1570: You do not have to be someone else's comfort blanket
Popping in with a couple of important and sometimes challenging reminders that I've got a feeling you need to hear as we start this new week!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. I thought it might be helpful to pop in at the start of new week to remind you that it's okay to say no to other people and they're sometimes reasonable or unreasonable requests and demands, and to remind you that you do not have to be somebody else's entire comfort blanket. If you're listening to this podcast, chances are you are an empath with a big heart. You are probably a fixer, and you are probably excellent at helping other people. But you might also be really good at putting yourself last, saying no to yourself and putting everybody else's needs above your own. But the fact that you have needs doesn't make you selfish. It doesn't make you needy. It simply makes you human.
And in a world where if we're socialised as women, it can be so damn hard to remember that. The truth is we have to say yes to ourselves before we say yes to somebody else. And not just because that way we can help more people, which we can and we do have more capacity, but because we matter too. We get to be part of the equation. And as much as it may make us roll our eyes, it is true that the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. And it is really fucking important to tend to it. So take today's episode as a huge permission slip to keep choosing yourself to tell other people you're at capacity if you need to, to remember that it's okay if you're going through a sunny season and a friend is going through a stormy season, both can exist at the same time and never to dull your sparkle to make somebody else feel more comfortable. Whatever today looks like, I hope it's a good one.
Remember that believing that we matter and choosing ourselves and saying no are all muscles that we have to build. And if it takes time and involves a whole bunch of stumbles, that's okay too. I can't wait to see you back here tomorrow. And remember, you are doing so much better than you think you are. I'll see you then.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1569: Choose self-compassion over self-criticism
Sometimes the most counter intuitive advice is the best advice of all. So if you’ve stumbled this week, this one’s for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Friday to you. is the end of the week. It is so nearly the weekend and we have made it. Now it is fair to say we all have days where we get a lot less done than we wanted to, where we override our very best intentions and end up sticking the TV on or scrolling on our phones rather than working on our creative projects or doing something that we really wanted to do for ourselves. And there are other days where just nothing much is happening and we can't get ourselves to do anything. First of all, I think we have to remind ourselves that we are human having and we all get times like that. And secondly, I think this is a really important part. The way we react to ourselves and the extent to which we maybe catastrophize not doing the thing has a big impact on whether we're likely to do the thing we want to do in the future.
And also our sense of self confidence. The truth is that we all stumble. We all stumble fairly regularly some of the time. We definitely don't live up to our best intentions or the version ourselves we think we were. And the really counterintuitive truth is that if we were able to have more grace and compassion towards ourselves when we stumble, rather than letting it snowball and get away from us, we would probably have a much better time of sticking to our intentions and also being closer to that version of ourselves that we would like to be. I know I've been getting really frustrated with my own energy levels recently and I've realized that I tried to put about 50 hours into one 24 hour period. I have all these wild ambitions for any particular day. I do just one of those things and I'm pretty fucking knackered.
And then I get pretty grumpy. I start to get frustrated at my own body and it just ends up being really unsatisfying. But I found that on the days where I can shrug it off, I tend to have a much better next day. And I can reclaim the day a little bit more than the days in which I kind of set up camp and really give myself a hard time. And I've seen this with so many of the women I work with. Self compassion gets everybody so much further than self criticism. But because we are taught the exact opposite from a young age, and because society doesn't necessarily work like that, it can feel like a ridiculous notion that only turns out to be true when you try it. So as we get to the end of the week, I invite you to choose self compassion over self criticism and to forgive yourself of any stumbles that you've had this week, knowing that if anything, all it makes you is a wonderfully imperfect human like the rest of us.
See if you can spot where your inner dream shitter is absolutely catastrophizing and see if you can get to a place where you can just kind of shrug your shoulders and think shit happens and keep moving forward. And I really do think that action is self compassion's magical twin. If you can keep yourself in motion even with the teeniest tiniest steps and you can do it with some self compassion, then my goodness, you are gonna fly. So that's it for this Friday. I hope you have a fabulous weekend. I hope you practice lots of self compassion, I hope you keep going with the teeny tiny steps, and I hope you remember that you are a wonderfully imperfect human who adds more than you know to the world. I'll see you on Monday back here on the Daily Pep or in your inbox on Sunday. If you're part of my email community where I'll be sharing just how my latest adventure in Bulgaria is really going, you can join that email community by going to therebelrousers.com/letters.
And either way, I can't wait to see you soon. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1568: This pizza analogy can help you honour your seasons
Today’s slightly bizarre pizza analogy is designed to help you honour you needs and seasons, and remind you that you’re doing okay!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, I want to talk about our needs and how we respond to them with a pizza analogy. Now for some of you, it may be way too early in the morning to talk about pizza. For me, there's never a bad time to talk about pizza, so let's dive in. So we all tend to have our favorite pizza toppings. For me, I am all about the barbecue sauce. It is a fuck yes to pineapple and I love all the meats.
That is what I will go for as my kind of default if I'm choosing a pizza. But sometimes I really don't give a shit. I just want the pizza. Other times I just want a really good plain old fashioned margarita. My default is generally a thin crust, but there are definitely times where I'll go for a deep pan and I definitely won't turn down a Detroit style pizza. And other times I'm just not in the mood for pizza. And the reason I'm sharing this, and hopefully it's all going to start to make sense in a minute, is because I think pizzas can be a really helpful way of looking at our own needs and our own lives. So for example, there are some days where it's just life as usual.
We would pick the same toppings that we always go for and we would seriously enjoy it. There are other times when we are just too fucking busy for pizza. Sometimes we just need to go back to basics and make things as simple as humanly possible. And maybe that's our definition of a good life for now. And other times it is a season to get experimental and, and to shake shit up. And the important thing is none of these are better than the other. Obviously we'd like to lessen the hard seasons and make them more bearable. But a good life doesn't have to be the one with all the bells and whistles on it.
In some seasons we may have just a slice of pizza rather than the whole thing or the whole pie. And that can be really, really satisfying too. And sometimes it can be a grab and go slice. We wish we had the time, the space, the energy for the whole thing. And we just have to make do. And it can suck. And I think sometimes where we end up tripping ourselves up is that we feel like if we haven't got time to make the pizza from scratch, make it beautifully with all of our favorite things, then it just doesn't count. And that is absolutely not true.
We set the bar so high for ourselves, that any effort is completely disregarded unless it's the best thing ever. And that is just completely unrealistic and unsustainable. Because life has rhythms. It has seasons. Things change. And that's okay. It can be really fucking frustrating. And it also means that you're not doing anything wrong.
You are human. So whatever kind of a pizza season you're in right now, whether you're enjoying your absolute favorite, whether you're grabbing a bite of somebody else's, or whether you're just thinking, do you know what? Fuck pizza. Know that you're not doing anything wrong. Know that you are definitely doing more than you think you are, that your best is bound to look different on different days. And remember that cold pizza can be really good. Too often we want to savor things in the moment as they happen. And sometimes that just doesn't go according to plan. But that doesn't mean you don't get to enjoy it later.
So try this rather strange analogy on for size for you. Have a think about what's going on in your own life, what you can give yourself grace and compassion for, and what you might want to set aside to enjoy later. And have a good one. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1567: Are you actually counting your successes?
So often we do the brave thing, and then don't give ourselves any credit. So today I'm sharing what we're missing.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It's fair to say around here that we are not the best at giving ourselves compliments, though we are seriously fucking working on it. And as humans, we are hardwired to see what we haven't done versus what we have done. And I think what can end up happening is we can seriously overlook some things that we have achieved because not only do we think we have to do the thing, but we also think we have to be amazing at it as well. Recently, me and Mr. Meg started a new dance class. We went to a Lindy Hop class and let's just say we both have to two pairs of left feet. And when we got home, we were reflecting on it and I was saying, I mark it as a huge success.
We did something new. We were brave for trying it, especially in a new country. And I shared that. I felt proud of myself and asked if Mr. Meg did. And he said that he didn't think it counted because he didn't enjoy it. And I lovingly say, fuck that. If we only count something as a success, if we did it in the first place, if we enjoyed it and we were good at it, not only is that a really tall order, but we're also going to miss out on a ton of successes along the way.
For me with the dance class, whether I liked it or whether I was good at it is very subjective. But the fact that I went, nobody can argue with that. And that in itself is something to be proud of. So often we only give ourselves credit for our effort to if it pays off or the result is really good. And we forget that often it's the actual putting in of the effort that is often the biggest thing and the thing that takes the most courage. So my question for you this hump day is what successes have you had that you have completely overlooked or not even recognized? And how would your life change if your definition of success seriously incorporated your effort and not just the outcome or you recorded the outcome as a separate success? We are way too hard on ourselves and often we don't see how far we've come because we literally don't even recognize or acknowledge the wins we've had when we've had them, because up until now they haven't been wins. Instead, we've put the focus further down the line. So I think it's time to change that.
Let's give ourselves credit where credit is due. And I think you have a lot of overdue credit, my dear. So that's a wrap for today's daily pep. I hope you find some unexpected joy on this hump day. And please remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter. And you really do fucking matter. See you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1565: It’s okay if a hat gets squashed
If you’re not ready for a new week, are feeling overwhelmed, or you’re wondering how on Earth everybody else does it all, then this one’s for you.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So to kick off this week on the Daily Pep, I wanted to pop in with a reminder that it is okay not to feel ready for this week or not to be ready for another Monday. For so many of us, we live with this really unhelpful myth that everybody but ourselves has everything figured out. Somehow everybody else but us got the memo, and everybody else is doing all of the things all of the time, consistently. They're never dropping any plates. Meanwhile, for us, some of the time we are running round like headless chickens and we are dropping and breaking plates left, right and centre. And I just want to remind you that that is completely normal. To be alive in this time period is to have so much fucking shit to do all of the time that it is no wonder we forget things.
It's no wonder we procrastinate. It's no wonder we put things off. And it's no wonder that sometimes we leave it to the very last minute. And my question for you today is, what if that is simply a reflection of the times rather than some kind of reflection or a character assassination on you as a human being? You are already way too hard on yourself by the fact that you listen to this podcast. I know that you give everybody else in your life so much more grace than you do yourself. And you are doing so much of a better job than you think you are. We all have those lists of things that need doing that needed doing yesterday and six months ago. And sometimes it can feel really, really overwhelming.
And you're seriously not alone in that. There are so many hats that we have to wear to function as a human being in this society, let alone the number of hats that we want to wear as multi passionate and creative people. And it's okay if some of them fall out of the closet sometimes, or if a hat gets squashed the same way. You can't be everything to everyone. You can't do everything all the time. And if you listen to this, this Monday, feeling really fucking overwhelmed, I recommend picking just one or two things to focus on today that you want to knock off the to do list. And if there are any things that have kind of got blaring red sirens, attend to them first. If not, pick the easiest, easiest thing you can do.
Nobody has a picture perfect life or all of their shit together, no matter how much they try and convince you otherwise. And the people that do a really good job of convincing you that they have, chances are they are spending a colossal amount of effort in making it look like they do. So let's use our energy for the things we have to do and the things we want to do. Fuck keeping up appearances. And know that you really are doing a better job than you think you are. Have a good one, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1564: This will make your next Monday better
Today I'm sharing with you a really helpful and easy practice to give your next week's self a compassionate start to the week!
Episode transcript:
Good morning Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So it is the end of the week, and I reckon a Friday at the end of the week is a great time to somehow give our Monday self a pep talk. I've talked about this idea of your future self on previous episodes of the Daily Pep and I still maintain that we are usually much kinder to our future selves and have more compassion to our future selves than we do our present selves. And the thing about a Friday is that we tend to be done. We might be fresh out of facts, we may be so ready for the weekend, and we may be exhausted. And chances are, the pep talk or the bit of wisdom we would give to our Monday selves, well, we just don't hold back. We know what we need next week and we've just got that clarity. One of the things that we used to do in my now retired signature program One Woman Band Club was every Friday when we gathered to toot our horns, I would invite everybody to write write down a piece of wisdom for their next Monday selves.
And on our call on that following Monday, I would share it with them. And every single time. It was amazing. Just the intuition and the clarity and just how exactly spot on it was. So this Friday I invite you to do it for yourself. It only has to be maximum a line long. It can also be one or two words. Just get still for a second and think about what does Monday you need to hear.
And chances are you know exactly what that is. And part two is you find a way to share that with yourself. Now I find scheduling emails to myself really helpful for this. If you for example, know you're not going to look at your planner or your laptop until Monday, post it note can do a great job. Or you might find a fun alternative way. The important thing is is you get it out of your head. You get it somewhere and you put it somewhere that Monday you will find it. And believe me, we did this for over five years and it never ever stopped being magical.
And we were also always so amazed at how it just completely interrupts you in the dream chitter and just stops some of that Monday panic. Because you're rooted into what is really important. So what does your Monday self need to hear? Don't judge it. Trust what comes up. Find a way to share it with yourself. And go into next week knowing that you've got your own back. I hope whatever you're doing this weekend, you do something for you. You find some unexpected joy and that you remember as always that everything changes when you believe you matter. I look forward to being in your inbox on Sunday if you're part of my wonderful email community, and you can join that by going to therebelrousers.com/letters or back in your lug holes on Monday. Either way, I'll see you then.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1563: Your challenge for today...
This Thursday, I have a teeny tiny challenge for you. I've made it ridiculously simple, and it might just add some creativity and curiosity to your day!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's episode, I have a challenge for you, and I want you to try something new today. Now, you may have a day where you are up to your eyeballs, and I am not trying to add stress to your plate, but I bet there is somewhere that you can add something absolutely minuscule that you've never been before. It could be trying a new route somewhere or going down a street you've never been before. It could be reading a short poem on your lunch break. It could be listening to a track of an artist that you've never ever heard before in your life. And one of the ways I love doing that is by picking a country and having a look at their top 100 songs and just picking one of them. Trying new things is a great way of reminding our brains that we can do new things.
They're not always scary. It's also a great way of getting yourself out of a rut or your routines. And it's also a fabulous way of giving your curiosity and your creativity a jump start. Sometimes it can feel like life can get really small, or we're scrolling and we feel like everything's the same, and we forget that there is this huge, wide world out there full of fascinating things that we have never come across. And sometimes it's things that we might never come across unless we intentionally go looking. I know for me, I tend to play the same two songs on repeat for months. And just jolting yourself out of something that you usually do can be a great way of finding, creating and remembering dreams and things you want to do. And it can also help make us feel a bit more alive, which I think a lot of us are looking for.
So your mission today, if you choose to accept, and I really hope you do, is to try something or do something new. Make it embarrassingly small, and you might just find that it might be your unexpected joy of the day. Have a good one. And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1562: Curate your season
Today we're diving into everything intentional living, and the opportunity to curate our own seasons.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So I'm about to embark on our next travel adventure, and it will be the first one where we've taken a flight as opposed to driving across Europe. And my goodness, I. I did not realize just how much I had packed our car to full capacity until I realized just how little you can get in a suitcase. And one of the things that has made me do is really kind of curate what I'm going to focus on during this season. I literally can only take a couple of books. I have maybe five outfits at best, and I've had to be really, really intentional about every single decision I've made. And I think that's something we all have in common around here, that we're trying to build intentional lives.
And sometimes you do have occasions, like this coming trip, where you're kind of forced to curate and edit things down in a way that I think can be really helpful. So for today's episode of the Daily Pep, I thought it could be interesting to spend a bit of time thinking about what kind of a season you're in in your own life or what chapter you're in, like we talked about on Monday, and what's needed for this particular season and chapter. And with many things in life, I've often found reverse engineering and figuring out what I don't want to be incredibly helpful and often gives me more clarity opposed to the blank page of what I do want. So maybe it's about thinking, what do you want to let go of in this season of your life? Or what do you just no longer have room for? It doesn't have to be big. It doesn't have to be profound. It doesn't have to make sense to anybody else but you. But as we're coming into the spring in the northern hemisphere, it can be a really good time to think about what things we want to spring clean, what we want to let go of, and what we are just over now. If not much comes to mind, I invite you to literally think about your suitcase and think about having very little space in there.
Maybe space for a couple of books, a couple of art supplies, and really think about what projects are you excited about right now? What are you intrigued about? What is your capacity at this season of your life and what could bring you joy. So happy thinking, happy curating, and I look forward to back with you tomorrow in what I hope is sunny Bulgaria. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1560: Create your own chapters
Today we're taking back control of our own narratives and our own lives, and getting experimental about our current and next chapters!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So by now you've probably heard of that quote or saying that goes, do it for the plot. And I love that it can really encourage us to go try new things for the sake of it and just go and see what happens. But there are also so many other book metaphors that can make such a difference to our lives. And for me, one of them is thinking about chapters. And we've also heard the other saying that when one door closes, another door opens. And while that's true, there's this kind of air about it where, you know, life happens to us and reframing the things that happen to us. But I think with chapters, there's an opportunity here to really take back control a little bit and also have some fun.
Many of us are big readers around here and we will have read books with the most gigantic chapters that don't seem to end as well as the really micro punchy chapters. There are so many different ways to play with the same form and we get to decide what kind of chapter we're in. And we can decide when we open the chapter and when we close the chapter. So often we use external markers to really carve out the different chapters of our lives. But what if we had our own internal bookmarks? Because there is nothing to say that you can't start a brand new chapter today exactly as you are, no fixing required, and maybe a bit more experimental than the last one. The status quo would say that starting things happens at the start of new year, on your birthday, at the start of a new month, or the start of a new week. And I say fuck that. You can start your new chapter anytime you like.
It can be as long as you like, as short as you like. It only has to work for you. There will definitely be an element of mystery as to what happens in the story, because there always is. But there are some things that you can define and you can choose for yourself. So here's to a new chapter. Here's to really fucking enjoying the one that you're in. Here's to bringing your current chapter to an abrupt halt if you need one. And here's to remembering that you know you best. Have a good one and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1557: It’s not just about time management
Move over time batching, there’s a new b*tch in town!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, I have a practical tip for you. So when it comes to getting shit done, we hear a lot about batching things, and while batching things can be helpful, it If you are an overachiever like me, then it doesn't necessarily always go to plan because my temptation is always to beast mode things, and I also give myself way too much to do. I've spent the past 10 years learning how to work with my brain rather than against it, and I know that batching can tend to lead to burnout for me. But something that is helpful is bundling similar tasks that require a similar type of energy. And bundling can just be two things. It doesn't have to be an endless amount of things. Say you're making a phone call that you've been putting off, do another one you've been putting off at the same time.
For me, for example, recording an episode of The Daily Pep is much better done straight after one of my coaching calls or group programs because I'm already in that brain space. What I found is even though generally speaking, I want to go and slob out on the sofa. It's going to take me 10 times longer later because I've got to ramp myself up and get myself into that headspace again. Whereas while it might feel slightly like an extra lift, it's better to do it in the moment while I'm there instead. This can also work really well if you are somebody who struggles to respond to people, be that friends, loved ones, or colleagues. And having a 15-minute sprint where you just get back to as many people as you can in 15 minutes can often save you a lot more energy than if you build up to one at a time over a period of, say, a week. What I'm trying to say here is it's about energy management, not just time management. It's not necessarily about efficiency and saving time as much as it is limiting the time that we spend resisting doing things.
And taking advantage of building ourselves up, going with the energy when it's there, rather than it becoming yet another thing that you dread doing. So here's to bundling, not batching, unless batching works for you. And if you're curious about your own processes and want to understand them a bit more, and you want to find out why some things are harder for you than other things, and your own patterns when it comes to places you thrive and places you struggle My Rebel Archetype Assessment is designed to help you do just that. It is a genuinely helpful tool. It's also really fun. I thoroughly enjoyed adding some Dolly GIFs, and it might just be the confidence boost you didn't know you needed today. So if you don't already know your Rebel Archetype, you can go find it by going to therebelrousers.com/quiz and enjoy nerding out over your own brain. Have a good one, happy hump day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1555: Acknowledge what you're doing right
As we head into a new week, we're going to set the record straight on our inner dreamsh*tters!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday and a very happy start to the new week. Now, if you got all of us in a room together and asked us what we were struggling with, the answers would be plentiful. For some of us, it is managing our time and energy. For others, it's getting going and just getting shit done. And I think many of us struggle with a very loud inner dreamshitter, because I know if again in that same room I asked us all what we're doing right, the answers wouldn't be quite as forthcoming, and it would take a while to get there. And there are so many reasons for that. That is not a you thing, it's an all of us thing. Because our brain has a negativity bias, it tries to keep us safe, and we tend to keep hold of any criticism, constructive or not, way longer and way tighter than any compliment.
So as you're going about your day today and maybe thinking about a fresh week and maybe a habit that you're working on or something you want to start, I want you to stop for a second and think about the things that you are doing right. Maybe a habit you built that you built ages ago and now take for granted. Maybe something you started and something you've done that you've completely forgotten about. And the areas of life that don't need huge drastic improvements. For all of us, probably in every aspect of our life, we have these little tiny improvements we can make. Sometimes big improvements or big areas of construction are needed, and that is perfectly normal. But look at everything that you have done. We're not so great at doing that.
It is so easy to look at the future and look at the gap between where we are right now and where we want to go and focus on just how massive that gap is. But rarely do we stop and look at just how far we've come. You might not be where you want to be. That's okay. I think that's also part of personal development. Sometimes the more connected we are with ourselves and the more we grow and the more we are into personal development, we see how far we'd really like to go, and that's okay too. I just think sometimes it is worth taking a bit of a pit stop and looking behind you and allowing yourself to maybe even feel a bit proud of where you've come from and let yourself motivate you and inspire you on the path ahead. So here's acknowledging all the things you have got right.
Here's to knowing that if you can't see them right now, it doesn't mean there are none. It maybe means that your inner dream shitter is louder than normal. And if that is the case, remember that your dream shitter spouts absolute bollocks and will say whatever lie it needs to, to keep you safe and to stop you from doing the scary thing. Truth is very rarely relevant. So I hope you have a fabulous start to your week. I hope you find some wonderful pockets of joy, and I can't wait to be back with you as always tomorrow morning. Have a good one.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1554: Go on a wonder hunt
To wrap up this week on The Daily Pep!, I have some very human homework to invite some light in.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So to wrap up this week's Daily Pep, I thought I would share a quote with you that really resonated with me and is something that I think a lot of us just need to hear and think about as the world feels the way it does right now. So I've recently got into the novels of Catherine Ryan Hyde, and there's one passage in her fabulous novel 'Have you seen Luis Velez?' that really struck a chord, and it's this: 'The world is terrible and wonderful at the same time. One doesn't negate the other, but the wonderful keeps us in the game. It keeps us moving forward.' And if you're anything like me and the fabulous women I get to work with, shit has felt heavy lately, which is the biggest understatement ever. But the reason I love that quote is because it doesn't bullshit us. If you've been around here a while, you'll know all too well that I think "good vibes only" is toxic as fuck, and yet we do need to find a way to keep going. And holding those two things in our hands at once, and having it as a "yes, and" rather than an "or" or invalidating one of them, can feel incredibly complicated.
But it is one of the most helpful things we can do, and I think we are definitely, whether we like it or not, getting used to living in the nuance. I am a firm believer that joy is an act of rebellion, and that one of the things that we have to do as humans going through this is fight as hard as we can to retain some sense of wonder, some sense of awe, and to remember that there are good bits. Like the quote says, one does not negate the other, but it is the wonder that keeps us in the game and in moving forward, and I think many of us need a bit of a wonder treasure hunt right now. The messy thing about being human is that we have to find a way to hold grief and pure rage in the same hand as joy and wonder is part of what actually helps us stay human. So that is your very human homework for this weekend. I want you to go and find some wonder. That could look like spending time with people who light you up, intentionally doing something that really makes you smile for no other reason than it makes you smile, or go spend some time with some baby things if you can, whether that's baby flowers, baby humans, baby animals, And remember that life can be pretty fucking incredible, it can just be hard to remember it sometimes. Have a hopeful weekend, look for the wonder, and I'll be back with you on Monday, in your ears as usual for another episode of the Daily Pep, or in your inbox if you're part of my fabulous email community, where I'm sharing all of the behind-the-scenes stuff about my upcoming trip to Bulgaria.
And if you want to join me on that journey, you can join the email community by going to the link in the show notes or by going to therebelrousers.com/letters. Either way, I'll see you then. And remember, as always, that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1553: A tip for all us people pleasers
Today I'm sharing something simple you can do that might feel a bit uncomfortable at the time, but your future self will be seriously grateful for.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So for today's Daily Pep, we are celebrating the power of the pause. In a world where everything has to be instantaneous and everything is so reactive, where we feel like we have to have got everything done yesterday and we have to have the right answer at the right time, I just want to remind you that in most cases you are able to, and it probably is best, to take a pause. It can be so easy to forget to check in with ourselves, only to agree to things we really wish we didn't say yes to, and then have to spend even more time trying to get out of it. Or dreading having to go to the thing itself. The same is hard conversations. I have a rule where I don't answer the phone, I don't answer a message if I'm angry, and I will sit on it for a bit. And all too often we feel like we have to work to everybody else's timescale and forget that we can just give ourselves a second.
Things like, "I'll let you know," "I'll get back to you on that," "Let me have a think," are all are absolutely valid responses, but if we're people pleasers, they tend not to be the first thing that comes to mind, and it does take a bit of practice, and it can be a little bit uncomfortable to begin with. Also, remember that "I'm at capacity" is also a perfectly valid response, and not everybody has equal access to your precious time and energy. So here's to reinstating the pause. Here's to checking in with yourself first before you agree to something, and here's to knowing that your response and how you feel is perfectly valid. You don't have to become a pretzel for other people, and sometimes a slightly uncomfortable no saves you a fuckload of time and stress further down the line. Have a fabulous rest of your day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1552: It's time to get out of research phase
Around here, we're fiercely curious, and our dreamsh*tter loves research because it's so much less scary than doing the thing! So today's Daily Pep! is a jolt of encouragement to take the first imperfect step!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. It is hump day and we are very nearly halfway through the week. So for today's episode, I thought I would share with you something that I have been needing to remember a lot lately. And I've got a feeling I'm not the only one. When it comes to new things or creative projects, we are both very conscientious. We want to do a good job, and we are also fiercely curious. And what that means is that sometimes we can get stuck in the research phase for slightly too long, and then the whole thing just gets even scarier. What I found is there tends to be a bit of a sweet spot where you know the next step and you're still excited, and your dream-shitter hasn't taken center stage yet.
I often find that if I linger after the sweet spot, I tend to start talking myself out of it. I convince myself I just need to do more research, and there is always more to learn, and there is always more research to be done. So this is my official reminder to both of us that we will learn what we need to along the way. As long as we are not self-teaching ourselves open heart surgery, which we shouldn't be anyway, chances are we can pick up the skills along the way. And often we really do learn so much more and also so much quicker by just doing the thing. So if you are finding yourself stalling, if you've moved past that sweet spot, and if your inner dreamshitter is cheering all of the research on, then now is the time to take some imperfect action. Chances are you already know enough, you can find out what you don't know when you need to, and it'll probably also be a lot easier to get going because you're actually enthusiastic while you're doing it and you've got the momentum, rather than having to talk yourself into it. You know enough, you can learn the rest on the way, and just be discerning for when research, becomes a helpful thing to hide behind because it feels more comfortable than starting.
Remember all the things that you've started before. Don't worry if you haven't finished them, that's not what we're talking about. Just lean into that first imperfect step and give yourself some forward momentum. And if you want to find out more about your own patterns and what might help you get started and what tends to make you stop, and you haven't already taken my Rebel Archetype Quiz, I think you're going to find it really helpful. And you can find your own rebel archetype as well as some very fun Dolly Parton gifts over at therebelrousers.com/quiz. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1550: You Don't Need Inspiration. You Need a Tiny Ritual
Around here we're all too good at carving out time for others when they need it the most, but when it comes to ourselves it's a whole other matter. So today's episode is part permission slip, part bossy homework to claim some time for yourself.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. So you probably just heard that this episode is sponsored by The Willoughby Book Club, and I thought it'd be really fun today to share with you 3 really tiny reading rituals shared by Marianne, the founder of Willoughby Book Club. It first appeared as a blog post on their website, especially for the Daily Pep collaboration, and I've popped the link in the show notes. So, Marianne sees reading as a creative act. She writes, "Reading is sometimes framed as passive, but it is anything but. When reading becomes a small daily ritual, your mind starts gathering ideas without you really trying, a phrase that stays with you, an interesting word, a concept or new perspective that begins to nudge your thinking in new directions. Those tiny sparks are often where creative work begins. And the good news is that creative rituals do not need to be grand.
5 pages of whatever book you fancy is enough, or 10 minutes before bed, or a chapter with your morning coffee. And tiny habits are powerful precisely because they are manageable. They They slip quietly into your routine, and over time, they add up to something surprisingly meaningful. Now, books in particular are wonderfully generous companions for this kind of ritual because they invite curiosity, they introduce new ideas, and they remind us that imagination is a place we can visit wherever we like. So here are her 3 tiny creative rituals you could try this week, and she says the simpler it is, the more likely it is to stick. So number 1, the 5-page ritual. Keep a book somewhere visible, beside your bed, next to the kettle, or tucked into your bag, and read just 5 pages a day. That's all.
No pressure to finish quickly and no reading targets, just 5 quiet pages that belong entirely to you. Number 2, the beautiful sentence. When a line in a book stops you in your tracks, write it down. Use it as a prompt for journaling or the spark of inspiration to paint or draw. And number 3, the 10-minute pause. Set a timer for 10 minutes and read without distraction. No notifications and no multitasking, just a small pocket of time for your imagination to wander. So try these on for size this week, especially if you've been struggling to get into a book or you've had a book on your bedside table for so long that it has collected so much dust.
And I want to finish off with Marianne's small permission. She says, perhaps the most important thing about tiny rituals is that they give us permission. Permission to pause for a few minutes in the middle of busy days, permission to follow curiosity rather than productivity, and permission to enjoy something simply because it feeds the imagination. A few pages of a book, an unplugged walk, or a moment spent writing down an interesting thought might not look like much, but these small pauses create space for ideas to surface, for perspectives to shift, and for creativity to breathe. And sometimes that small space is all we need. So thank you, Marianne, for our fabulous pep talk to kick off this week. Here's to finding a really good book And here's to those teeny tiny rituals and the fact that they are often more than enough. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1549: You don't have to optimise every minute of the day
If you struggle with feeling lazy, I’ve got a bit of a challenge for you this weekend!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So one of the things many of us have in common around here is this belief that we are lazy, and honestly, it could not be further from the truth. But because so many of us have this belief that we are lazy, what we can end up doing is trying to maximize every second of every day and trying to fill and optimize any bonus moments we get. Let's face it, if we look around us, there is always shit to do, and there is generally never anybody telling you that it's okay, you can pause for a minute,, and you can actually enjoy a bonus couple of minutes if something gets cancelled, if plans unexpectedly change, or if you find a spare half hour here or there. So my task for you this weekend is to look for the bonus moments, not as time to get more shit done or to tick more things off the list, but as time to do something you might not have done for yourself otherwise, or just intentionally decide to waste them. Often we feel like we are being haunted and chased by a grandfather clock, and sometimes that is the case. And sometimes what we can do to change our relationship with time and reclaim it and get a bit rebellious is to actually spend any bonus time that we have doing something that we actually want to do. Now, I'm not presuming for one second that any of us have heaps and heaps of bonus time or that we have simple lives.
I know that we have responsibilities and we have shit to do, but I also know that the efficiency of the shit we get done massively reduces when we are always on the go and trying to fill every single minute. So here's to going on a bit of a search for some bonus time. Here's to maybe being a bit uncomfortable by not spending it by getting even more shit done, and here's to remembering that you can do something to save yourself time and actually enjoy the time that you have saved. So that's a wrap for this week here on the Daily Pep. I can't wait to be back with you on Sunday in your inbox if you are part of my Letters of Rebellion community, and you can join that by going to the link in the show notes. Or back here bright and early on Monday morning as usual. Have a good one, and remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1548: The courage to try something new
I’m kicking off a new experiment, so today’s episode is a reminder that while doing new things is scary, we do have the courage.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So next week there is something very exciting happening here on the Daily Pep, as I will be sharing and announcing the Daily Pep's first ever sponsor. Without spoiling too much. It is a business that is so aligned to the values of The Daily Pep. It's just such a cool thing that I love, and I know so many of you will love. And it's also a little bit scary. I have always really strayed away from doing sponsors and having ads because I am so protective of my work. And of you, my lovely listeners.
And I knew that if I ever wanted to do it, it would have to be companies that I firmly believe in, that I genuinely think you'll be interested in, and that there is an absolute values alignment. And the reason I'm sharing this today is just to give you a heads up and also to share that it is just really fucking scary doing things for the first time. And to remind you and me that if we're doing things for the first time, it all gets to be an experiment. We get to see it as a bit of an adventure and get curious and just see how it goes. Putting ourselves out there is just challenging. That doesn't mean we're doing anything wrong, it just means that it's a bit hard, and it also means that we care. So that is my news for you today. It's also my invitation For you to do the hard thing and put yourself out there too, knowing that we are both squirming about it.
And here's to holding on to our values like they're one of the most precious things we own, because they really are. Have a good one, and I will see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1547: Something to remember during a confidence wobble
Today I’m sharing what I’m learning through my recent confidence wobble and today’s Daily Pep is a reminder to both of us that we’re not alone, and we’ve got this.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Wednesday to you. Today I thought it would be helpful to share something that I've been going through in my own life because I think it is something we all struggle with, and I keep getting reminded of the same thing over and over again. And I figured that you might need to hear it too. So lately I have been having a right confidence wobble. The perfectionism has been out to play, the people pleasing has been there, the self-doubt has been off the charts, and my inner dream chitter has fucking loved every single second of it. And one of the interesting things about this particular confidence wobble, because there have been many, is that I've really noticed that I've been looking outside of myself for answers. I have been assuming that somebody will know exactly what I need to do, whether that is about life stuff or business stuff, and it has been so, so hard not just to get sucked into other people's confidence and other people's assertiveness, especially when they are claiming that they know all the answers. Now, most other days of the year, I would spot that a mile off because I am so not a fan of that.
I hate this guru shit. I know that nobody has their shit figured out, no matter how much effort they put into trying to make it look otherwise. But I have just been so suckered in because sometimes it is the easy route, and sometimes it is easier to try and borrow somebody else's confidence than it is to try and find your own.. But the thing that I keep circling and spiraling back to is that if I sit with myself, I know I've got the answers. If I get a bit quiet, I also know that I have my own back, and I know that nobody knows me better than me, which can sometimes feel a bit like a double-edged sword because I also know very well what my most successful avoidance strategies are too. So if, like me, you've been having a bit of a confidence wobble lately, I wanted to pop in and say you're absolutely not alone, and get even more selective than usual about whose voices you let in, because chances are your inner dreamshitter is really, really loud. And I think we also have some of our defenses down,, and bullshit that we wouldn't really give two shits about normally starts to feel slightly alluring. And I'm saying this to both of us.
We know what we're doing. We know deep down that we can do it, and if we're not sure what we're doing, we can rely on ourselves and trust ourselves to figure it out, even if it is really fucking frustrating that we always have to. See if you can find a way to get quiet and listen to that quiet voice. For me, that looks like journaling, and it looks like writing letters from my future self to my present self, or to my past self. And know that this is temporary, and it will pass. And if you are not currently going through a confidence wobble, I see you, I cheer you on, and you fucking got it. So that's what I've been thinking about lately. I hope you're having an unexpectedly nice week, and I hope a stranger gives you a compliment.
Happy Hump Day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1545: You do have time (yes really)
Around here we're all too good at carving out time for others when they need it the most, but when it comes to ourselves it's a whole other matter. So today's episode is part permission slip, part bossy homework to claim some time for yourself.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Monday to you. It is a bright, fresh new week, and whether you're feeling it or you're feeling shit, the aim of this podcast is to start your day with a compassionate, if not bossy, bang. Now, for many of us, we do not have the time that we would like, need, or deserve to dedicate to our creative projects, to the things that make us feel alive, or to simply feel like a human for a little bit. But here's the truth, and while it might not apply to 100% of people, it will apply to 99.9% of people, and that is you can carve out 1 hour a week for yourself. Now, it might be across multiple sittings, but it can be done. And I know this because you so regularly do this for other people. How many times during a week do you find the space for unplanned but important conversations with loved ones? And also, I know I'm guilty of this, how often do you end up on your phone just scrolling through more shit? I think one of the reasons we feel like, and it is accurate for a lot of us, we don't have enough time is that the time we wish we had almost becomes like this fantasy idealized thing. But you don't necessarily need an hour continually uninterrupted surrounded by your favorite materials with just the right lighting and the perfect notebook. You do not have to go to a particular place.
You can just stay on the sofa with a TV show on in the background and scribble something in your journal. You can put a notebook or something you're working on on the kitchen counter and reflect on things while you're waiting for the rice to cook. And while you might have a special place you'd prefer to do the creative work, you can also just go with what is the easiest and most likely to happen. Now obviously this is partially a logistics issue and a practical issue, But also, I think it's a permission issue too, because if we're socialized as women, we are not brought up to believe that we can claim time for ourselves, and often it just becomes second nature to put everybody else before yourself. So in case you need to hear it, you are allowed to carve out time for yourself. And like when a friend or colleague rings up with some kind of emergency,. You are allowed to have your own emergency. You are allowed to put everything on hold and go tend to yourself.
So that is my encouragement for you as we start this week. I know many of us have wildly complicated and nuanced lives, and I'm not trying to prescribe a one-size-fits-all solution here. And it is true that sometimes one of the ways in which we have to use our creativity is getting creative about how we can even find the time for it. But know that you deserve that time. You do not have to earn it. And even if you have to find it in the margins, there will be some for you to take. Have a fabulous start to your week. I hope you find some unexpected joy, and I can't wait to see you bright and early back here tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1544: Sassy Meg returns!
We’re wrapping up this week on the Daily Pep with a good old fashioned sassy one.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. So this week we are ending with a sassy one, and I think it's been a while since we did one of these, so let's go there. Now, in the work I do, I get the joy and the privilege of of knowing so many women like us who maybe struggle with getting shit done, struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing, have so much great shit to give the world, and a really loud inner dreamshitter, alongside maybe a quietly rebellious streak where we just want to be fully ourselves, and maybe we've come to a bit of a fuck it moment in our lives. And today we're harnessing that kind of fuck it energy when it comes to people pleasing and the idea of disappointing others. So, for many of us, we would much rather say yes to somebody else to keep the peace, to avoid disappointment, or because we think we should. And what we forget is that sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes, when we are saying yes to other people, we're also saying no to ourselves. And the problem is it can feel easier in the moment to break our own promises to ourselves and to somebody else, but in the long term that leads to a lot of resentment, a lot of frustration, and it can make life feel just slightly unfulfilling and unsatisfying. And because we do it from a place of wanting to be helpful, being conscientious, being a good friend, family member, coworker.
Sometimes we can end up feeling grumpy or bitter and not really knowing why until we realize the full extent of maybe how often we've said no to ourselves. So I'm popping in with a firm but friendly reminder that every yes has a cost. Now, this isn't about becoming some total bitch and never saying yes again, ever.. But it's just a bit of a reminder to consider the fact that when you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else. And if we usually tend to end up on the bottom of our priority list in the first place, we might be saying no to ourselves more than we think. So if you want to put this into practice, I have a challenge for you this weekend, and it is to intentionally say yes to yourself. It doesn't have to be some massive thing. We're building a muscle.
I recommend maybe starting small if it feels a bit intimidating, but if you're like, fuck it, I'm all in, then please go all in. And I ultimately want you to remember that you do matter, your needs are important, you may have a fuck ton of things going on in your life, and so may your loved ones, and I'm not trying to diminish or invalidate that, but you also get to be part of the equation too. That is not selfish, it is very necessary. So that is your bossy homework for me for the weekend. Find a way to say yes to yourself. Know that in doing so, you are reminding yourself that you matter. And as always, everything changes when you believe you matter. So let's go get that. Let's claim our rebellion. And let's have a good one.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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