1360: Just get the f*cker done!
Don’t do it to be productive, don’t do it for anybody else, do it for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning daily peppers and a very happy Monday to you. So I wanted to kick off this week with some slightly unconventional reasoning around just getting the shit done that needs to be done that you might not want to do. When I'm faced with a task I'm avoiding, my go to thoughts are usually around why it's important and that usually means my dream shooter comes up. There's often some shame around the fact that I haven't done it already. Then I go down that rabbit hole of trying to figure out why and it tends to always come back to shoulds and a sense of obligation. Now, when we are already resisting task that is not particularly helpful. So I want to reframe this a bit today and how I want to reframe it is by tweaking that sense of obligation. Now we all tend to be values driven.
We all tend to do the things we do for important reasons and that usually involves other people. But I just want to tell you it is perfectly fine to get things done because you just want to get that fun fucker off your plate. And that can also be great motivation. You don't always have to be motivated by really good intentions. You can simply be motivated by how much future you is going to be grateful that you did the thing, getting some brain space back or just not having to look at that anymore. It is okay to not want to do the thing, whatever that thing is. And the question I'm posing is how can we get it done for your own benefit? And just to be really clear, not just for your own benefit so you can get more shit done. There's a lot of stuff out there about working smarter, but how about living smarter so we have more time and space for ourselves? So whatever the fucker is that you've been putting off, see if you can get it done today for your own benefit.
Remember, it is okay to half ass it. It does not have to be perfect. And that is an unattainable goal to begin with. And also remember, shortcuts are strategic, not cheating. Have a good one and I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1359: Save some energy for you
Today we’re challenging the pressure to finish strong and advocating for a rebellious, compassionate approach to preserving some of that precious Friday energy.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. As we start to wrap up this week, I encourage you to do whatever you can do today to save some energy for yourself. Why? Or not completely arbitrary. Sometimes we put so much pressure on the end of the week, like we have to prove something to ourselves. We put our self worth on the line. We compare what we actually got done with what we hoped we would get done. We find ourselves wanting and while we may not have all the energy left to do the tasks on a Friday, we spend a fair amount of our precious energy beating ourselves up. The thing is, we are often time optimists and generally as humans, we're pretty bad at estimating how long something is going to actually take.
So we often don't even consider the fact that we've done a good amount this week because we're comparing it to this idealised version of what we thought could happen that might not have ever existed. What I'm saying essentially comes down to this. How can you save some of that precious mental and I know this is going to be a bit cheesy, but I'm just going to go there anyway. But also some of your soul energy for you this weekend. What can you decide to just not do? What can you not even half ass but quarter ass? And can you draw a line under this week acknowledge what you have done and just test out saying a rebellious fuck it and save some energy for you? You are allowed to end the week while you leave something on the table for yourself. And if that sounds completely counterintuitive, then I invite you to lean into it even more and test it out. So here's to leaving some of you for you. Here's to using that for yourself this weekend.
And here's to knowing you probably got way more done than you give yourself credit for. I'll see you back here bright and early on Monday morning in your lovely ears. Or in your inboxes on Sunday if you're part of my email community. I look forward to seeing you then, take care.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1357: What if it actually goes okay?
This one is for my fellow catastrophisers and would-be excellent health and safety officers!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. Now, I think a lot of us are feeling pretty tired lately, and I have this saying that goes tired equals bullshit thoughts. So today I thought I would interrupt some of those bullshit thoughts, especially around predicting the future. Now, I am really good at catastrophizing. Give me any situation and I can tell you how it would go catastrophically wrong within, say, three steps. I think I would truly flourish in a role where risk assessment and health and safety was involved. My ability to create the downfall of humanity based on something really quite banal verges on incredibly impressive. And the thing is, when we're tired and when we have more bullshit thoughts, sometimes we're even more able to see the risks.
But here's something that I've learned that I think you've learned too. And it's that life is very rarely predictable. And I mean that in a really good way. There are so many times where I have stayed up the night before, panicking about all the ways it can go wrong and creating such a vivid image in my head to find that actually it wasn't that big of a deal. Or actually it went okay. I know there's that brilliant quote about what if you fall, but what if you fly? And that can be really helpful, but sometimes that doesn't feel accessible to us. And actually the best possible outcome is that actually goes okay. Not everything has to be absolutely spectacular or life changing.
Sometimes it is more than enough for something that we were worried about simply to work out. All right. And that's where I invite you to land today. Now, if you've been around a while, you'll know that I am absolutely, completely against toxic positivity. And I want to acknowledge that sometimes things do go to shit. But actually, if we look back at our lives and all the things we've worried about, that vivid image in our head rarely came true. And in fact, we've probably got more memories of, oh, I can't believe I spent so much time worrying about that and it went okay as opposed to when it didn't. So I invite you to think about today.
What if it actually goes alright? What if that vivid disastrous version in your head has been cooked up by your dreamshitter as a way to stop you from doing the scary thing? And what if, and this is a scary one and hard to contemplate, what if the worst case scenario did happen and you survived? You are much more capable than you think you are. And sometimes I think the image of ourselves we have in our head versus our reality. There's a bit of a mismatch. Because we are resilient, we just tend to forget it. So a lot of food for thought there. Keep noodling on it and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1356: You don’t have to do it all
If your to-do list is haunting you and you’re ready to give up some of the shame/guilt, today’s episode is for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. For today's episode, I want to take the pressure off a bit and I want you to have a think about your to do list and something that's been on there a little while that you can just let go of. So often we carry around with us so much extra baggage in the form of things that we meant to do that we never got round to, that perhaps aren't even that relevant anymore, or the time has simply passed. It almost serves purely now as a reminder of the fact that sometimes we don't do the things that we say we're gonna do. Sometimes we drop the balls or the plates for on the Floor and our dream shitter loves that stuff whenever we're doing anything vaguely scary. But here's the thing. Maybe you're the only one that is bothered by the fact that the thing didn't get done. Maybe it wasn't even that important in the first place.
Or maybe you just need to make peace with the fact that it didn't get done and consider the fact that you were prioritising or life was really busy in that moment you simply forgot about it and see if you can find some self forgiveness. Many of us have this image that everybody else has got their shit figured out except us and that nobody else forgets important things. And everybody else has this to do list where they prioritize all the right things and they never drop a ball. But that my love, is bullshit. We go around thinking the real hindrance is the stuff that we didn't get done. But maybe the real hindrance is our attachment to that stuff in terms of the stories we create about ourselves because we didn't do the thing. Of course there are times where we need to address it and maybe acknowledgement or an apology is due, but other times it is about letting shit go. And I know I make that sound simple.
It isn't. But some ways that you could perhaps start is taking the task off your list, or deleting it off your project management software, or taking the note off the fridge. The good thing about how busy life is is that if you don't have it somewhere prominent, you probably will forget about it. And that's kind of the point of this. And if upon reflection it's something you really can't let go of, how can you half ass it? How can you do it with the minimum time and energy expenditure as possible? And how can we get it off your plate and out of your head? We already have enough stuff to lug around with us without the ghosts of to do's that are no longer relevant or we've missed a deadline. Give yourself the grace that you would give a good friend. Know that self forgiveness is a muscle and it takes time to build. And if it feels uncomfortable, that's okay.
And here's to being kinder to yourself than you dare to be. I look forward to seeing you back here again tomorrow. And in the meantime, remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1355: Let’s find ourselves some satisfaction
We’re kicking off this week with an area that’s often overlooked, and massively underestimated when it comes to building motivation.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So as creatives, as multi passionates, and as humans with a lot of shit to do, life can feel a little bit unfulfilling because there is always more shit that we want to do, there's always more shit that we have to do. And because we're so used to moving from one thing to the next, we rarely feel satisfied. So to kick off this week, I want you to think about one thing that would be really satisfying to get done. What is one thing that Friday you.
Would just feel really good about or just be happy to have off your plate? What is something that you keep looking at that needs to be done that would just be lovely if it was done and he didn't have to look at it anymore? Or what is a project that you're desperate to work on but you keep putting off because it's not the right time or you feel like you have to have hours. Whereas realistically, even thinking about it and brainstorming it for 10 minutes could feel really satisfying. That's the question I want you to ponder on today. Because for so many of us, we're getting so much shit done and we're working on so many things and we're expecting ourselves to be really self motivated, we're beating ourselves up and we don't get something done yet rarely do we give ourselves a chance to feel satisfied.
We just expect our motivation and our mojo to just always be there. Yeah, that's pretty hard if you're not leaning into the satisfaction or taking a minute to acknowledge the effort you put into the things that you have done. So often our effort is spread across so many different things and it can feel like we're getting nowhere. But you, my dear, you really are getting somewhere. So this week, my mission for you is to give yourself something you can be satisfied about. Maybe that is finishing off the last 2% of a project. Maybe like I alluded to earlier, that is doing the thing that you keep looking at and meaning to do. We often talk around here about exhaustion and just not feeling it and needing a bit more pep in our step. And intentionally seeking satisfaction can really help. So have a think. I hope you rise to this challenge and I hope this week provides you with lots of unexpected joy and satisfaction. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1354: Take the side door
If you’re finding it hard to get started, or resistance is getting in your way, I’ve got a side quest for you this weekend!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Around here, we are multi passionate and there is so much we want to do. There are so many skills we want to learn, there's so many rabbit holes you want to go down, there's so many projects we want to work on and sometimes getting down to doing them is so hard. It can be hard because of time, it can be hard because of energy, and sometimes it's hard because when we do have the time or we make the space, we don't even know where to start or the resistance is real. So I have a challenge for you this weekend and it involves going through a side door rather than the main door. Because here's the thing, when it comes to doing things that you've wanted to do for a long time, our dreamshitter tends to feed us a lot of bullshit thoughts. And we can have a lot of shame about why we didn't do it sooner and how further along we could be or how further along we should be. So it's no wonder that if you go from wanting to write a novel and beating yourself up about not doing it, sitting down at your computer or with a pen and paper might just feel really intimidating.
And you might get there and think, now what? Or say there's a particular type of food you've been wanting to cook. Doing your grocery shopping and making yourself cook seven new meals without a plan might feel really huge. So those are two examples of taking the main door. But I think we have to allow for inspiration and allow ourselves to feel it and actually get in the mood. With writing the novel, for example, that could be taking yourself out to a bookshop and just perusing all of the possibilities. Or it could look like rereading a childhood favourite and remembering your love of reading and why you want to do this in the first place. And it could also look like going on an artist date and looking at all the fabulous notebooks. I know whenever I'm trying to get back into art and creating things with my hands, the thing that inspires me the most and gets me making is watching videos of other people doing it.
That to me is a much better door to go through than getting all my stuff out. Feeling really overwhelmed, my dreamshitter takes over and what should have been a really nice time goes into something that I just feel really overwhelmed about. Let's say you want to up your cooking game and perhaps learn how to cook a potato particular cuisine. It sounds so simple and so obvious, but go and eat some. Go peruse some cookbooks and go remind yourself of why you wanted to do this in the first place. When it comes to all things creativity, so often I think we label the things that are really filling up our well and things that are getting us ready to do it as procrastination. And I don't think it's always helpful. And I think also we know the difference.
We tend to know deep down what is procrastination and fear of starting and what is actually a helpful way of getting ourselves excited and reinvigorated about the thing. So my challenge for you this weekend is to think about the side doors to fill your cup to get some inspiration, and you might just find that the thing that has felt really, really hard to start feels a whole lot easier and you might also get a bit excited. So here's to side doors, here's to finding inspiration, and here's to Also another really bloody good excuse to go peruse the book and art and notebook section of TK Maxx. Have a good one, and I look forward to seeing you in your inbox on Sunday or right back here on Monday. Take care.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1352: A compassionate check-in
If you keep finding yourself at the bottom of your to-do-list, this one’s for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday to you, Bossy Meg is popping in on a hump day to making sure you're looking after your basic needs. So as you're listening to this, I want you to think, are you hydrated? Have you taken any meds you need to take? Are you hungry? And do you need to go eat something? And if the answer to any of those is yes, this is your loving reminder to go do the thing, press pause, come back, and we'll move on to part two. So part two is not necessarily the most fun one and is something that I know I really struggle with and I know it can be hard for many of us, and that is checking in with any appointments. Do you need to book a doctor's appointment? Do you need a blood test? Do you need to renew some meds? Do you need to reschedule therapy? Do you want to check in with a friend that you haven't checked in with for a while? Is there anything coming up that you've been meaning to cancel? And are there any pieces of bullshit boring admin that need to be tended to? Now, I know many of you listen as you're waking up in the morning, so I'm not going to go get you to do that right now, but simply set yourself a reminder for when would be a good time during this week to be prodded about it. For me, anything to do with booking appointments and anything to do with meds is one of my flavors of hard. So try not to judge yourself if these things feel tough because you're not alone. So press pause and go set yourself a reminder or schedule yourself an email for later. And then part three.
Have a look at your upcoming couple of weeks and see if you've got some connection and joy. Time. Do you have time with people you love or treasured? Time by yourself where you get to stop ticking everything off the list for a second and just get to connect with yourself, with others or with nature. And my helpful reminder here is that if you feel like it's impossible or you couldn't make the time or things are too busy, that makes this extra important because we most often need to take a break when we're least able to. So see when you can squeeze something in. And the reason I'm recording this today is because being a human can sometimes just feel fucking hard and there are so many things to do and often we come to the very bottom of our to do list or we simply forget because there's so much else to do. But you get to make yourself a priority. That is not selfish.
It is not self indulgent. It is very essential. Your needs are just as valid as anybody else's and sometimes we can get so caught up that we just forget our needs entirely. We can't remember the last time we ate. We've been meaning to book an appointment for months but it's just not happening. And that doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. That is nothing to feel shame about. It's just part and parcel of being a human in a busy and chaotic world.
So here's to looking inward and identifying your needs, seeing how you can meet them in an easy way that doesn't add to your plate and to putting connection and joy back on the table. I truly believe that everything changes when you believe you matter and tending to your own needs is a huge part of that equation. So go look after you. Give yourself the same grace that you would give a loved one and know your future self will be grateful. Happy hump day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1351: Use your good stuff!
Today, we're ditching the pressure to be 'ready’, and leaning into the joy of using our best stuff!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So every once in a while here on the daily prep, I pop in with a reminder that I've shared before that I think we might all need to hear. So today I'm popping in with some encouragement to use your best notebooks, use your best pens, use the things you've been saving for that special occasion, light that special candle, start writing in that journal and know that where you are right now is good enough. So much of the time we save things because we feel like we need to be more ready or we have to have a good idea or we have to be in a better place. But I truly believe that these things are meant to be used. And I think in doing so, in a weird way, it can really help improve our confidence, because it's a way of saying to ourselves, you get to do that now. You don't have to be some new, improved version of yourself. You do not have to earn the thing.
And things don't have to be perfect to open the first page or to light the wick. What can be something we were previously excited about and was something that we absolutely loved can turn into a huge pile of pressure and it can represent so many things that it was never meant to. A beautiful notebook can turn into a reminder that we haven't written for a while and our dream shitter has a field day. So whatever you've been saving, have a think and see how you can use it today. I know so many of us fear wasting things and want to save things to the right moment, but maybe the real waste is it sat there for so long not being used when it could bring you so much joy and it could be the very thing that gets you into imperfect action so you know what you've got to do. And if this episode feels like the perfect excuse to buy a new notebook, I will not apologise for enabling you. Go treat yourself. I hope you find some unexpected joy today. I think it might very much be linked to using the thing. And I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1350: It’s okay to be grumpy
This Monday on the Daily Pep! we’re embracing the art of showing up imperfectly and learning why sometimes not fixing everything is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. Whether you're feeling it or you're feeling shit, the daily Pep is here to start your day with a compassionate bang. And to start this week and to start your Monday, I want to remind you that not all weeks have to be brilliant. It is okay if you feel grumpy. It's okay if you just can't be fucked to try and be the best version of yourself. It's okay if you're not feeling particularly excited about this week. And it's okay if you look at your to do list and you just groan. Now, obviously I don't want that for you, but I think it can sometimes be really helpful to just meet yourself where you're at.
I know personal development and self improvement is pretty important for a lot of us around here, but sometimes trying to fix every part of your life can just be exhausting. And sometimes you just need a week where you get to be grumpy, where you allow yourself to feel dissatisfied about some things, where maybe you throw yourself a pity party and you don't try to fix everything. I know for myself and so many people around here that feeling shit about feeling shit is a very real spiral. And I wonder how we can take ourselves out of that this week. Maybe you're not really feeling it this week and you can't be asked to give 100%. And maybe that's actually okay. And maybe if you intentionally decided that you're only going to really focus on the essentials this week, it ends up being a much better and kinder week because you've taken that pressure off a bit. Maybe it's okay that you don't feel motivated or super excited to do something.
And maybe in being okay with that, something else bubbles up that's even better. Or maybe you sleep a bit better or feel a bit more able to relax, which is huge. So as we enter a new week, I just want to remind you that it's okay to be grumpy. It's okay not to be in the mood for it. It's okay to be less than excited about what you've got on ahead this week. And maybe shrugging your shoulders and being as kind to yourself as possible is going to be so much more helpful than trying to fix everything. Remember that your inner dream shitter is a liar. It will say exactly what it needs to, to get you to stop doing the scary thing.
It will poke you in the most tender places because it knows you really, really well. But it is not a voice of reason, and it is not a voice of truth. You can do way more than you think you're capable of. And if you just can't be fucked and need to put yourself into maintenance mode, you get to do that, too. I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1349: You're a competent sailor!
Today we’re making space for small wins, gentle self-reflection, and a tiny act of kindness for next week’s you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So, on the daily prep this week, we have been diving into everything sea and nautical seed. And I wanted to end the week with a powerful reminder I think a lot of us need to hear right now, and something that might just make you feel a bit more capable of handling life's challenges. So we've been talking about boats a lot this week in terms of how we can't control the wind, but we can direct the sails, finding our own anchors and non negotiables and how we don't always need to pull the boat out of water or do a massive overhaul to make changes. I was thinking about how to wrap up this week and I decided that the most helpful thing I can tell you and remind you is that you already are a fucking good sailor. For many of us, we have survived many choppy moments at sea. We have got through hard times. We have successfully navigated downright bizarre things.
And while we might not know everything about the sea and all of its mysteries, we do know a lot. We have navigated so many things with skill, with creativity, and so much problem solving. Yet I think we're the first to completely discount our own experience. When we look at all the what ifs, we forget that we're actually pretty fucking resilient and we might know a thing or two. And here's the thing, it is not about being the world's best sailor. It is about being a competent sailor. And you are a competent sailor. You have so many more skills than you think you do.
You are way better equipped than you think you are. And you've already survived many choppy days at sea. So today, have a bit of faith in yourself. You may not be exactly where you want to be, but look at what you have done. And if you're struggling to find what you have done with, remember that we all have a built in negativity bias and also a confirmation bias. And it can be hard seeing what we've done. So definitely enlist a friend or loved one if this feels hard and if that doesn't feel too vulnerable, if it does feel too vulnerable or you fancy some journaling, make a list of 10 things you got through or 10 things you did that maybe you've forgotten and allow yourself to be surprised. Sometimes we are exactly on course.
Sometimes we stray off course. And other times we come across a completely unexpected island altogether. And that is normal. That is a part of life. Sometimes it can be an absolute delight, other times it can be absolutely shitty. But know that you can navigate the boat and you can navigate the water. And it's also okay to drop the anchor. Just float for a bit.
So that is a wrap for this week and our boat and sailing and sea theme here on the Daily Pep. And one last really cheesy pun to leave you with. Remember, to sailor brate your wins this week. I'll see you on Monday.
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Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1347: You don’t have to fix the whole boat
If you struggle with nonstop self-improvement, then today's episode is for you! Let's take the pressure off, give ourselves space to tinker as we go AND dare to enjoy the view.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It is hump day. This week on the Daily Pep, we are diving into all things boat and sea related. You know I love an analogy, so here we go. So when it comes to everyday life, there is always so much shit to do. And there's always so much shit to do on a boat as well. Me and mister Meg were toying with getting a houseboat for a little while, and my goodness, just looking into it, while it does look really fun, we were told by quite a few boat owners, don't do it unless you're quite happy to tinker because there's always something to do. Now there are times that you literally have to get the whole boat out of the water and work on it that way, but most of the maintenance, you can probably do while it's floating.
And I think when it comes to personal development, we treat most things as projects that involve taking ourselves completely out of the water, and that's not necessarily realistic. When we think, for example, of doing a new morning routine, we tend to start thinking about overhauling the whole lot and just doing loads at once rather than just tinkering with what we've already got. And like I shared way back on the early episode of the daily pep, just because your morning routine doesn't look like you want it to, doesn't mean you don't have a morning routine. So I think if we can remind ourselves that we don't have to pull our whole boat out of the water all the time, I think that means two things. Number one, that takes the pressure off because we can start small. We can tinker with what we've got as we go. And number two, it means we can start right now rather than putting it off to the perfect someday. And I think there's something else that's perhaps most important of all for all of us type a overachievers, and we wanna do the best we can, and we wanna work on ourselves and become the best version of ourselves that we can.
And it's to remember that we actually get to enjoy being on the water and being in a boat. Yes. There are always gonna be things we wanna work on, but we also get to enjoy the view. We don't always have to be fixing up a different part of ourselves. To go on land for a bit, it's a bit like a house. It can be really fun to do a project, and you're like, oh, that's really cool, and it improves your life. But if you are constantly living in project after project after project and you're constantly doing the hard work, then you don't get to enjoy the fruits of your labor and it just gets to be stressful and unsatisfying. So here's to just tinkering about.
Here's to knowing that you don't have to fix everything at once. And here's to giving ourselves permission to also just float. So have a good one. And to end with some sound advice and some awful puns, remember to seize the day and do what floats your boat.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1346: Choppy waters and non-negotiables
We're continuing with this week's nautical theme with a focus on rusty anchors, and keeping ourselves afloat.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers and a very happy Tuesday to you. So this week on the daily pep, we're taking a bit of a sea nautical theme. And today, I wanna talk to you about your non negotiables. AKA, the things that anchor you when things are going really well or are going really shit. So for all of us, we tend to have different things that just help us. But one of the ways we can massively over complicate it is by comparing it to what other people do or having this kind of fixed idea of what it should look like. And it can get really frustrating because something that really helps us can turn into something that we feel has to look good to other people, that is shareable, and has to sound good when you tell others. But here's the thing.
Some anchors are rusty as fuck, and they still work. Some of them have been around a long, long time. They don't look beautiful, but they are seriously efficient. And the same goes for your own non negotiables and the things that anchor you in your own life. It can be all too easy to think that you've got to have this set of fabulous romanticized new routines. And while sometimes that can actually be really helpful and motivating for getting you out of a slump, during times where it feels like you have no time at all and it is all stress and shit on toast, it's not a very fair demand to put on yourself to then come up with all these extra things to do. So as you listen today, I just want you to have a think about what are your own anchors in your life. There will probably be between about three to five things that are absolute nonnegotiables to you and you feel are pretty essential to your life.
That could be things like getting outside, having some social time, taking five minutes for yourself in the morning. Ultimately, it matters a lot less what they are as opposed to the likelihood and the ease of doing them. So as we're going down our nautical themed rabbit hole this week, I want you to think about what anchors you, what really helps when the waters get choppy, and how can you make them even easier to do. Don't judge yourself on what comes up. Fuck being Instagrammable. And here's to knowing yourself best. And because I really did love my accidental pun last time, I thought we would end with an intentional pun which is don't give in to peer pressure. And believe me, there are plenty more where they came from. I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1345: Adjust your sails
We're kicking off this week with some good old Dolly Parton wisdom!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So it will come as a surprise to precisely nobody that I'm a huge Dolly Parton fan. So to kick off this week on the Daley Peppers, I thought I would share one of my favorite quotes of hers as some inspiration to kick off this week and also to get you thinking. So one of my favorite quotes of hers is, we cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. And one of the reasons I love it so much is because it's really bullshit free. I get so sick of the platitudes that just gloss over the fact that sometimes life can be really tough, cruel, and ugly, and all that toxic toxic positivity shit that would have us believe that if we just think positive thoughts, only good shit will happen. So going back to the quote, I think it gives us something really practical to do. We can figure out which sales are in our control, and we can experiment with turning them different ways.
It's not about doing it perfectly. There's also some acknowledgment that it's not just a one and done, and there are two really liberating things in there. Firstly, it gives us back a bit of autonomy in reminding us that there are things that we do have control over. And the second one, like I was just saying, it reminds us that we do have options. We're not stuck to one way of doing things, and we can adjust as we go. I was thinking before I press record about how sailing literally wouldn't work if you couldn't adjust the sails and you couldn't adjust to the wind and you couldn't adjust to the weather. If you had a sailor set sail and that was their strategy, well, it'd be pretty fucking ridiculous. Yet how often do we do that for ourselves? We set off in one direction, and we convince ourselves that if it doesn't work, then we somehow failed.
We don't see that flexibility and adaptability can actually be a superpower. We just blame ourselves for being flaky and for changing our minds. And if you need a huge permission slip about that, go back to episode 538 where I dive into just that. So as we kick off this week, I invite you to think about your own wind and weather this week and how you can adjust your sales accordingly. If you've got a bit of a shitty week, what are your sales and how can you adjust them even a tiny bit? So that is some food for thought to kick off this week. And I might just keep this week on the daily pep. Sea or boat themed? We will see. Plan not intended, but actually very good. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1344: A Friday check-in with your future self
Today we’re making space for small wins, gentle self-reflection, and a tiny act of kindness for next week’s you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. To wrap up this week on the daily pep, I want you to think about one thing that you've learned about yourself this week. So often, we do our reviews in kind of yearly containers and save up to the end of the year, but I think weekly containers can be so helpful. I know I'm not the only one in thinking that months fly by like nobody's business. And I think something that we can do for ourselves that is incredibly helpful is to do a bit of a review and give ourselves a bit of a boost on a Friday. So for today's episode, I just want you to think about what you've learned about yourself this week. It does not need to be something profound. It does not need to be a huge epiphany.
But is there anything that you found this week really works for you? Anything that you found is a nonnegotiable in your own life? And are there any tiny things that you've done that you'd actually like to keep going with because they made a positive impact on your life? So that is part one, and part two is really simple. For part two, I just want you to email that to yourself or text it to yourself ready for next week. Put it somewhere that you'll see it as a bit of a reminder because we know how we work better than anybody else, but sometimes we need to do a bit of investigating to find it, which is exactly why questions like this can be really helpful. And they can be even more helpful when put into practice. So if emailing yourself isn't convenient, maybe put it on your planner for next Monday, put it on a post it note, and leave it somewhere you know you'll look next week, and lean into what works for you. In my group coaching program, one woman band club, every Friday, we set ourselves Monday wisdom. We look at, okay, what does our Monday self need to hear the most? And it is amazing how much more compassion we can have for our future self. So today is for doing something for next week you.
Remember, it doesn't need to be big. It doesn't need to be profound. For example, mine for next week is this. Give yourself a tiny plan for what you're gonna do in the morning so it is less overwhelming. So get thinking. I hope your weekend provides you with an opportunity to rest, catch up with yourself, and a bit of unexpected joy. And I can't wait to see you back here bright and early on Monday morning for the daily pep or in your inbox on Sunday for my letter of rebellion. I'll see you soon.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1342: One of my favourite pieces of old wisdom
Today I'm sharing an adage I adore, and three ways it can help us. I hope this episode finds you when you most need it!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So today on the daily prep, I wanted to dive into a piece of wisdom that is as old as time, but I think is pretty fucking relevant no matter what you're going through right now. And it's the old adage that you don't know what you don't know. And I love it for so many reasons. Number one, we can use it as a huge part of our self forgiveness journey in terms of that we did the best with what we had at the time, and we didn't know what we didn't know. Sometimes we give ourselves such a hard time because we couldn't predict the future. So in that way, I think that saying can be a huge dollop of compassion for us. Number two.
I think it can also be pretty helpful for us creatives and multi passionates in terms of we often dive head first into rabbit holes without quite knowing what we're getting into. And it can be a real strength because we bring our beginners mindset to everything. We don't know everything, so we get innovative and curious, and it can just lead to some exciting shit. Also, if we don't know what we don't know, there's a huge chance for novelty and lots of chances for unexpected delights. And I think a lot of us thrive on those things. And number three comes down to my love of imperfect action over perfect inaction. If we don't know what we don't know, then all the planning in the world probably isn't gonna tell us and we have to just start somewhere. And a bit like number two, it's the getting into the momentum and into movement.
That's where we find a lot of novelty, unexpected joys. And we can also have a lot of fun with trying different experiments and just seeing what works in a way like we were talking about in yesterday's episode. We can remove the outcome a little bit and focus more on the process. So my question for you today is this. In what way in your life right now is this idea of you don't know what you don't know Actually, really helpful, maybe a blessing in disguise, a bit of an opportunity, or maybe a chance for self forgiveness. We're not supposed to know everything. And as the other kind of adage goes, the more you think you know, you find the less that you do know. So let's make that work for us.
Let's use our creative, juicy, curious brains for some mental gymnastics that actually work for us rather than work against us. Happy thinking and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1341: Putting progress over perfection into action
If you ever feel like everything you do needs a tangible outcome, or you find it hard to make time for yourself, this one's for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. If you're new here, my name is Meg. I am a coach, I'm a writer, a podcaster, and all around rebel rouser. And this podcast is all about starting your day with a compassionate bang. And for those of you that listen to a lot of episodes in a row, it's designed to get you out of a rut and back into compassionate action. And that's why I wanna dive in with you today. So one of the things I really love to do but find it incredibly hard to make time for or allow myself to do is collaging. I actually think I enjoy the cutting out and the finding words and finding pictures than I do the actual sticking it down.
I find that bit of it stressful. And one of the things I've realized lately is that I partly find it hard to sit down and do it even though I love it because there's no tangible point to it. I don't necessarily sit down with a project in mind. I like the doing versus the outcome that's more important to me. And I know, like many of us around here, we're doers, we're fixers. And while we completely agree and align with the phrase progress over perfection, it can be a bit hard to live by. So lately, I've been asking myself a lot of big questions, and I decided that the way I was gonna explore it was through collage rather than journaling. I needed to see what images kind of I was naturally drawn to.
And I also needed to sit down with very little to no expectation. And a big one, I also had to give myself permission to use my magazine collection, which I absolutely love, and tell myself they're reserved for special projects. Now if you've been around here a while, you know I love my projects. I love my containers. And so the idea of sitting down with something really vague was intimidating. But my goodness, it's been so much fun. It's been a great source of active rest, and it's just been lovely to have some time to connect with myself. Now what's come out of it is really interesting and really helpful.
But for once, that doesn't feel like the most important thing. Just getting started with no real aim and allowing myself to use my best stuff has been a real treat. So you can use today's episode in any way you like. If there's been something that you've been wanting to do for a while, but you haven't got a tangible outcome to attach it to, maybe it's time to just start doing the thing gently. If you're facing some big questions and trying to figure them out, maybe it's about shifting cutting things out, maybe it's just about giving yourself permission to do that, and that being enough and a treat in and of itself. So here's to carving some time out for ourselves, even when that's really tricky to do logistically and when it's uncomfortable to do. And here's to knowing that it certainly isn't indulgent. Have a good one and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1339: When in doubt, try this…
To wrap up the week I’m sharing a low-pressure way to get clearer on making that decision!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So this week in the Daily Pep, we've been diving into all things decision making, and I've got a fun one to end the week. So I think that there's a whole bunch of little, silly, and playful things we can do that can really help us understand what we want. So if you've got a decision to make right now, however small it is or however big it is, I want you to try this. Let's say there are two main options to choose from. I want you to write each option on an identical piece of paper, fold it up, close your eyes, ask yourself the question on what you're deciding, and pick one. Now before you think I've lost it, that is step one. Step two then is the most important one, and it is to really pay attention to your first reaction when you read what option you've picked.
Because what's gonna happen in a lot of scenarios is either you're gonna feel relieved or you're gonna feel disappointed. And I think this is just a really, really handy trick to just get that bit of data. That's not to say this is the final way to make your decision, but it's a really good way of finding out what you really want if your gut and your intuition feel absolutely silent and you're really, really stuck. If you realize you would have been happy regardless of which one you picked, that is also really good information to know. And maybe for that one, it's about remembering, like we were talking about on Monday's episode, that there is no one right perfect choice. And then you can throw in another whole way of making decisions in there. Like, what would you in five years' time be grateful that you've chosen? If you were choosing based on integrity, what choice would you make? Or if joy was your lens, what choice would you make? Now on the other hand, if you realize that neither of those choices sound particularly good, then it is time to get creative. That's when you wanna start that list of 20 things you could do or 20 choices you could make.
And I choose 20 because it's after ten that the ideas start and pretty wild and a bit bizarre. And, also, sometimes the magic really happens. So if you're feeling stuck on something, whether it is as small as what to have for tea or as big as should you leave your job, Try this on for size. It's really simple. It's quite fun. If you've got no paper nearby, use a coin and really tune into that first reaction. Not the reaction you think you should have, but whether your heart sinks, whether it soars, or whether it does neither. I hope you've enjoyed this week's deep dive on all things decision making.
I would love to know whether this format resonates with you. If there's any topics you'd like me to do a themed week on, send me an email over to meg@therebelrousers.com. Or I know you can do this if you listen on Spotify. Leave a comment. I hope you have a weekend as fabulous as you are. And if that is not an option, be as gentle with yourself as you can be. And I look forward to seeing you in your inbox on Sunday or in your ears on Monday. Take care.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1337: Pros, cons and gut feelings
Today we’re exploring why your intuition deserves a spot at the decision making table.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So this week on the daily pet, we are really doing a bit of a deep dive into decision making. And so far, we've spoken about how there is really no one right path or no one right decision. Why listen to yourself and being discerning about other people's opinions is really helpful, and how you get to make decisions for yourself even if nobody else gets them. And today, we're looking at the feeling part of it. I know for many of us, like I was saying yesterday, we wanna make smart decisions. And we tend to get stuck in the analysis stage and we want all the information. But I think there's a huge piece of information that so many of us overlook because maybe we don't think it's that rational.
And that's how we feel about something. I remember when I was deliberating, leaving a job that was absolutely sucking the soul out of me and was so bad for my mental health. And I remember having a pros and cons list. One of the pros for leaving was to save my mental health, and it is in that moment looking at it that I realised that not all pros and cons are weighted equally. And also not all decisions can be made by balancing the pros and cons and trying to figure out the sensible answer. In that situation, I simply had to leave even though it was fucking scary. It wasn't comfortable, and I spent so long deliberating. But I knew deep down and I'd known for a while that I had to leave.
Something was feeling off in my body. And as somebody who very much lives in my head and has had a tendency to completely ignore all the warning signs in my body, I just wrote it off as not that important or a reckless way to make decisions. But I don't think that could be further from the truth. I'm not so far on the other side of the scale that I believe in the whole leap and the net will appear because I think for some of us, that would be reckless. And I know for me that if I don't have some kind of plan or a strategy or some idea of what's gonna happen next, that just causes me even more stress. So I'm not saying let go of all of the rational thinking completely. I'm just saying let's see what would happen if we shifted the weight distribution even a little bit. Because a lot of the times when we really think we don't know and we're going back and forth or we're asking everybody and their pet cat what they would do, the chances are you do have some idea what you want.
And maybe it is just as simple as getting quiet and asking yourself or getting your journal out or maybe it's just seeing what's happening in your body. There's that fabulous saying that the body whispers before it screams And I know I have been so good in my life at ignoring the whisperings, but I do think we can grow that muscle where we're able to hear them sooner. But that starts with trying to intentionally tune in in the first place. So whether you've got a big decision to make right now, a little decision, or you are currently decisionless, just keep this in mind. Listening to yourself is not reckless. We all have a sense of intuition even if we can't quite put our finger on what it is or how to feel it. So be open to how it shows up for you. Here's to loving and working with that fabulous juicy brain of yours, but also remembering there are other things to factor in as well.
A pros and cons list can only take you so far, and it might sound really fucking cheesy, but I'm gonna say it. But your heart can probably take you much further. Here's to choosing yourself and I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1336: Trusting your gut
On today's episode, we're reminding ourselves that our decisions don’t need to make sense to anyone else but us.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So this week on the daily pet, we are exploring decision making. And we started off yesterday by exploring how there is never one perfect path you can take. And while that can seem overwhelming, it can also be pretty liberating. So for today's episode, I wanted to come at it from a slightly different angle and just remind you that just because your decisions or you're thinking about something in a different way to other people, maybe your loved ones, doesn't mean it's wrong. For a lot of us around here, like we were saying yesterday, we can spend quite a bit of time deliberating and analysing decisions. And one of the things a lot of us tend to do is ask other people what they think we should do or what they would do in our situation. And we don't do it from the perspective that we're gonna take it outright, But we use it as more data points, and we use it to kind of add to the pros and cons list and give ourselves different angles.
But many a time, what can end up happening, especially if it's somebody we respect or somebody we feel a lot of expectations from, whether that's kind of experienced internally or externally or somebody we feel like we've got obligations to, we end up either taking it to heart or really considering it when it might completely fly in the face of what we're trying to do or what we wanted in the first place. And in the process of trying to make a really smart decision, we can end up completely overwhelmed. We can end up just completely lost at what to do when the chances are we probably started off with some idea of what we wanted. But here's the thing, when we turn to other people, there is so much more going on than just them giving an honest account of what they think we should or could do. Even if they truly have our best intentions at heart, there's gonna be a lot weighing in on their perspective. And that can come from their experiences, their personal values, their fears, whether they're risk adverse or they really value stability or security. They can project a lot of their own stuff onto you. And they might have a preference because one of the options works out better for them.
Now people in our lives who may be outright dream shitters or narcissists, we can completely discount what they think. But it can be really hard not to get really sucked into what somebody else thinks you should do. And here's what I always come back to. One, you are the person who's making the decision and you are living with the consequences. You are the person that wakes up and lives your life every single day and goes through the minutiae of all of it. And number two, there is this great quote which goes along the lines of, don't ask somebody for directions to places they've never been. And that one has been really helpful for me because depending on the situation, some people may just not be qualified to really help you make an informed decision. And I don't mean to sound like a dick when I say that.
Chances are if they're a loved one, they really do wanna help even if they don't know that much about the thing. And yet we can put so much weight on that when it might not be as helpful as it could be. All of this is to say that you get to make your own decisions, and your decisions are still valid if they do not make sense to anybody else. And it's also okay if you're making a decision that other people around you wouldn't. We're all different, a bit like I was saying a minute ago. Everybody brings their own perspectives, experiences, and values to the equation, including you. So here's to listen to yourself even if it flies in the face of what other people think you should do. Here's to going back to what you really, really do want to do.
And here's to taking other people's opinions and perspectives with the biggest grain of salt and also pausing to stop and ask if you do actually want their opinion in the first place. Have a good Tuesday, and remember, everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1335: Permission to not have it all figured out
If the pressure to have everything figured out is overwhelming, then today’s episode is a permission slip for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So to kick off this week, I thought we could start with something that might just help take the pressure off a little bit. And it is this idea that it's actually okay not to know all the answers. I think most of us go around life thinking that other people have got all their shit figured out and we haven't, and that is not the case. And here's the thing. We're all new to this human thing. As much as a lot of the self help and personal development stuff out there would have you believe, there is no one right way to do this. There is no one path.
And for a lot of us, we are making things up as we go, and that's kind of the point. And if we're all making it up anyway, that's where it gets exciting because you get to create your life. But I think one of the most freeing things, which can be hard, difficult, uncomfortable, and sometimes just shitty to accept, is that sometimes there is no right answer. And what you can do is your best guess. And I know from personal experience that sometimes you can end up deliberating and figure something out for so long that, a, it becomes even more confusing, b, it sucks up so much of our precious time and energy, and, c, sometimes we just have to learn by the doing and get the experience and data points along the way. So picking something and trying it out tentatively can be a lot more helpful than trying to wait for the perfect next step because and I think we all know this. There is no perfect next step. And if there is, well, it fluctuates from minute to minute.
We all go through different seasons of needing different things, and that's just part and parcel of being human. You're not doing anything wrong. Don't get me wrong. I know how uncomfortable it can be being in the uncomfortableness of not knowing what to do. I know that all too well, and I think a lot of us do. But I also know how overwhelming it can be and also impossible it is to try and figure out the next right thing when there isn't one. So take this episode as a permission slip. I hope it gives you some freedom.
Remember, there are very, very few situations in life where we're unable to go back and try a different path, so just try something. I know looking back that I often regret the amount of time I spent absolutely agonising over a decision much more than I do the decision I ended up making. Because even with the most detailed plan, it can still turn out completely wild and unexpected. Things very rarely go to plan anyway. So and I say this to myself as much as I do to you. Let's try and spend less time in the really pretty, colourful, lovely planning space, and let's spend more time in the living space. I hope you're having a fabulous start to the week, and I'll see you tomorrow.
Transcription automatically produced by Castmagic.io
ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
MORE REBEL-ROUSING THIS WAY!