1374: Accept the mess
To wrap up this week's Daily Pep, I'm reminding both of us that some things are just messy and that's a life thing, not a personal failure thing!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. So behind the scenes we're in the process of going back to long term traveling and leaving our lovely flat in Leeds. Now, we have moved at this point many, many times and we probably consider ourselves pros at it. And what we've learned is that it is actually pretty impossible to have a completely stress free and tidy move. There have been times where we prepared for moving months in advance, there's times that we've done it weeks in advance and everywhere in between. And we've just come to the conclusion that moving is messy. There are so many moving parts, pun intended. There is as much as you try for there not to be, always going to be a box of crap which is just full of things that you've got no idea what to do with.
And it doesn't really matter how much you prepare, there are always going to be surprises along the way. And I'm sharing this today for two reasons. Firstly, because I feel like so many of us have been around here for a little while and we've been on this journey together and I wanted to share a personal update as I kind of consider you all my virtual travel buddies. And second, as a reminder, a permission slip or something you just really fucking need to hear right now that life is sometimes messy. And that's okay. You're not doing it wrong, it's just messy. Believe me, I have tried so many different ways to do this whole moving process more efficiently. And often it doesn't matter how long you give yourself, there's always a bit of a last minute scramble because you naturally forget some things.
And that is because we are fabulously imperfect humans with a lot going on in our brains at the same time. So as you head into this weekend, see what happens. If you can remember that some things are just messy and, and that's okay. And also there is such a thing as over optimizing and being too efficient to the fact that we get so obsessed with doing things quicker that we lose all the joy along the way. Have a good one, stay hydrated, keep as cool as you can. And I hope some unexpected delight finds you this weekend. I can't wait to be back with you as always on Sunday in your inbox or on Monday in your earbuds. I'll see you then, take care.
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Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1371: This one’s for all us time optimists!
If, like me, your perception of time is a little bit wonky, today's episode is a very compassionate reality check!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. Now, I am what I would call a time optimist. What I believe I could do in 30 minutes is nothing short of superhuman, and it is also wildly inaccurate. I remember driving home from a doctor's appointment one day and I had half an hour until my next thing and I looked at Mr. Meg and I said, right in my head, I believe that we've got enough time to to stop in Aldi and do a quick shop. Also stop in the charity shop nearby, grab a quick coffee from the coffee shop that's on our walk on the way back from the car and still have a good five minutes before my next thing started. And I think in that moment it dawned on him how my brain works and just how time optimistic I am. And I think it explained a lot.
I know I am far from alone in this. I'm not quite sure if I have adhd, so I'm gonna call it maybe hd. But I know time optimism is a very real thing for me, and if you can hard relate, then you might want to join me in my challenge today. And that is going through my to do list and allocating time slots for everything I think I'm gonna get done and see how much it actually adds up to. Knowing that most things tend to take twice as long as we imagine. Whether we're time optimists or time pessimists. It can be a really kind thing to do for yourself to look at everything you've put on your plate and see if it is actually physically possible or if we've accidentally slipped into superhuman territory. It can be a great way of not beating ourselves up because we realise, to quote my favourite Emily MacDowell quote, that maybe it's not a personal failure, but an impossible setup.
So go get the things you've got planned for today. Allocate each task a certain amount of minutes, double it and add it up, and then start deferring. Maybe it's not just okay that you don't get everything done today, but maybe it's to be expected. So let's try to be a bit kinder and fairer to ourselves, see how it goes, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1370: Give yourself room at the table
Today we’re kicking this week off with perhaps a confronting, but very helpful question that many of us can struggle with.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So I want to kick off this week with a slightly challenging question, which is what would happen if you put yourself first this week? Now, for so many of us, we have many complicated feelings when it comes to putting ourselves first. And for many of us, we kind of put ourselves last by autopilot. Many of us who were socialized as girls, well, we were conditioned and we were taught to put everybody before ourselves. We were taught to prioritize other people's happiness in many overt and covert ways. We were taught to take up less space. And this idea of putting ourselves first was selfish and just wrong. And along the way, I think a lot of us just took ourselves out of the equation completely.
So what would it look like to put yourself first this week? Would the world genuinely stop turning? Would it make you into a completely selfish bitch? Now, I know the answer to both of those things is a definite no. I'm not gonna lie. It might feel uncomfortable. Some people might be a bit taken aback. But even just thinking about putting yourself first and where you tend to put yourself in the pecking order of life, it might be quite illuminating. We know that we have to put our own oxygen masks on first, but many of us find that really hard to follow. Yet we're so focused on all the bad shit that could come from putting ourselves first that we forget that there is even good shit to begin with. We might actually gain some time for ourselves.
We might actually be more pleasant people to be around. We might be breaking cycles and modeling the behavior to other people who really need it. And we might just like our lives a little bit more. So I say give it a go. If it feels scary, start with something really, really small. Or if you feel like going balls for the wall, go for it. Pick the safest place to start. Experiment.
Gather some evidence that the world doesn't end, and bet on yourself for once. Remember that everything changes when you believe you matter. And I can't wait to be back with you bright and early tomorrow morning.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1369: Remove the unnecessary steps
Inspired by my view while recording this episode, today we're identifying our own unnecessary steps.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. We have made it. Now, as I sit and record the daily prep, I'm sitting in front of my window and one of the things I can see, apart from a very industrial view of Leeds, a gate. Now, I use this gate all the time and what I realized recently is that there is a button next door to the gate. And the button it does absolutely fuck all. If you were coming up on this gate for the first time, you would assume you need to press this button in order to get it to release. And you would probably think that it did work because the gate would open. But here's the thing, the gate opens anyway.
And the reason I'm sharing this pretty boring story about a gate today, and if you've listened for more than five minutes, you'll know that there's going to be a barmy metaphor in here, it is because I want us to think about the unnecessary steps that we take in things that maybe we do every day. I know I am the queen over complicating things, and I know sometimes adding in steps can make my brain feel super productive, but they're often unnecessary. So I want you to think about your own life and your own imaginary gait and have a think about if you have any unnecessary buttons. Do you have any arbitrary rules that you have to do something before you do something else that actually doesn't really help? Are there any things that you do maybe once a week, once a month that you add unnecessary steps to or you're perhaps too perfectionist about and the things you're adding to it don't actually matter? Where are some situations where you could just open the gate and go through it rather than wasting your precious time and energy pressing a button that doesn't need to be pressed?
And I'm not talking about this from the perspective of trying to become as efficient and as productive as possible, but rather reclaiming your time and energy for the things that actually matter and giving some of you back to you. Whatever you've got going on this weekend, I hope you find some unexpected joy and delight. And I look forward to being back with you in your inbox on Sunday if you're part of my fabulous email community, or in those lovely lugholes on Monday, back for a brand new episode of the Daily Pep. I'll see you then.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1367: You matter (even when it’s inconvenient)
Today's episode is a bit silly, but it's pretty damn powerful!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday to you and a very happy hump day. So I've got a bit of a silly one for you today and one I'm hoping gives you a couple of ahas. So a couple of minutes ago I was sitting here ready to press play, I've got my headphones on, the microphone is all plugged in, I'm nice and comfy and ready to go. And I realized that I really need a wee. Not desperate, but the need is definitely there. And my automatic thought was, cool, okay, I'll just do this, then I'll take care of that. Because I'm all set up and ready to go and it'd just be really inconvenient to stop right now. And then I realized that is not a very helpful message to send myself.
Especially as I'm starting to realise in my own life that one of my biggest fears and one of my biggest self protective patterns is I feel like I'm an inconvenience. I tend to place small, I tend to put other people's needs in front of my own and I just don't want to inconvenience anybody. And so in that very little moment, I realized that I had a choice. I could either push through against what my body was saying and not be an inconvenience to myself and get it done and wait to have a wee till after, or I could just listen to myself, listen to my body and get up and have a fucking wee. And the reason I'm sharing this today is that so many of us are taught to override our own needs. I know I'm not the only one that worries about being inconvenient. I worry about getting in the way. And I'm kind of sick of treating my body like it is an inconvenience as well.
We are humans, we have needs. And if you've been here for more than about three episodes, you'll know that I am very big on this idea that everything changes when you believe you matter. And I think one of the ways that we can show ourselves we matter is by listening to those needs when we hear them. Even if it is as silly as listening to your body the first time you need a wee rather than holding on for a more convenient time and only going when you're desperate. This can apply to so many other things in your life, but for now let's just start with the weeing. I told you it was going to be a silly one. I hope it's been helpful and I'll See you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1366: Get the crumbs out
It's time to let go of old priorities and lighten your load!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. If you ever get stuck comparing yourself to other people, if there are certain people that you're really jealous of, this one is for you. So it's often said that comparison is the thief of joy. And while I'm not disagreeing with that entirely, one of the things I'm really curious about is how we can use comparison to our own benefit. Because here's the thing, we all compare ourselves to other people, and at some point or another, there are going to be people that you are wildly jealous of or a little bit jealous of. So to just set matters straight to begin with, that is a human thing. There is nothing wrong with you. So if you give yourself a hard time around this, know that you're not alone.
And in fact, I think our sense of comparison and jealousy can be used as a bit of a compass, because generally, if you take time to figure out what are the themes that keep coming up, you can use them as really good clues about where to go next or maybe what's missing in your own life. And this is where we also put our fabulous creative brains to use, because jealousy and comparison are also pretty nuanced. Let's say you see somebody really toned and you feel a sense of jealousy. Maybe it's not as overt as you also want a six pack, but rather maybe you really want to start working on your own health journey a bit and show up for yourself a bit more. So what I'm saying here is that what you're jealous of might not be directly what you want in your life, and it really is worth kind of digging for the nuance a bit and actually spending a bit of time digging into and getting curious about who you're comparing yourself to and what are the different things that are coming up and using them as clues, especially as you're feeling lost in the artist's way. Julia Cameron talks about jealousy and she has got this fabulous quote, which is jealousy is a map. It tells us with excruciating precision just where and what we earn. So for today's daily pep, let's quit judging ourselves for comparing ourselves or being jealous of somebody else and use it to our own personal gain.
Use it as a way of getting curious about where we want to go. Also, have your bullshit filter turned all the way up, because chances are your dream jitter is going to have a lot to say on this and use it as a map. Now, if you're somebody that doesn't get jealous a lot, and I definitely fall into that category. And I'm not saying that to be holier than thou, it's just a fact. I don't tend to jealous. What I do find really interesting is when I do, that's when my curiosity really sparks and I get quite excited because there's something there and it tends to lead me towards something that I've not been thinking of or a clue of where I want to go that I might not have been previously aware of. So wherever you fall on the jealousy and comparison scale, give yourself grace. Try to choose curiosity over judgment and what you find might be quite exciting. I'll see you tomorrow. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1365: Outgrowing past versions of ourselves
For today's Daily Pep, we're diving into outgrowing past versions of ourselves and why that's not only valid, but to be expected!
Episode transcript:
Good morning daily peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So I thought I'd kick off this week by sharing with you something that I always find really reassuring and takes the pressure off, but I definitely don't hear enough from the world around me. And it's that you are allowed to outgrow things. You are allowed to outgrow past versions of yourself, you are allowed to outgrow things that used to really matter to you, you're allowed to outgrow goals, and you are allowed to change as a person. In a world that often feels unpredictable, the only predictable thing is change. Yet so often, whether because of our own inner dream shitter or because of external dreamshitters, we can end up feeling a bit like a photograph in terms of a single moment captured in time, even if it doesn't reflect our internal world and all the things we've gone through. I think it can also be quite tricky if we're multi passionate because chances are when we have changed, we've had those comments from well meaning and sometimes not well meaning people in our lives of oh, I thought you were into this thing. Oh, you're starting something new.
I wonder how long this phase is going to last for. Comments like that can really haunt us and we forget that curiosity is our superpower and for a lot of us, we're just trying to make the most of this wild and precious life we have. You are allowed to change. You're allowed to evolve, you are allowed to take a new picture. And if your picture is currently in a dark room being developed and you can't make out the picture, then join the club. A lot of us are right there with you. You do not owe anybody in your life past versions of yourself or versions of yourself that they wish existed. We are all evolving.
We are all changing. And if you listen to this thinking, actually I don't really want to change anything at the moment. Please do not go down the rabbit hole of thinking you need to change something and instead see that as a really good thing. Here's to us, here's to our evolving definitions and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1364: In defence of rabbit holes
This one’s for you if you’ve ever felt or been called flaky. Let’s ditch the guilt around unfinished projects and rabbit holes, and celebrate being multi-passionate instead!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Now, as multi passionates, we often go through phases. We get really into something for a set period of time and then maybe go off it. And it's fair to say that a lot of us do carry this weight with us of this fear of being flaky, the ghosts of projects past. We have a lot of feelings about our ability to finish things and follow through. And in the process, we inadvertently deprive ourselves of a lot of joy. I know for myself, I often get caught up in in the tangibles. I have to know that if I'm working on something that I intend to finish it.
There has to be a point to it. And it's almost like everything I do, I'm trying to set out to prove a point to myself that I can commit and I can follow through. So if you're anything like me and you can relate to any of this, today's episode is a rallying cry to let ourselves go down the rabbit holes and do the seemingly pointless shit and actually enjoy our creativity too. I know when I was a teenager, I would get lost in building beautiful rooms on the Sims, and I never gave myself a hard time for committing some time to doing something purely for the fun of it. Yet if I was to do that now, it would feel like a real challenge. And I just say, fuck that. We get to have fun too. We get to do the pointless shit. And not everything we do has to be tangible, measurable, or for a purpose. We get to have a Pinterest board dedicated to the most outrageous version of our dream house. We get to spend time going down rabbit holes of things that we've got no idea how we got into, we've got no idea how we're going to practically put it to use. But we're simply enjoying learning. And the irony of this is that if we can give ourselves that permission not just to do really practical things that have got a point or are going to move us forward, then we're probably also going to top ourselves up and find a lot more enthusiasm for the things that we do want to finish. By not depriving ourselves, we're likely going to find ourselves more motivated, more focused, and we might come across some real treasure along the way. The thing about creativity is that it is about going down rabbit holes. It is about starting things and moving on to something wildly different.
It is all part of the process. And if we lived in a world that saw it as part of the process rather than demonized it, I wonder where we would be. So that is my food for thought for you this weekend. Go do the apparently pointless stuff. Go enjoy yourself and know that in some weird way or another, it all feeds into each other. I hope you find some unexpected joy this weekend. Have a good one, and I look forward to seeing you on Sunday in your inbox if you're part of my email community. Or on Monday, right back here for a new episode of the Daily Pep. Take care.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1362: Let’s add some joy!
Today we’re getting practical! I’ve got a fun quest to give you some hope over the next couple of months.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday to you. So today's episode is incredibly practical and I've got a bit of a challenge or some actions for you to do we're doing. The action itself is just as juicy as the benefit. I know we've all got a shit ton to do, so don't worry, this is a fun one. So today or tomorrow, I want you to find one thing to look forward to for each of the next three months. As I'm recording this, it is just the start of summer and maybe you're listening to this as we're entering a different season, but it doesn't matter because this applies regardless of the time of year. Now, the way I see it, when you plan something to look forward to, there are three benefits. First, you've obviously got the future enjoyment of doing the thing that you're looking forward to.
Then you've got the looking forward to it and the anticipation that can be just as good as the thing and can be the exact fuel you need to keep going on the hard days. And let's face it, it's just really nice having something really joyful coming up in the calendar. And then the third thing you've got is it's actually quite fun finding the thing. Often we get so bogged down in day to day life that we forget to see what's going on in our community in the wider world. And often we can give ourselves a hard time for going down those rabbit holes because we tend to do it when we're procrastinating. We forget that that can actually be an activity in and of itself. So my challenge is for you to find one thing for each of the next three months and just get curious and see what you want to do. You might find that there's some fabulous makers market coming up.
You might find that a TV show is coming back and you're really excited about the next season. Or what might spring to mind is not necessarily an exact event, but you realize there's a friend you haven't caught up with in a while and it would be really good to get a date in the diary. Remember, it doesn't have to be huge. Ideally, it doesn't even have to cost money. And it can be fun simply for fun's sake. And if you are coming across resistance with this, here's a helpful reminder. The way I see it is we spend so much of our time future tripping already. We spend a lot of time thinking about what could go wrong, about worrying about the future.
So if we're already semi living in the future, then why not spend some time putting some things in the future that you actually want to do? I hope in your search for three things, you come across some things that really excite you, that are maybe quite unexpected and really give you something to look forward to. In a world where it often feels like hope is a hard thing to come by intentionally finding hope is a radical act. Enjoy the rabbit holes, dive into the unexpected, and have a good time finding your three things. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1361: An unconventional take on comparison
If you beat yourself up when it comes to comparison/jealousy, today we’re using our own curiosity as a superpower!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. If you ever get stuck comparing yourself to other people, if there are certain people that you're really jealous of, this one is for you. So it's often said that comparison is the thief of joy. And while I'm not disagreeing with that entirely, one of the things I'm really curious about is how we can use comparison to our own benefit. Because here's the thing, we all compare ourselves to other people, and at some point or another, there are going to be people that you are wildly jealous of or a little bit jealous of. So to just set matters straight to begin with, that is a human thing. There is nothing wrong with you. So if you give yourself a hard time around this, know that you're not alone.
And in fact, I think our sense of comparison and jealousy can be used as a bit of a compass, because generally, if you take time to figure out what are the themes that keep coming up, you can use them as really good clues about where to go next or maybe what's missing in your own life. And this is where we also put our fabulous creative brains to use, because jealousy and comparison are also pretty nuanced. Let's say you see somebody really toned and you feel a sense of jealousy. Maybe it's not as overt as you also want a six pack, but rather maybe you really want to start working on your own health journey a bit and show up for yourself a bit more. So what I'm saying here is that what you're jealous of might not be directly what you want in your life, and it really is worth kind of digging for the nuance a bit and actually spending a bit of time digging into and getting curious about who you're comparing yourself to and what are the different things that are coming up and using them as clues, especially as you're feeling lost in the artist's way. Julia Cameron talks about jealousy and she has got this fabulous quote, which is jealousy is a map. It tells us with excruciating precision just where and what we earn. So for today's daily pep, let's quit judging ourselves for comparing ourselves or being jealous of somebody else and use it to our own personal gain.
Use it as a way of getting curious about where we want to go. Also, have your bullshit filter turned all the way up, because chances are your dream jitter is going to have a lot to say on this and use it as a map. Now, if you're somebody that doesn't get jealous a lot, and I definitely fall into that category. And I'm not saying that to be holier than thou, it's just a fact. I don't tend to jealous. What I do find really interesting is when I do, that's when my curiosity really sparks and I get quite excited because there's something there and it tends to lead me towards something that I've not been thinking of or a clue of where I want to go that I might not have been previously aware of. So wherever you fall on the jealousy and comparison scale, give yourself grace. Try to choose curiosity over judgment and what you find might be quite exciting. I'll see you tomorrow. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1360: Just get the f*cker done!
Don’t do it to be productive, don’t do it for anybody else, do it for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning daily peppers and a very happy Monday to you. So I wanted to kick off this week with some slightly unconventional reasoning around just getting the shit done that needs to be done that you might not want to do. When I'm faced with a task I'm avoiding, my go to thoughts are usually around why it's important and that usually means my dream shooter comes up. There's often some shame around the fact that I haven't done it already. Then I go down that rabbit hole of trying to figure out why and it tends to always come back to shoulds and a sense of obligation. Now, when we are already resisting task that is not particularly helpful. So I want to reframe this a bit today and how I want to reframe it is by tweaking that sense of obligation. Now we all tend to be values driven.
We all tend to do the things we do for important reasons and that usually involves other people. But I just want to tell you it is perfectly fine to get things done because you just want to get that fun fucker off your plate. And that can also be great motivation. You don't always have to be motivated by really good intentions. You can simply be motivated by how much future you is going to be grateful that you did the thing, getting some brain space back or just not having to look at that anymore. It is okay to not want to do the thing, whatever that thing is. And the question I'm posing is how can we get it done for your own benefit? And just to be really clear, not just for your own benefit so you can get more shit done. There's a lot of stuff out there about working smarter, but how about living smarter so we have more time and space for ourselves? So whatever the fucker is that you've been putting off, see if you can get it done today for your own benefit.
Remember, it is okay to half ass it. It does not have to be perfect. And that is an unattainable goal to begin with. And also remember, shortcuts are strategic, not cheating. Have a good one and I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1359: Save some energy for you
Today we’re challenging the pressure to finish strong and advocating for a rebellious, compassionate approach to preserving some of that precious Friday energy.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. As we start to wrap up this week, I encourage you to do whatever you can do today to save some energy for yourself. Why? Or not completely arbitrary. Sometimes we put so much pressure on the end of the week, like we have to prove something to ourselves. We put our self worth on the line. We compare what we actually got done with what we hoped we would get done. We find ourselves wanting and while we may not have all the energy left to do the tasks on a Friday, we spend a fair amount of our precious energy beating ourselves up. The thing is, we are often time optimists and generally as humans, we're pretty bad at estimating how long something is going to actually take.
So we often don't even consider the fact that we've done a good amount this week because we're comparing it to this idealised version of what we thought could happen that might not have ever existed. What I'm saying essentially comes down to this. How can you save some of that precious mental and I know this is going to be a bit cheesy, but I'm just going to go there anyway. But also some of your soul energy for you this weekend. What can you decide to just not do? What can you not even half ass but quarter ass? And can you draw a line under this week acknowledge what you have done and just test out saying a rebellious fuck it and save some energy for you? You are allowed to end the week while you leave something on the table for yourself. And if that sounds completely counterintuitive, then I invite you to lean into it even more and test it out. So here's to leaving some of you for you. Here's to using that for yourself this weekend.
And here's to knowing you probably got way more done than you give yourself credit for. I'll see you back here bright and early on Monday morning in your lovely ears. Or in your inboxes on Sunday if you're part of my email community. I look forward to seeing you then, take care.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1357: What if it actually goes okay?
This one is for my fellow catastrophisers and would-be excellent health and safety officers!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. Now, I think a lot of us are feeling pretty tired lately, and I have this saying that goes tired equals bullshit thoughts. So today I thought I would interrupt some of those bullshit thoughts, especially around predicting the future. Now, I am really good at catastrophizing. Give me any situation and I can tell you how it would go catastrophically wrong within, say, three steps. I think I would truly flourish in a role where risk assessment and health and safety was involved. My ability to create the downfall of humanity based on something really quite banal verges on incredibly impressive. And the thing is, when we're tired and when we have more bullshit thoughts, sometimes we're even more able to see the risks.
But here's something that I've learned that I think you've learned too. And it's that life is very rarely predictable. And I mean that in a really good way. There are so many times where I have stayed up the night before, panicking about all the ways it can go wrong and creating such a vivid image in my head to find that actually it wasn't that big of a deal. Or actually it went okay. I know there's that brilliant quote about what if you fall, but what if you fly? And that can be really helpful, but sometimes that doesn't feel accessible to us. And actually the best possible outcome is that actually goes okay. Not everything has to be absolutely spectacular or life changing.
Sometimes it is more than enough for something that we were worried about simply to work out. All right. And that's where I invite you to land today. Now, if you've been around a while, you'll know that I am absolutely, completely against toxic positivity. And I want to acknowledge that sometimes things do go to shit. But actually, if we look back at our lives and all the things we've worried about, that vivid image in our head rarely came true. And in fact, we've probably got more memories of, oh, I can't believe I spent so much time worrying about that and it went okay as opposed to when it didn't. So I invite you to think about today.
What if it actually goes alright? What if that vivid disastrous version in your head has been cooked up by your dreamshitter as a way to stop you from doing the scary thing? And what if, and this is a scary one and hard to contemplate, what if the worst case scenario did happen and you survived? You are much more capable than you think you are. And sometimes I think the image of ourselves we have in our head versus our reality. There's a bit of a mismatch. Because we are resilient, we just tend to forget it. So a lot of food for thought there. Keep noodling on it and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1356: You don’t have to do it all
If your to-do list is haunting you and you’re ready to give up some of the shame/guilt, today’s episode is for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. For today's episode, I want to take the pressure off a bit and I want you to have a think about your to do list and something that's been on there a little while that you can just let go of. So often we carry around with us so much extra baggage in the form of things that we meant to do that we never got round to, that perhaps aren't even that relevant anymore, or the time has simply passed. It almost serves purely now as a reminder of the fact that sometimes we don't do the things that we say we're gonna do. Sometimes we drop the balls or the plates for on the Floor and our dream shitter loves that stuff whenever we're doing anything vaguely scary. But here's the thing. Maybe you're the only one that is bothered by the fact that the thing didn't get done. Maybe it wasn't even that important in the first place.
Or maybe you just need to make peace with the fact that it didn't get done and consider the fact that you were prioritising or life was really busy in that moment you simply forgot about it and see if you can find some self forgiveness. Many of us have this image that everybody else has got their shit figured out except us and that nobody else forgets important things. And everybody else has this to do list where they prioritize all the right things and they never drop a ball. But that my love, is bullshit. We go around thinking the real hindrance is the stuff that we didn't get done. But maybe the real hindrance is our attachment to that stuff in terms of the stories we create about ourselves because we didn't do the thing. Of course there are times where we need to address it and maybe acknowledgement or an apology is due, but other times it is about letting shit go. And I know I make that sound simple.
It isn't. But some ways that you could perhaps start is taking the task off your list, or deleting it off your project management software, or taking the note off the fridge. The good thing about how busy life is is that if you don't have it somewhere prominent, you probably will forget about it. And that's kind of the point of this. And if upon reflection it's something you really can't let go of, how can you half ass it? How can you do it with the minimum time and energy expenditure as possible? And how can we get it off your plate and out of your head? We already have enough stuff to lug around with us without the ghosts of to do's that are no longer relevant or we've missed a deadline. Give yourself the grace that you would give a good friend. Know that self forgiveness is a muscle and it takes time to build. And if it feels uncomfortable, that's okay.
And here's to being kinder to yourself than you dare to be. I look forward to seeing you back here again tomorrow. And in the meantime, remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1355: Let’s find ourselves some satisfaction
We’re kicking off this week with an area that’s often overlooked, and massively underestimated when it comes to building motivation.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So as creatives, as multi passionates, and as humans with a lot of shit to do, life can feel a little bit unfulfilling because there is always more shit that we want to do, there's always more shit that we have to do. And because we're so used to moving from one thing to the next, we rarely feel satisfied. So to kick off this week, I want you to think about one thing that would be really satisfying to get done. What is one thing that Friday you.
Would just feel really good about or just be happy to have off your plate? What is something that you keep looking at that needs to be done that would just be lovely if it was done and he didn't have to look at it anymore? Or what is a project that you're desperate to work on but you keep putting off because it's not the right time or you feel like you have to have hours. Whereas realistically, even thinking about it and brainstorming it for 10 minutes could feel really satisfying. That's the question I want you to ponder on today. Because for so many of us, we're getting so much shit done and we're working on so many things and we're expecting ourselves to be really self motivated, we're beating ourselves up and we don't get something done yet rarely do we give ourselves a chance to feel satisfied.
We just expect our motivation and our mojo to just always be there. Yeah, that's pretty hard if you're not leaning into the satisfaction or taking a minute to acknowledge the effort you put into the things that you have done. So often our effort is spread across so many different things and it can feel like we're getting nowhere. But you, my dear, you really are getting somewhere. So this week, my mission for you is to give yourself something you can be satisfied about. Maybe that is finishing off the last 2% of a project. Maybe like I alluded to earlier, that is doing the thing that you keep looking at and meaning to do. We often talk around here about exhaustion and just not feeling it and needing a bit more pep in our step. And intentionally seeking satisfaction can really help. So have a think. I hope you rise to this challenge and I hope this week provides you with lots of unexpected joy and satisfaction. I'll see you tomorrow.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1354: Take the side door
If you’re finding it hard to get started, or resistance is getting in your way, I’ve got a side quest for you this weekend!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. Around here, we are multi passionate and there is so much we want to do. There are so many skills we want to learn, there's so many rabbit holes you want to go down, there's so many projects we want to work on and sometimes getting down to doing them is so hard. It can be hard because of time, it can be hard because of energy, and sometimes it's hard because when we do have the time or we make the space, we don't even know where to start or the resistance is real. So I have a challenge for you this weekend and it involves going through a side door rather than the main door. Because here's the thing, when it comes to doing things that you've wanted to do for a long time, our dreamshitter tends to feed us a lot of bullshit thoughts. And we can have a lot of shame about why we didn't do it sooner and how further along we could be or how further along we should be. So it's no wonder that if you go from wanting to write a novel and beating yourself up about not doing it, sitting down at your computer or with a pen and paper might just feel really intimidating.
And you might get there and think, now what? Or say there's a particular type of food you've been wanting to cook. Doing your grocery shopping and making yourself cook seven new meals without a plan might feel really huge. So those are two examples of taking the main door. But I think we have to allow for inspiration and allow ourselves to feel it and actually get in the mood. With writing the novel, for example, that could be taking yourself out to a bookshop and just perusing all of the possibilities. Or it could look like rereading a childhood favourite and remembering your love of reading and why you want to do this in the first place. And it could also look like going on an artist date and looking at all the fabulous notebooks. I know whenever I'm trying to get back into art and creating things with my hands, the thing that inspires me the most and gets me making is watching videos of other people doing it.
That to me is a much better door to go through than getting all my stuff out. Feeling really overwhelmed, my dreamshitter takes over and what should have been a really nice time goes into something that I just feel really overwhelmed about. Let's say you want to up your cooking game and perhaps learn how to cook a potato particular cuisine. It sounds so simple and so obvious, but go and eat some. Go peruse some cookbooks and go remind yourself of why you wanted to do this in the first place. When it comes to all things creativity, so often I think we label the things that are really filling up our well and things that are getting us ready to do it as procrastination. And I don't think it's always helpful. And I think also we know the difference.
We tend to know deep down what is procrastination and fear of starting and what is actually a helpful way of getting ourselves excited and reinvigorated about the thing. So my challenge for you this weekend is to think about the side doors to fill your cup to get some inspiration, and you might just find that the thing that has felt really, really hard to start feels a whole lot easier and you might also get a bit excited. So here's to side doors, here's to finding inspiration, and here's to Also another really bloody good excuse to go peruse the book and art and notebook section of TK Maxx. Have a good one, and I look forward to seeing you in your inbox on Sunday or right back here on Monday. Take care.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1352: A compassionate check-in
If you keep finding yourself at the bottom of your to-do-list, this one’s for you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Wednesday to you, Bossy Meg is popping in on a hump day to making sure you're looking after your basic needs. So as you're listening to this, I want you to think, are you hydrated? Have you taken any meds you need to take? Are you hungry? And do you need to go eat something? And if the answer to any of those is yes, this is your loving reminder to go do the thing, press pause, come back, and we'll move on to part two. So part two is not necessarily the most fun one and is something that I know I really struggle with and I know it can be hard for many of us, and that is checking in with any appointments. Do you need to book a doctor's appointment? Do you need a blood test? Do you need to renew some meds? Do you need to reschedule therapy? Do you want to check in with a friend that you haven't checked in with for a while? Is there anything coming up that you've been meaning to cancel? And are there any pieces of bullshit boring admin that need to be tended to? Now, I know many of you listen as you're waking up in the morning, so I'm not going to go get you to do that right now, but simply set yourself a reminder for when would be a good time during this week to be prodded about it. For me, anything to do with booking appointments and anything to do with meds is one of my flavors of hard. So try not to judge yourself if these things feel tough because you're not alone. So press pause and go set yourself a reminder or schedule yourself an email for later. And then part three.
Have a look at your upcoming couple of weeks and see if you've got some connection and joy. Time. Do you have time with people you love or treasured? Time by yourself where you get to stop ticking everything off the list for a second and just get to connect with yourself, with others or with nature. And my helpful reminder here is that if you feel like it's impossible or you couldn't make the time or things are too busy, that makes this extra important because we most often need to take a break when we're least able to. So see when you can squeeze something in. And the reason I'm recording this today is because being a human can sometimes just feel fucking hard and there are so many things to do and often we come to the very bottom of our to do list or we simply forget because there's so much else to do. But you get to make yourself a priority. That is not selfish.
It is not self indulgent. It is very essential. Your needs are just as valid as anybody else's and sometimes we can get so caught up that we just forget our needs entirely. We can't remember the last time we ate. We've been meaning to book an appointment for months but it's just not happening. And that doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. That is nothing to feel shame about. It's just part and parcel of being a human in a busy and chaotic world.
So here's to looking inward and identifying your needs, seeing how you can meet them in an easy way that doesn't add to your plate and to putting connection and joy back on the table. I truly believe that everything changes when you believe you matter and tending to your own needs is a huge part of that equation. So go look after you. Give yourself the same grace that you would give a loved one and know your future self will be grateful. Happy hump day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1351: Use your good stuff!
Today, we're ditching the pressure to be 'ready’, and leaning into the joy of using our best stuff!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So every once in a while here on the daily prep, I pop in with a reminder that I've shared before that I think we might all need to hear. So today I'm popping in with some encouragement to use your best notebooks, use your best pens, use the things you've been saving for that special occasion, light that special candle, start writing in that journal and know that where you are right now is good enough. So much of the time we save things because we feel like we need to be more ready or we have to have a good idea or we have to be in a better place. But I truly believe that these things are meant to be used. And I think in doing so, in a weird way, it can really help improve our confidence, because it's a way of saying to ourselves, you get to do that now. You don't have to be some new, improved version of yourself. You do not have to earn the thing.
And things don't have to be perfect to open the first page or to light the wick. What can be something we were previously excited about and was something that we absolutely loved can turn into a huge pile of pressure and it can represent so many things that it was never meant to. A beautiful notebook can turn into a reminder that we haven't written for a while and our dream shitter has a field day. So whatever you've been saving, have a think and see how you can use it today. I know so many of us fear wasting things and want to save things to the right moment, but maybe the real waste is it sat there for so long not being used when it could bring you so much joy and it could be the very thing that gets you into imperfect action so you know what you've got to do. And if this episode feels like the perfect excuse to buy a new notebook, I will not apologise for enabling you. Go treat yourself. I hope you find some unexpected joy today. I think it might very much be linked to using the thing. And I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1350: It’s okay to be grumpy
This Monday on the Daily Pep! we’re embracing the art of showing up imperfectly and learning why sometimes not fixing everything is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. Whether you're feeling it or you're feeling shit, the daily Pep is here to start your day with a compassionate bang. And to start this week and to start your Monday, I want to remind you that not all weeks have to be brilliant. It is okay if you feel grumpy. It's okay if you just can't be fucked to try and be the best version of yourself. It's okay if you're not feeling particularly excited about this week. And it's okay if you look at your to do list and you just groan. Now, obviously I don't want that for you, but I think it can sometimes be really helpful to just meet yourself where you're at.
I know personal development and self improvement is pretty important for a lot of us around here, but sometimes trying to fix every part of your life can just be exhausting. And sometimes you just need a week where you get to be grumpy, where you allow yourself to feel dissatisfied about some things, where maybe you throw yourself a pity party and you don't try to fix everything. I know for myself and so many people around here that feeling shit about feeling shit is a very real spiral. And I wonder how we can take ourselves out of that this week. Maybe you're not really feeling it this week and you can't be asked to give 100%. And maybe that's actually okay. And maybe if you intentionally decided that you're only going to really focus on the essentials this week, it ends up being a much better and kinder week because you've taken that pressure off a bit. Maybe it's okay that you don't feel motivated or super excited to do something.
And maybe in being okay with that, something else bubbles up that's even better. Or maybe you sleep a bit better or feel a bit more able to relax, which is huge. So as we enter a new week, I just want to remind you that it's okay to be grumpy. It's okay not to be in the mood for it. It's okay to be less than excited about what you've got on ahead this week. And maybe shrugging your shoulders and being as kind to yourself as possible is going to be so much more helpful than trying to fix everything. Remember that your inner dream shitter is a liar. It will say exactly what it needs to, to get you to stop doing the scary thing.
It will poke you in the most tender places because it knows you really, really well. But it is not a voice of reason, and it is not a voice of truth. You can do way more than you think you're capable of. And if you just can't be fucked and need to put yourself into maintenance mode, you get to do that, too. I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1349: You're a competent sailor!
Today we’re making space for small wins, gentle self-reflection, and a tiny act of kindness for next week’s you!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So, on the daily prep this week, we have been diving into everything sea and nautical seed. And I wanted to end the week with a powerful reminder I think a lot of us need to hear right now, and something that might just make you feel a bit more capable of handling life's challenges. So we've been talking about boats a lot this week in terms of how we can't control the wind, but we can direct the sails, finding our own anchors and non negotiables and how we don't always need to pull the boat out of water or do a massive overhaul to make changes. I was thinking about how to wrap up this week and I decided that the most helpful thing I can tell you and remind you is that you already are a fucking good sailor. For many of us, we have survived many choppy moments at sea. We have got through hard times. We have successfully navigated downright bizarre things.
And while we might not know everything about the sea and all of its mysteries, we do know a lot. We have navigated so many things with skill, with creativity, and so much problem solving. Yet I think we're the first to completely discount our own experience. When we look at all the what ifs, we forget that we're actually pretty fucking resilient and we might know a thing or two. And here's the thing, it is not about being the world's best sailor. It is about being a competent sailor. And you are a competent sailor. You have so many more skills than you think you do.
You are way better equipped than you think you are. And you've already survived many choppy days at sea. So today, have a bit of faith in yourself. You may not be exactly where you want to be, but look at what you have done. And if you're struggling to find what you have done with, remember that we all have a built in negativity bias and also a confirmation bias. And it can be hard seeing what we've done. So definitely enlist a friend or loved one if this feels hard and if that doesn't feel too vulnerable, if it does feel too vulnerable or you fancy some journaling, make a list of 10 things you got through or 10 things you did that maybe you've forgotten and allow yourself to be surprised. Sometimes we are exactly on course.
Sometimes we stray off course. And other times we come across a completely unexpected island altogether. And that is normal. That is a part of life. Sometimes it can be an absolute delight, other times it can be absolutely shitty. But know that you can navigate the boat and you can navigate the water. And it's also okay to drop the anchor. Just float for a bit.
So that is a wrap for this week and our boat and sailing and sea theme here on the Daily Pep. And one last really cheesy pun to leave you with. Remember, to sailor brate your wins this week. I'll see you on Monday.
Episode transcript automatically produced by Castmagic.io
ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
MORE REBEL-ROUSING THIS WAY!