big project, I can get way more done in more frequent short bursts than on some days where I just sit and stare at the laptop. Yet I get completely frustrated when I just sit and stare because I forget there are so many different options available.
So as we wrap up the week, I'm reminding you that there are definitely alternatives out there, that short and sweet is often a lot kinder to our brains, and that you can do the tiny fuckers. I hope this week has been a good one for you. I hope you have some unexpected joy this weekend, and I can't wait to be back with you bright and early on Monday morning as usual, or in your inbox on Sunday if you're part of my fabulous email community called Letters of Rebellion. It's where I share my most vulnerable stuff that I'm learning when it comes to building a life that I love. I try and make it as helpful and as colorful as possible, and if you're not over there, I think you're really gonna like it. You can join us by going to therebelrousers.com/letters. And whether I see you on Sunday or Monday, happy Friday and happy weekend.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1673: All or nothing is bullsh*t
When you're getting back into a routine or trying to get your sh*t together, it's so easy to think you have to do everything RIGHT NOW. Today I'm calling BS.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. I was giving myself and you a firm reminder that you do not need to overhaul all your systems even though it is the start of September and the start of pencil case season and new notebook season. And today's episode is a bit of an extension of that because I want to remind you that not everything has to get done right now. Now I get that you may have deadlines, you may have things that have very real-world consequences if they don't get done, but I'm not talking about individual projects. I'm talking about the need that a lot of us have at this time of the year, or when we're trying to, quote, get our shit together, to do absolutely everything Which can sometimes lead to black and white thinking that if we can't do everything, what is the point in doing anything? Which we know is bullshit, but sometimes it's bullshit that we would rather believe, because sometimes it is nice to say fuck it. But sometimes you can also say fuck it, I will do what I can, what is reasonable and kind to expect of myself, and what I can't get done, fuck it. It doesn't have to be all one way or all the other way. And realistically, it is very, very unlikely that you actually need to do all of the things at this exact moment.
So I hope this takes a bit of the pressure off today, and if you are struggling to get shit done, whether that's shit you have to do, fun shit you want to do, or things that you struggle to show up for but really want to show up for, next week my Pop-Up Coworking Club is returning with a September reset theme. So if you fancy getting your bum in the chair and getting some shit done with me and a lovely group of like-minded creative and multi-passionate women, I would love to invite you to join us. And you can check it all out by going to therebelrousers.com/resetpopup. That's all one word. And I've also put the link in the show notes as well. We're going to be gathering together weekdays online at 11 AM UK time, which is 6 AM New York time. To get some shit done with good company and some compassionate accountability. Whatever your first week of September looks like, I hope you are being as kind to yourself as you would be to a very loyal friend, and I also hope you remind yourself that transitions are just kind of awkward, and that's okay. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1672: You probably don't need a whole new system
Creative resistance can be one sneaky trickster, so today's episode is an attempt to keep it at bay!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So it's the start of September, it is officially that back-to-school feeling, and I know for many of us, even if we fucking hated school, we still get that itch to buy the new notebooks and pencil case, everything. And there's almost this temptation to do everything in this whole new way. Now, I love a fresh new leaf feeling. I am not trying to shit all over that, but I'm sharing with you today something that I need to remember as I get really excited to go back to projects and as I get back into things. And I know these are the words I need to hear: you do not need a new fancy system. You just kind of need to get on with it. Yes, there's room for improvement, but you can do quite a lot with what you've already got.
You do not need to go through every single file on your laptop. You do not have to have some massive organizational overhaul. While it might feel good at first, it will become really fucking overwhelming pretty quickly, and you'll realize that that was just a procrastination method, and you'll be even more tangled than when you started. Now, there are definitely times to overhaul your organization and your systems, but you can also be intentional about doing that. I know my temptation is to start on an evening a task that is mammoth, only to use up all my energy, be so much more overwhelmed than when I started, and just end up in a right pickle. So remember that your systems have got you this far, even if this far isn't how far you want to go. Remember that what you've got is good enough, and remember that procrastination and creative resistance can take many, many forms. And one of those many forms lies in things that look very productive on the surface but aren't really.
I hope this has saved somebody from going through their entire inbox and implementing a new system, from doing a sweep of every single file or your folder system in Dropbox or Google Drive. And I really hope this helps somebody use their precious energy for the things that might feel scary but are the things they actually want to do. And believe me, I am trying to take my own advice. So from this Type A overachiever, let's reserve our energy for the things that actually matter. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1671: New leaves involve new wobbles (and that's okay)
Today I'm sharing a gentle reminder ahead of pencil case season!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday and a very happy beginning of September to you. It is great to be back after the summer holidays, and I thought I would start with a reminder a lot of us need to hear, because while the summer can be fabulous, it can also be weird. It can contain a lot of emotions. It also tends to really throw us off our routines. And I know for me, I love September for that new pencil case feeling, the start of a school year, the freshness, the ability to change things up. But I also know that sometimes I go into it so fast, expecting so much of myself, that I just crash and burn. One of the things I don't think many of us were taught is how to navigate transitions. And for so many of us Type As, we not only expect ourselves to come out of the gate swinging, but doing the best swinging we have ever done in our lives.
So this is my frustrating and hopefully not too patronising reminder to pace yourself, to remember that not everything needs to be done this week, to expect some wobbles because they are part of the process, not you doing anything wrong, and it's okay if there are growing pains. For many of us, we are going from one very distinct season to the next, and it's a bit like with the New Year, we're expected to go from chilling out and enjoying ourselves to becoming a brand new person, while in August we're supposed to chill the fuck out, squeeze all the last drops out of the summer, and then September, be powered up like a Ferrari and ready to go. It very rarely happens like that, and that is totally normal. So here's to a gentler and maybe wobblier week than you might be expecting. Here's to expecting that and letting that take some of the pressure off. And here's to bringing some of the summer fun with us into this next season, knowing that you are capable of epic things and you're also capable of treating yourself exquisitely while you do it. It is so good to be back. I can't wait to see you tomorrow. And have a fabulous rest of your Tuesday. Bye.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1649: Taking a break before you need to
We all need rest, but sometimes it can be hard to take, so for today’s episode we’re diving into preventative rest vs recovery.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Lately it feels like we are in the absolute height of the summer, and I don't know about you, but I know I need a little bit of a break. In order for anything to be sustainable you need to build in rest points, and I'm really excited to take August that bit slower and that bit gentler. So for the month of August, rather than releasing new episodes, I'm going to be sharing some of my favourite episodes of The Daily Pep while I take a quick break. And I just wanted to share 2 things with you before I do. Firstly, I'm so grateful you're here. I love the fact that often without even knowing it, me and my podcast get to go on walks all around the world I get to accompany you doing the dog walk, making the bed, waking up in the morning, and I am so honoured that you tune in. And it is honestly such a privilege, if not a bit wild to think about.
So thank you for being here. I love being a part of your day. And secondly, I just want to remind you to take a break before you have to take a break. I know for so many of us, we have a very complicated relationship with rest. And many of us will just work until depletion because that's just how we've grown up, and that's what society kind of trains us to do. And the idea of preventative rest or restorative rest can feel a bit uncomfortable, but it is very, very necessary. As I have said many, many times on The Daily Pep, you do not have to earn rest. And I know for many of us, we would choose rest over recovery any day of the week, And sometimes that involves doing uncomfortable things.
After all these years, I still feel a little bit uncomfortable about taking August off, but then I remember I have to practice what I preach. So thank you for being here. Here's to resting, not just recovering, and I look forward to being back with you with new episodes in September, where I will be getting ready for a new chapter in my life because we are moving back to Liverpool. We are ending our long-term travel experiment, and we are very excited. I share the very real behind-the-scenes wins and wobbles every Sunday with my email community, so if you would like to keep in touch in the meantime, if you want to hear my hard-won wisdom as I win it, and if you just want some more joy in your inbox with my very colourful emails, head over to therebelrousers.com/letters and come join us. I would love to have you there. So happy Friday, have a fabulous weekend. Past Meg will be back with you on Monday for an episode of The Daily Pep as normal, and I look forward to being back with you with brand new episodes in September.
See you then, and remember, even though I'm sure past Meg will remind you a lot, that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1648: On camping, cakes and procrastination
Now, it'll become pretty obvious I don't know a huge amount about camping; but I do know a lot about procrastination. So that's exactly what we're diving into today!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So I don't know about you, but when it comes to a lot of things in life, I like to know all the answers. When it comes to a project I'm working on, I want to know exactly how to describe it. When it comes to a big life change, I want to know that it is definitely going to happen. And as all of us know all too well, life very rarely comes with bows on, and things are rarely served in perfect pristine packaging. Now this sounds like it could get a bit grim and become a bit of an anti-pep talk, but we are going the other way with this one because I think it can actually be really freeing when we start to realize that actually in most scenarios the very best we can do is a good enough job and make some educated guesses. I know in my own life I have spent a lot of time trying to find the right packaging for something, or waiting for something to be 100% true or 100% certain to move on, and I have to say it's never been time very well spent. Sometimes I think we just have to move on to the next step With the best attempt that we've got, and remember that in most situations that will very much suffice.
It's a bit like putting up a tent. You could spend days making sure that the tent pegs were in at the perfect angle. You could get out your compass and make sure that you were in the perfect direction for the sun to be streaming on your face when you woke up. And I'm showing my lack of tent knowledge here because I'm sure there's many other things that you could do with a tent, but really what you need to have is something that is stable, that you can sleep under, that doesn't fall down, and that does its job. And I think the camping experience would be very much wasted if you spent your entire time trying to get the perfect tent pitch. Now, if you fucking love the outdoors and that sounds like your perfect weekend, by all means go for it, and maybe insert a cake analogy in here instead and think about making a cake When you're hungry, as opposed to the most delicious cake in the world. But I think either way, whether you love the outdoors, whether you love camping or not, whether you love a cake, I think you get the gist. The thing is, our dream shitters are sneaky bastards, and they will have you putting up the tent over and over and over again, because while you are putting up the tent, you're not moving on to the next thing, and you're not doing the scary thing.
It is so easy and so tempting to spend so much time in the research phase, but I think we all know when research turns into procrastination. Trust yourself to make good decisions. Trust yourself that you have your own back, and some of the answers are things that you could only figure out on the way. And dare to do things imperfectly, because newsflash and reminder for all of us, Perfection doesn't exist anyway. So go take some action today, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1647: A ship in the harbour is safe, but…
Is that where she’s meant to be?
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It is halfway through the week and I am popping in with a reminder that whenever you are trying something new out, whether it is starting something new for the first time, whether it is putting something into practice like setting boundaries. Or it is simply trying something on for size or experimenting, it is normal for things to feel shaky and wobbly. That is definitely part of the process, but so much of the stuff we see out there makes everything look so much easier and simpler than it is, and when we quite naturally come across hurdles, or it's a bit bumpier or wobblier than we thought, we immediately think that we're doing something wrong, that we haven't got the knack for something, And it is all too easy to give up, especially as we all have a very, very cruel inner dream shitter that is often rooting for us to fail and give up, because that is its job, to keep us safe. There was a choir that I used to be a part of, and we would sing this song based on a really well-known quote, and it just feels really pertinent to share that today, and it is this: A ship in the harbour is safe and still, but that is not where it's meant to be, for she is made of timber strong to sail in the open sea. So that is something I really want you to take with you into today. While I certainly don't believe that life begins at the edge of your comfort zone, because I do believe that comfort is important, we cannot always stay in the harbour. And when we do leave the harbour, It is okay if the sea is a bit choppy because that is how it is supposed to be. Your wobbles, your unsteadiness, your mistakes— what if they are simply a sign of sailing rather than a sign of failing? And there we have it, we had a bit of a rhyme we didn't know was going to happen today.
Whatever new thing you're doing or thinking of doing or testing out, Don't write yourself off too quickly, and remember that your future self really is rooting for you. Happy Hump Day, and I can't wait to be back with you tomorrow, or in your inbox a bit later today if you are part of my email community, where every Wednesday I send out a really fun eclectic roundup called Wildcard Wednesday of things that I've found that I'm really enjoying, that are really helping me, and and things that might really help you build a life you love. And if you don't already get them and you want to, sign up to therebelrousers.com/letters. It is, of course, free, and I can't wait to share this week's with you. Have a good one, and remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1645: What can you put into maintenance mode?
It's that time of the year where we're supposed to be taking it easier, but that can be so hard with busy brains like ours. So today I've got a prompt to help us!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So at the time of recording this, it is summertime. So whether you're listening to this in the summer or any other time of the year and you just need a bit of a break, this one is Now, our heads can tend to be a bit all or nothing. We're either doing something and seriously doing it, or we're not doing it at all. And today I want to remind you that maintenance mode exists. And maintenance mode is essentially just doing the bare minimum that you need to do to keep something ticking over. And to use a car metaphor, basically maintenance mode is idling. You're not putting any pressure on the pedal, you're not really moving anywhere, but also you're not stopping and turning it off either.
It's just kind of running in the background. So today, as you listen to this, I want you to think about what areas of your life, what projects big or small, and what things can just be put on maintenance mode or put on the back burner and picked up at another time. All too often we think everything is urgent and important right now, and not all of it is. And for many of us, we just simply can't rest unless we've done it all. But the truth is that you just can't do it all, not at the same time anyway. And it's also simply not sustainable to be go, go, go all the time. So today, have a look at what's on your plate and what is actually really important right now. What can you put into maintenance mode? And is anything been there for a long time, it hasn't been done, there are no real consequences, and you can kind of just say fuck it and just knock it off the list completely? Let's be a bit kinder to ourselves.
Let's give ourselves a bit of a break. And let's give ourselves a massive reminder that our self-worth is never ever defined by what we do. And we are human beings, not human doings. Happy Monday. I hope you have a fabulous week, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1644: A very specific pep talk
We're rounding off this week with a very specific pep talk around an area of building a life you love that gets too little attention!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So I have a very specific pep talk for you to round off this week, and it is to lovingly and fiercely protect your enthusiasm. As creatives and multi-passionates, we tend to have a lot of enthusiasm and passion for things, and we can't help but want to share things. But sometimes it's in the very act of sharing that we can feel really shot down. If we're also empaths, which a lot of us are, if somebody doesn't match our enthusiasm level, that can feel like a real blow. And sometimes people can be very well-intentioned and still be dream-shitters, projecting their own fears onto us, and our curiosity and our excitement can be met with concern, and sometimes people simply don't get it, and it makes us feel like we're too much, or it can just leave us feeling a bit disheartened. So my pep talk for you today is to be really intentional about who you share your ideas with, and who you share your good news with first. And a good rule of thumb can be to acknowledge and celebrate and just spend time with and percolate on the idea or the win or the news with yourself and give yourself that moment, because that way it doesn't sting quite as much if you don't get the feedback or reaction you were hoping to from somebody else.
And your excitement is precious, and you get to tend to it and enjoy it for a bit. Know that other people's reactions are usually way more or just completely about them than it is than you. Know that it's okay if you do feel sad because the people in your life that you'd love to celebrate and share with don't necessarily match your energy or share in your excitement. And really keep hold of those who do and really enjoy their energy. I hope you have a weekend as fabulous as you are. I hope you stay cool, and if you've been meaning to but you haven't joined my fabulous email community, now is a great time to do it as I'm really sharing behind the scenes in real time decisions and wobbles of my next chapter and all the things that are really helping me along the way. And you can get in on that by going to therebelrousers.com/letters. Take care and remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1642: Embrace the wobbles
Even though we hate it, frustration and impatience are often part of the process, and not a sign you're doing anything wrong. That's exactly what we're diving into on today's episode of The Daily Pep!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It is midweek, so I wanted to pop in with a pep talk around being uncomfortable. So every week for the past 12 years, I send out an email to my fabulous email community on a Sunday called Letters of Rebellion, and in it I very much share my own behind-the-scenes journey and the vulnerable wobbly bits of building a life I love. And a couple of weeks ago I was sharing about how frustration and impatience are just part of the journey. I was talking about how as I get back from Bulgaria and we're closing a chapter on our long-term travel, all of the question marks are just really uncomfortable, and I shared the following, and I thought it might be helpful to share it with you today. So much of building a life you love is uncomfortable. There are so many questions, so many directions you could take. It can be a logistical shit show, and it can feel overwhelming because it is overwhelming.
So if you're uncomfortable, know that it's not because you're doing something wrong, and chances are it's because you are in the thick of it. Building a life you love takes a lot of honesty, a lot of heart-to-hearts with yourself, and a lot of sometimes hard questions, and a lot of percolating. And for those of us Type A multi-passionates who want the answers right now, it also takes a shitload of patience. But getting impatient and getting frustrated is one of the steps on the journey, and for me and many of my coaching clients, it's a helpful place, even if it's not a particularly joyful one. Because it's often when you're sick of waiting and figuring things out that something tends to happen, either by a bit of a fuck it moment, Awesome magical synchronicity. So, if you're listening to this right now and you can hard relate, hang in there, keep tolerating the discomfort, as frustrating as it can be, and know that you really are getting somewhere. The wobbles are often part of the process, even if we're taught in all the films that it is supposed to feel absolutely magical. I know for me, getting to know that bit unlocked so much because it suddenly felt like, okay, I'm not doing everything wrong.
So that was something I shared with my lovely email community a couple of weeks ago. I figured that you probably need to hear it today. And if you're not already part of my email community, come on over. It is a really fun place. Your invite is waiting for you over at therebelrousers.com/letters. And on Wednesday, I do something that is particularly fun called Wildcard Wednesday, and I send out Roughly about 5 things that I found that week, or I've been really enjoying lately, that have added to my life in some way, that have made me think, have made me laugh. And it's just a really fun, eclectic roundup of weird and wonderful shit that I know you'll love too. So if you wanna add some realness and some weirdness to your inbox, I really invite you to come and join us.
And if you too right now are wanting all of the answers and they're not coming, I know it is really fucking frustrating, but let's remember that the frustration and impatience is part of the journey, even if we wish it wasn't, and it's also a sign of progress. Have a good one, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1640: Being flexible with the season you're in
If you're resisting the current season you're in, or you wish you were in another one, today's pep talk is all about giving yourself some grace, and some much needed flexibility.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So I am back in the UK. I took a bit of a longer break than I planned to, and I am back with a message about flexibility, which I know I probably need more than you do. So we tend to be rebels, we tend to really value flexibility, but sometimes it can be really hard to be flexible with ourselves. For whatever reason, lately I've been struggling a lot with my blood sugars and just exhaustion, and I've really noticed just how harsh I'm being on myself and also how much I just want to know all the answers. But I've noticed that that is just taking more of my energy, and if I was to accept that maybe this is a season where I need to be more flexible with myself, I think not only would I be a lot kinder to myself, it probably would be a much more enjoyable season as well. I speak a lot about cyclical living and living in seasons, and sometimes it's just really hard when we resist the season we're in, and it can take courage to look at what the actual season is if you wish you were in another one. In terms of how I'm accepting this season and the fact that my capacity has changed, Well, I'm just trying to fight myself a bit less, take it day by day, and give myself grace to slow down.
There are about a million and one things that I want to do to work on my business. There are so many plans that I need to put in place, and I'm just trying to remember and figure out which ones are actually urgent, which ones I've attached some false urgency to, and which ones are a should that aren't really that important in the first place, or just attached to ego. So if you too find yourself in a bit of an unexpected season, or your capacity has changed, or life is demanding you to be more flexible, mainly I just want to say I'm with you, and it is frustrating. And if we can find a way to be even just 20% less harsh to ourselves, that can make a really big difference. Remember that when we value flexibility and freedom, we get to apply that to ourselves too, and remember that adjusting your own expectations is not a sign of failure, It is just very necessary and part of being human. And remember that being a bit less shit towards ourselves can feel very radical and uncomfortable in a world that really prioritizes hustling and just keeping going no matter what the cost. And I know we don't align with that around here, so let's try and treat ourselves a bit differently. As we start a new week, I hope you find something that gives you some unexpected joy, and I can't wait to be back with you tomorrow. I'll see you then. Bye.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1624: A reminder about breaks
Today I'm sharing a helpful distinction between rest and recovery that I learned from Tara Mohr that I think we all need to hear.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. Now, would you believe it that my three months in Bulgaria is coming to an end this weekend? We're heading back to the UK tomorrow and all of next week I'm going to be taking a mini summer break and pulling episodes from the archives while I give myself a bit of time just to be to be with loved ones, to be in familiar environments. And the reason I'm sharing that today is I want to remind you that it's okay to take a break from your projects and things you love as well. And consistency does not always have to look like consistency with a capital C and you have to bake your own needs and your own desires into the process. For the vast majority of my life I have just pushed myself until I've burnt out and been forced to take a break. And it can be really uncomfortable taking a break just before you need one because it feels like it goes against so much of the, albeit bullshit, productivity advice that so many of us are just surrounded by. I remember back during the pandemic, the fabulous Tara Mohr, author of one of my favourite books, Playing Big, did these live sessions every week and one of them was all about the difference between rest and recovery.
And it has really, really stuck with me because I've realised that I don't want to always be pushing myself so hard that I always skip the rest mode because I always just end up in recovery mode and then straight back to it. So have a think about in your own life, your own relationship with rest and recovery and think about if there's anything or any projects that you need to take a break from. Remember that taking a break before you need a break is actually a really strategic and sensible move. And in the meantime I will be hanging out over on Instagram. I've recently started being back there more. So if there's anything you would love a pep talk around when I'm back, please message me and let me know. And I also really share the most vulnerable and helpful bits of my own wins and wobbles. And every Sunday with my fabulous email community, as well as a really eclectic roundup on a Wednesday of just really cool shit I've found that I know you'll love that have either really brightened my week or made a big difference.
So if you're not part of the email community, I would love you to come and join us. You can do that by going over to therebelrousers.com/letters that's also in the show note with my Instagram and I hope you have some rest as well as recovery this weekend. Have a fabulous one and I'll see you soon.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1623: What if you’re already enough? (Bear with me)
Today we have a thought experiment that might feel a little cheesy but we’re taking it from a different angle!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Thursday to you. So today I want to pose a question to all of us and it is this. What if you actually are good enough just as you are now? I don't know about you, but my dream shitter has a field day with that one. And it is almost like I get this video montage of all the things I think I should have done by now, all the things I wish that were true. Which is why I want to pose it as a question rather than a statement and get curious about it. Because I want us to actually think about it as a question, as a bit of a thought exercise and just see what comes up. If that were true, or if there was a magic wand that suddenly made that statement true for you and you genuinely believed it, what would you do? And maybe even more interesting, what would you not do? And what would you stop doing? And maybe think about some of your friends for a second. They all have things that they want to do.
And yeah, there is a gap between where they are right now and where they want to be. But that doesn't mean that they are a shit human where they are right now. Chances are if they are a good friend, you love them exactly for who they are. Yes, you cheer on their dreams and their projects and their goals. You want that for them. But it doesn't mean they suddenly then become enough. And it doesn't mean that without completing those things that they are faulty. Yet rarely do we apply that thinking to ourselves.
And while I think there are so many good things that do come out of the personal development and self help industry, I think there is a hyper fixation on fixing everything, on optimizing everything and always having something to improve. And if we don't feel like we've got to a place where we can look in the mirror, look ourselves in the eye and tell ourselves we can love ourselves. We figure that we have not gone far enough and there's more work to be done. But I think there's something here we can really borrow from the body positivity movement. So the general idea is that it is not about going from I hate my body to I love my body in one fell swoop. Rather it is about body neutrality. So maybe being good enough for us looks more like that neutrality of actually I'm all right and maybe get into that place is fucking fun. Fabulous.
Because for many of us to consider ourselves alright, that is pretty fucking huge. Because the truth is that you are good enough as you are. No one is going to give us the official stamp of approval. And let's face it, around here, we'd probably rebel if they did. So we've got to find a way of giving that to ourselves. And we've also got to find a way of creating a really compassionate relationship with self improvement and personal development where we obviously do work on our dreams, our projects and our goals, but from a place of I'm alright rather than this is going to fix everything because neither of us are a problem to be fixed. So let that noodle around your brain today and keep coming back to that question. If you were good enough as you are right now, what would you do? And what wouldn't you do? I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1622: This one is for all us people pleasers
If people pleasing sometimes leaves you feeling like you’ve lost parts of yourself, in today’s episode I share a firm reminder and some gentle invitations.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday to you. So around here, so many of us can really relate to being people pleasers. And for so many of us, we have also learned the hard way that something has to change. But it can also feel really impossible knowing where to start. It can also feel like there's this massive binary between being a people pleaser or being an absolute bitch. And as people who are socialized, as women, I think that socialization has a lot to do with it. So many of us are brought up to put everybody else first. If we're empaths, we can often pick up on the things that aren't being said.
We've probably been seriously rewarded by doing things that please other people. But at some point something has to give or we start to lose ourselves and we can end up pretty damn stretched over capacity and also, let's face it, just a little bit fucked off. So if you can hard relate that it is not your job to please everybody. And also you literally can't, you can't please anyone. And there are also some people that there's just no pleasing them, that you can never meet their ever changing expectations. And your mental gymnastics and the energy in trying to do that just isn't worth it. And to go back to one of my favourite quotes from Emily McDowell, that is not a personal failure, but it is an impossible setup. I think for those of us who do struggle with people pleasing, we need to give ourselves a shitload of grace because chances are this is a bit of a protective pattern that we have done for decades.
So it's not going to go overnight as much as we wish it would. And it's also not time to start beating ourselves up about beating ourselves up. But what it is time for is getting gently curious about what are your own needs in your own life? Where are your own empty buckets? And if you feel like you've been completely swamped by other people, their lives and their needs, and you're not sure where you start and other people begin, that is okay. Not all hope is lost. Now can be a great time of starting to maybe remember who you are and figuring out the things that you like. And that might sound really simple, but I know if you've been stuck in people pleasing for a while, it can be really hard to remember those things. Remember that you do not have to become a no machine overnight. That you having your own needs in the first place does not make you anything other than human.
And here's to knowing the sometimes painful truth that some people will not like it when you stop being a people pleaser. You may lose people, but you will also gain back so much of yourself, so much freedom, and also so much joy, even if there are growing pains along the way. So as you go about your day to day, remember that people pleasing doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It is one of the really shitty side effects of growing up in a patriarchal culture which, let's face it, none of us would choose. And remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter and you really, really do. Take care.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1621: On doing the things you love
Today we’re leaving perfectionism at the door and diving into the things we love and how often we really do them.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers and a very happy Tuesday to you. So today I have a question for you. When is the last time you did something that you say that you really love? Because here's something we know by now. Time tends to fly. Sometimes it feels like we just do not have enough of it. And weeks, months and years can go by where we are just busy. We are busy lifing. And we might not even realise it has been a fucking age since we did one of the things that we loved.
Or maybe we do realize that and the guilt creeps up on us and it becomes even harder. I want you to think right now of three things that really fill you up or bring you joy. Now remember, we are not looking for the three perfect things. Just pick the three that come up the first or you're most excited by. And I just want you to do a quick check in with each of them and think about when the last time you did them not did them perfectly. If, for example, like me, one of yours is collaging, it doesn't have to be a whole day of collaging. We are leaving the perfectionism at the door and we're just getting curious about when. Now, if you are regularly doing those things, this might be a great time to reflect on how you do it.
Whether you're conscious of it or not, or whether you can name what you do. You clearly have some kind of system and it might be really helpful to figure out what it is that works for you and really lean into that self knowledge so you can continue to do it and maybe bring it to other areas of your life. And if you just can't remember when you did the thing that you love, we are leaving any guilt, any shame at the door. And I just want you right now to think about when is the next time you could do that and when is the next time you could do the minimum viable version of that. Like the collage example. It's not about having hours to collage. Maybe instead it is about taking a really small piece of paper and just filling it. Or setting a timer for 20 minutes and just seeing what you come up with.
Because I am convinced that doing the things we love and tending to them is a great way of tending to ourselves. I know for me, creating is something that really lights me up. Although I often struggle with it and I am a much more pleasant person to be around. I have a lot more patience and I think I show up better in the world when I do create as opposed to when I convince myself I have to wait for the perfect conditions or I convince myself that a tiny amount of time is not enough and when my dreamshitter talks me out of it.
So get curious about your own process and if this episode has resonated with you, I've got two mini courses that really dive much more into this that I know you're gonna love. One is all about managing your time and energy from a realistic and compassionate perspective and actually incorporates real life shit such as chronic illness, caring responsibilities and the things we deal with day to day. And I've also got another mini course I love which is all about uncovering your creative process where you really dive into the things that work for you and how to work with your brain and continue to uncover some of the things that are already working that you might not have consciously identified. I've put the link for both of those in the show notes and you can also head over to therebelrousers.com/soloadventures and I truly hope this week you're able to make even a micro pocket of time to do something that you absolutely love. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1618: Watch out for the sneaky b*stard!
If you've ever been tripped up by research, waiting for the right moment or feeling like you always have to be really sensible, today's episode is for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. Now, many of us know fear and self doubt on very intimate terms. We are used to it popping up at the start of the project, in the middle of a project, at the end of a project, and pretty much any fucking time it likes.
And many of us are also good girls. We have been brought up to dot the I's, cross the T's, to tick things off the list and do the right thing and be very diligent and conscientious. And let me tell you this, our dream shitter absolutely exploits the fuck out of that because it is really, really handy. For example, when we're about to start a new project, we might feel that that bit more research would actually just be a really sensible thing to do. When we're in the middle of something, we think that it might be a conscientious thing to look at all the different ways other people have done it, and then we end up completely overwhelmed and completely comparing ourselves. And if we're even just thinking about doing something, it can feel really reasonable to convince ourselves that we just need to wait for the right moment and this moment isn't it. Now don't get me wrong, there are definitely seasons in our lives where it is not the moment to start. But nine times out of 10 it is fear talking.
And the thing is with the research and being conscientious is that we meet very little resistance when it comes to that because our dream shitter is on board. While we think we're being conscientious, our dream shitter is only too happy that we're not doing the scary thing and will let us live in that moment forever. And then our dream chitter can be even happier when we start trying to figure out why we do that in the first place. Because it is yet another thing that isn't you doing the thing. All of this is to remind us all that our dream shitters are really fucking sneaky bastards. And also a reminder that you don't always need to know all the answers and sometimes you can't know all the answers, and actually the most conscientious and sensible thing to do is to start. And if we're feeling particularly rebellious, saying fuck it can also sometimes help. So keep this in mind as you go about your day, and I hope you have a fabulous rest of your day. Take care.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT.
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
MORE REBEL-ROUSING THIS WAY!