1128: Tiptoeing into finding our people
When it comes to living a life you love, sometimes it can feel like you're doing it on your own, today I'm sharing some helpful things to help you find your people.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Thursday to you. So this week on the daily pep, I am sharing the most powerful things that I have found about getting shit done and taking your dreams off the someday pile. In celebration for registration being open for my flag group coaching program, One Woman Band Club. And today, I wanna talk about being vulnerable and community. So I think it is fair to say for a lot of us around here, we think differently. We see through a lot of the bullshit, but we also have a pretty mean dream shitter. And I know for myself, this can be a really confusing combination, and it can be so easy just to automatically go to beating ourselves up and thinking there is something wrong with us rather than challenging a lot of the bullshit out there.
If you've listened before, you know that I have major beef with the whole toxic positivity and good vibes only thing, and also a lot of the bullshit we get sold to about productivity. I am also a recovering people pleaser and recovering perfectionist, and it can be pretty fucking confusing. And sometimes my dream shitter will convince me that I'm the problem. And if only I was wired a different way, things would be easier. Now I don't think I'm alone in having these thoughts, but it can often feel like we are alone, especially if we go against the grain not because we wanna be different, but because that's just how we feel and we wonder why nobody else is saying it. Something hugely started shifting for me when I started having these conversations. I started having them with friends. I started having them as conversations over on The Couragemakers Podcast.
And there was part of me that was like, shit. If I say these things out loud, what if I'm the only one? But my goodness, I wasn't. But it can be so easy to think that we're the only ones and to struggle on our own. But sometimes we have to get really brave and dig into that vulnerability and share the fact that actually some of this is bullshit, and we're actually struggling behind the scenes. It can be so easy with social media to see everybody else's highlight reels and imagine we're the only ones having the struggles that we are, But that is absolutely not true. But unless we stop talking about it, we don't necessarily know that. So one of the things we do every week in One Woman Band is we have a group coaching call. We tend to alternate between q and a's and themed calls, and my goodness, we really go there when it comes to the themed calls.
So recently, we've been diving into how to have fun as an adult and why that is really hard, the difference between having faith in ourselves and showing up for ourselves, and why we tend to put ourselves last. And that is just from the past 60 or so days. And the magic, I think, comes from the fact that not only is it cathartic and that we feel less alone, but also when we start to talk about it as a group, we start to come up with alternatives. We start to change our mindsets, and we start giving ourselves permission to do the things we actually want to do, and we stop being so damn hard on ourselves. Another thing that I find is just fucking magical is the fact that when you have a group of women in one place and you're seeing somebody who you think is really cool sharing about their own self doubt, it makes you realize how full of shit our dream shittters are and also how unoriginal they are. And by consequence of that, you start thinking, okay. If everybody else's dream shitter is making up so much shit and is wildly inaccurate, then why do I take my own so seriously? And the courage and the self belief and the confidence that grows from that is simply contagious. So I'm sharing this for two reasons.
Number 1, I am shamelessly plugging the fact that registration is now open for the September round of One Woman Band Club, and the early bird offer of a bonus one to 1 coaching session with me ends tomorrow. But number 2 is to start tiptoeing into those conversations. Start bringing up how you see things even if it feels really vulnerable. Choose the people wisely. For example, if somebody is always critical of you, they're probably not gonna be the best person to have that conversation with. But see if you can start to get a bit more vulnerable with those around you. And if you don't have people around you, start tiptoeing into finding your people. And if you've been more than tiptoeing but struggling to find your people, keep going.
They are out there. You really aren't alone in having moments where you feel like an absolute fraud, moments when you look around the world and you just think, is is it just fucking me? And moments where self doubt and your dream shitter takes over. If you can't find your people, listen to the podcast I definitely found for me when I was starting out in building a life I love. Just hearing other people who were also doing it normalized it for me. I no longer felt like I was doing something really weird that people around me really didn't get. I saw that I was one of many, and it made, honestly, the world of difference. Community can look like many, many different things, and you get to do that on your own terms and in your own style as well. So here's to surrounding yourself with people who lift you up rather than tear you down, whether that is online, in person, or surrounding yourself by people who just get it on podcasts or books.
And here's to remembering that we might be square pegs in round holes, but, a, we do not have to shave down our sides to make ourselves curved and rounded to fit in that hole. For me, I know that's not even possible to begin with. And, b, we'd probably fucking hate it even if we could. So I hope you find some unexpected joy today. If you've been meaning to check out or join 1 woman band club, I definitely recommend doing it sooner rather than later. And all the details are over at the rebel rousers.com/onewomanband. And my dears, I will see you tomorrow. And please remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1127: Flexible structure for rebels
Although we often rebel against structure, (even if we set it ourselves) if we can find the right amount of flexibility - we can thrive!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Wednesday to you. This week, I've opened the doors to the next round of my fabulous group coaching program, One Woman Band Club. And I am sharing the most helpful things that I've found since running One Woman Band for 4 years now. All about showing up for yourself, getting shit done and getting out of your own way. If you've been thinking of joining, I want to remind you that the early bird bonus ends on Friday. So if you sign up before or on Friday, alongside the 100 day program, you also get a 60 minute 1 to 1 coaching session with me. We can cover a lot of shit in 1 hour.
We can seriously work some magic. So if you've been thinking of joining anyway, I really recommend joining by Friday to take advantage of the early bird offer. You can find out more by going to the rebel riser.com forward slash one woman band, where you can find out how exactly the program works, what other fabulous people have said about partaking in it, and also reserve your spot. So for today's episode, I wanna dive into something that you might have heard me talk about here on the daily pet before, and it is how much I fucking love a container. So around here, we tend to be pretty rebellious, and we tend to resist structure, and I am with you. But if we can get the balance right and I don't really love the word balance, but we're just gonna use it for a second. If we can get the balance right between flexibility and structure, we can truly fucking thrive. Now I am someone that can spend and loves to spend all the hours doing all the planning with my colored pen, with my highlighters, making it pretty.
And then I look at the plan, and I rebel against it even though it is a self imposed plan, and I've created it myself. And I know I am not alone in this. But something really started to change for me when I just started implementing containers. So, for example, one of my containers is life bingo. So rather than time blocking when you're gonna work on what you wanna work on this week, You create your own bingo card of the things that you want or need to do, and you give yourself permission to do them at any point that you want to do. One of the things that I hate the most about this whole toxic productivity hustle culture is it takes the emotion out of it and just assumes that we can just get shit done whenever we want to. And then when we can't, we beat ourselves up. But there is so much more to it than just doing the thing.
It's how we feel about doing the thing, the baggage that is attached, the resistance that comes with it, and all of the emotions. Now for me, something like life bingo is really helpful because I've got the container, I know where I'm aiming for, but I've also got the freedom to figure out how to get there myself. I can decide on the task based on what I feel like doing. I can also bring my energy levels into account, and it stops me from wanting to rebel so much. And that's also why I think having a 100 day container really works because a year is too long. We forget our goals, and we just spend half of the year beating ourselves up. But a 100 days is long enough to make some serious progress, but it's also short enough that it feels doable and there's a light at the end of the tunnel. The same way as for 1 woman band, we have regular things to show up for with people you are familiar with who are really cheering you on, and that can just help so much.
Because if you're not feeling something or something's feeling hard, you can think, okay. I've got coworking on these days. I'm gonna put that off until then. I'm gonna do it then. And you can create some space rather than just beating yourself up until then because you've got a plan. And containers are also really helpful for building muscles that we desperately need but struggle to make the time for. So for example, on Fridays, we toot our own horns, we review our weeks, and we find the things to be proud of. And it makes all the difference having a container there where we actually do that work and we actually acknowledge our wins.
And believe me, it makes our weeks feel so much more satisfying. So if you are a rebel like many of us around here, if you love freedom but you resist structure, I really recommend trying to think about things in terms of containers. And they can be really fun too. I've shared here before on the daily pep how I love the song Bohemian Rhapsody because it is truly amazing how much you can tidy up during the period of that song. And I also love my 45 minute fuck it sessions where I set myself a period of time to do all the things that I really can't be fucked to do. And that particularly helps me because I know when I'm thinking of all the things I should be doing or I have to do. I've got that container set aside. It's gonna get done, and it helps me to give myself a bit more of a break.
So here's to thriving in containers, here's to holding on to our freedom, and here's to doing things our own damn way. And finally, because I can't seem to stop talking, I really, really do love containers, here's to knowing that just because you're doing something in a different way to other people, that doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong. It means that you've found your own ways, and that is a strength, not a weakness. Have a beautiful day, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1126: Non-scary accountability
Accountability, as scary as it might sound, can be invaluable in getting sh*t done. Today I share a little about my experience with it, and how it can be useful for you too!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Tuesday to you. So before we kick off and dive into today's episode. I wanted to quickly remind you that the 1 woman band open day is happening today. So if you wanna come, hang out, get unstuck, get some shit done with some fabulous company, and have a good laugh along the way, I would love to see you for the open day. It's run as a drop in. You're more than welcome to attend as much or as little as you'd like to. You can find out more by going to therebelrousers.com/openday, and I'll take you through the schedule really quick.
The following times are based on the UK time zone. So if you are outside of the UK, I recommend nipping over to a time zone converter to figure out what it would be for you. So we are starting with a kickoff Huddle where we are setting our intentions and learning to plan our weeks live in action, rebel style, between 12:30 and 1:30 PM. We have coworking between 2 PM and 5 PM, where we're really gonna get some shit done together and work in dedicated time chunks to really knock some things off our list, make some serious progress, and get our heads down even if it is getting our heads down on actually doing something nice or creative for ourselves for once. Then between 6:30 and 8:30 PM, we are having a group q and a coaching call where you can come along and pick my brain on anything and or do some live coaching. And we'll all really get our heads together on whatever you're stuck on, want feedback on, or what you wanna dive into. The open day is all about giving you a chance to come and experience the magic of 1 woman band for yourself. And what I always say is come along even if you have no intention of joining, and you just wanna get some shit done.
I am not gonna be selling to you. I'm not gonna be pitching to you. If all you get from it is a load of shit done and meet some cool new people, then I am one happy motherfucker. You can register and get the zoom link by going to therebelrousers.comforward/openday and I would truly love to see you there. So one of the things I talk a lot about is co working and the idea of external accountability and doing things in short time chunks. Now one of the things I've seen time and time again is that you get together a group of people and you give them 45 minutes to work on something, and everybody is amazed at what they get done. I think for so many of us, we believe that if we wanna make progress and we have to have a whole afternoon, and often when we do have that whole afternoon, it is really easy to do anything but the thing that we, quote, should be doing or want to be doing. I know when I first discovered coworking, I was skeptical, and it just sounded weird.
Like, getting together in a room of essentially strangers or getting together with 1 stranger, both telling each other what you're working on and going to do it. It just felt really odd, but the first time I experienced it, I just I just got it, and it's changed so much for me. I am somebody who left my own devices. I will always wiggle out of doing things. Avoidance tends to be my go to, and I always convince myself it is gonna be so much harder than it actually is, and I simply couldn't possibly have the time. Now while those things are sometimes true, they're not always true. And a lot of the time, I think we can really surprise ourselves. I found that doing things like coworking and working with a timer really, really helps those of us who rebel against traditional structures, who maybe have a neurospicy brain, and it also gives you a real win.
Now accountability can sound really scary. It can sound like a drill sergeant who is gonna shout at you if you don't get it done. But another of my biggest biggest lessons that I've learned running 1 woman band club for 4 years now is that you get so much more shit done with self compassion rather than beating yourself up. It is so counterintuitive. It sounds pretty illogical, but it is so true. And I know I have helped so many women get so much shit done by having a really good laugh, by going off topic at times, and really breaking things down than I ever could have if I was a drill sergeant, which let's face it, that just isn't me. To absolutely butcher something Brene Brown said, change does not happen from a place of shame. Shaming ourselves into doing something never works, so we might as well take a different approach.
So even if you find the idea of accountability scary, try getting an accountability buddy. Try some coworking. And if you wanna do that today and just say fuck it, I'm just gonna give it a try and see what it's like, I'd love to see you at the open day. We truly get so much shit done, but we also have a really good laugh, and it is just really lovely. You can register for free by using the link in the show notes or go into therebelrousers.com/openday. And here's to getting shit done today, with a shitload of compassion, some joy, and trying a different tactic. I'll see you tomorrow or maybe later today.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1125: On Mondays, we set intentions (+ a fun invite!)
Instead of starting Mondays feeling scattered and behind, let’s take a positive approach, and get our ducks and f*cks in a row.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Monday to you. So doors have officially opened to my flagship boot coaching program, One Woman Band Club. And this week to celebrate the occasion, I thought I would share 5 different things that I have found so helpful when it comes to taking your dreams off the Sunday pile, showing up for yourself, getting out of your own way, and also what I call compassionate productivity. Now a lot of this stuff I talk about this week, we are gonna be doing live together happening tomorrow, which is Tuesday, 16th July. So if you fancy come to hang out and just giving it a try and come in and get some shit done, I'd love to see you there. You can find out more by going to therebelrousers.com/openday or check out the link in the show notes. So in 1 woman band club, we kick off on Monday by getting our ducks and fucks in a row.
We spend some time intention setting and really getting clear on what is important for that week. It is all too easy to start a Monday feeling like you are truly behind already and just taking a really scattered approach, which not only feels overwhelming, but isn't actually that effective either. And I think it also really ties into something we don't talk about enough, which is the fact that our weeks end up not feeling satisfying or fulfilling because we get to a Friday, and all we can see is what we haven't done, and life can feel like an endless to do list. So one of the things we do during our Monday kick start Huddle is we choose our 3 priorities for the week. Now this is not about doing the most impressive sounding things. It's also not about doing the biggest things. It's about doing the things that Friday you is gonna be so damn grateful that you did and things that you're just gonna feel really proud of if you get them done. It's not about writing down the things that you know that are gonna happen anyway unless they come with a lot of resistance and definitely add them.
But have a think about what would actually really help you. What would you be genuinely really grateful for your future self for doing? And it also really helps prioritize what is actually important. Sometimes that looks like really tangible things like saying no to events on our calendar or extra tasks that we've been asked to do or things that just aren't really that important. Or they can be really intangible things, like saying no to people crossing our boundaries, saying no to self doubt, and saying no to giving ourselves a hard time when we really need to give ourselves more grace. While that might sound really fluffy and intangible, I found that it is so helpful to give our brains something to focus on, and it can also help with the sneaky bastards that our dream shippers because we almost expect it and see it work rather than taking it as straightforward truth. So if you fancy doing that, live and action together, being cheered on by a fabulous group of women, and you really wanna try it out for yourself. We're gonna be doing a kick start huddle tomorrow at 11:30 AM to 12:30 PM during their One Woman Band Open Day and I would love to see you there to meet you if we haven't met before and to do this live together. You can sign up by going to therebelrousers.com/openday.
You can have your camera on. You can have your camera off. You can participate as much or as little as you'd like. And I think you might be surprised by just how magical this is. So have a good one. Here's to spending a bit of time getting intentional and getting your ducks and fucks in a row. And, also, here's to saying no to things that don't honor you and questioning your automatic guesses. I'll see you back here bright and early as always tomorrow morning for the daily pep, and perhaps live on Zoom at 11:30.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1124: A sassy one about your time and energy
I firmly believe our time and our energy are two of the most precious things we have, and today's episode is a rallying cry to protect them fiercely!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Friday to you. It is so nearly the end of the week and I have a sassy 1 to wrap us up. Now, 1 of the things I firmly believe is that your time and your energy are 2 of the most precious things that you will ever have. And they are also 2 of the things that are usually the easiest to give away. To give away to things that don't really matter, that seem important in the moment but aren't in the grand scheme of things, and to people who are not worth 10 seconds of your time, let alone 10 hours. Now this isn't about being like, fuck everyone and fuck everything and figure out a way to throw all your vices out the window. Because we know life isn't that simple And if it was super easy to do, we would have done it already. But I just wanna remind you that you do get to say no to people.
That does not make you selfish. And you get to have your own back and stand up for yourself. Now standing up for yourself, in my opinion anyway, isn't about saying fuck you. Though there are times when that can be necessary, but it can be refusing to add more things to your calendar, telling people that you are at capacity, or telling people no and not even giving a reason. It can also look like figuring out what the things you really wanna spend time on are. It can also look like figuring out what it is that you'd really like to dedicate more time to and going on a bit of a hunt to find that time. Now this isn't about robbing yourself of all the joys, but it can be clawing back some time for you. Because the main person who is gonna look after your time and energy is you.
Other people aren't gonna do it for you. Chances are other people are only gonna make more demands on your time and energy, and you get to protect them fiercely. Now I get that we've all got wildly different lives and we also have varying levels of control and power over our time and energy. But where you can try and allocate some of those precious resources to yourself, knowing that it is not selfish. And at the end of the day, you probably won't wish it. You worked harder and done more shit that was on other people's to do list. I think Sarah Knight says it best when she says, stop spending time you don't have doing things you don't wanna do with people you don't like. So that is my rallying cry for you as we go into this weekend.
You may not have all the time and energy you want, and that really does suck. But you also don't have to give the limited time and energy that you do have to people who don't deserve it and things that don't really matter. If you wanna dive into some really helpful and bullshit free ways to manage your time and energy and take some multi passionate nature into account. I created my solo adventure all about managing time and energy exactly for this reason. It's really fun. It's a great way to take yourself on a bit of a solo date and have much needed time connecting to yourself. It is self guided. You do it at your own pace, in your own place.
And you can find out more by going to therebelrousers.com/timeandenergy. And that link is in the show notes. So have a good one. Reclaim some of that precious time and energy for yourself, And I'll see you on Monday.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1122: If you're stuck in the comparison trap, listen up!
We might not be able to banish comparison overnight, but this is something that can seriously help!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Wednesday to you. A quick heads up before we begin. If you've been thinking about joining the next round of my group program, One Woman Band Club, which starts in September, you might wanna get yourself on the wait list. Doors open next week. People on the wait list get first dibs. September tends to be a popular round because of that new school year feeling. And also the idea of getting the shit that we wanna do that's been on the Sunday pile done in the last 100 days of the year.
So if you wanna be the 1st to know when the doors are open, head over to therebelrousers.com/waitlist. Now on to today's show. So 1 of the things I think so many of us can tend to fall into the trap of is comparison. We know that to compare is to despair. And as Brene Brown puts it, comparison is a thief of joy. But it can be really hard not to, and it is really human. So for today's daily pet, rather than trying to eliminate comparison completely, I just wanna invite you to make fairer comparisons. Now the reason that this is today's topic is because, as I've been sharing on here lately, I've started going to the gym.
And my goodness. A gym can be a hotbed for comparison. There are some seriously fierce, badass women who go to my gym. They have abs. They are lifting the weights, And they know what the fuck they're doing. And I am 1 third completely in awe, 1 third completely intimidated, and 1 third using it as a way to make myself feel shit about myself. Because I am nowhere near where these women are. But rather than thinking, okay, Really? You're gonna compare yourself to them like that's what we're doing? I just go there.
I completely forget that the comparison is so unfair because they've clearly been doing this for years, and I've been doing it for days, maybe weeks. And to make that comparison is not only really unfair, but it also has no logic to it. But I think for so many of us, it's just what we automatically do. If we start writing, rather than focusing on the fact that we're showing up to do it, we look at bestsellers. And we think, well, I can't write anything as good as that. If we're doing our own thing or we're working for ourselves, we immediately tend to compare our progress to people who've been doing it for years. And when it comes to social media, often, we're comparing ourselves it's really easy to fall into thinking that everybody is having the best life ever, and we're simply not. So I know that we are not gonna cure comparison overnight, and we're not gonna pretend to.
But 1 thing we can do is try to be more intentional about who we're comparing ourselves to in the first place. While that still doesn't really help us, it does make it a bit more realistic. It's 1 thing for me to compare my progress to somebody who joined the gym the same month as me than it is to somebody who has their workout routine down, and it is just part of their life. The same way as for you if you're writing, it is way fairer for you to compare yourself to other writers that have been writing maybe for a couple of years like you as opposed to people who have dozens and dozens of books out. But even then, and this is where I start disagreeing with myself, the comparison still isn't fair because we don't really know what's going on in their life. And let's face it, comparison is a lot of storytelling because we are making so many assumptions. So next time you feel like you're falling down the comparison rabbit hole, I invite you to think about this 1 question. Is it a fair comparison in the first place? And if the answer is no, which it likely will be, then fuck it.
Focus on your own lane, focus on what you're doing, and give yourself props to the fact that you are showing up because that is the most important thing. So try that on for size. Remember that you are doing great the way you are. You really, really are. And as always, everything changes when you believe you matter. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1121: On giving yourself what you need
It's so easy to disregard our needs as luxuries, versus the necessities they are, and that's exactly what we're diving into today!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Tuesday to you. So 1 of the things that I am sick of in the personal development world is the fact that so many people in that space with podcasts, with books, with blogs, try to make out that they've got all their shit sorted out. And I know for me, I definitely do not have all my shit sorted out. Now 1 of the things that I struggle with is revenge bedtime procrastination. You might have heard the term, but it's essentially when you put off and put off and put off bedtime, even though you know your future self certainly isn't gonna thank you for it. For me, revenge bedtime looks like lying in bed on my phone, scrolling, and getting lost down the rabbit holes. I'm really good at telling myself that I'll just give it to the next quarter of an hour and then I will absolutely put my phone on charge and go to sleep. But that very, very rarely happens.
And I think we can give ourselves a massively hard time about this without taking into account that so many of the things that we end up procrastinating on or down the rabbit holes with are things that have been designed to be pretty addictive. There is so much psychology that goes into the user design and the user experience. And rather than thinking about that, we just immediately go to the fact that we have no willpower or discipline. And the reason I'm bringing this up today, it's gonna seem quite tangential, but we're gonna get there, is because lately, I've been thinking about for myself, what is something that I'm terming a luxury that is actually a necessity? So going back to the whole revenge bedtime procrastination thing, I think 1 of the main reasons I do it is because I don't give myself time to decompress during the day. I spend a lot of time coaching and on Zoom and holding space. And I know for me, I haven't been the best at giving myself time to really decompress from that, to quite literally give myself a breather and time to catch up with myself and time just to process everything. But 1 of the things I'm realizing lately is that after a call, if I can give myself 10 minutes to go outside and just really breathe and not really think about anything, it makes a world of difference. But what I've been doing instead is thinking that that is a luxury that is always shit to do that I haven't got time for that and depriving myself of that.
So no wonder when I get to bedtime, my brain's like, come on. Can we just have a quick holiday? Like, can we just take a bit of a break? Because I've been overloaded all day. And scrolling on your phone is a perfect way to do that. So this is a very, very long winded way of saying, what are the things in your life that you know really help you and make a massive difference that you're branding as a luxury rather than a necessity. And the things that each of us need are gonna vary completely from person to person. What really matters to you and what is something that really calms you or gives you life Maybe something that somebody else wouldn't even think of doing or somebody else would think is a luxury. And that's okay. The important thing here is to listen to ourselves and try and give ourselves what we need no matter how uncomfortable that may feel.
Now it is absolutely not all about being productive all the time. But if you're having a hard time giving yourself permission to do the things you need to do take this as an example. I know on the days where I give myself time to decompress, I am way less likely to spend literally hours on my phone at the end of the day. And by taking that time, I can actually get a decent night's sleep. I actually feel more fulfilled at the end of the day, and I wake up feeling a bit more refreshed. So give yourself grace with the things that you procrastinate with. Know that decompression is really important. And maybe the ways you procrastinate are more about you needing that decompression time than they are the fact that you're lazy, which you are not.
And here's to recognizing which things that are luxuries are actually necessities. So, have a think. A lot of food for thought for you here. Have a good one, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1120: Finding freedom through less decisions
Today I'm sharing some really helpful things from a book I'm enjoying listening to, and inviting you to make less decisions!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, daily peppers and a very happy Monday to you. So I thought we kick off this week on The Daily Pep. By So I thought I'd kick off this week on the daily pet by sharing a book that I've been really enjoying lately. And something that I'm finding really helpful from it. So the book is Happy Mind, Happy Life by Dr Rangan Chatterjee, and I've been listening to it for a good couple of weeks now. I was first put off by the title because I thought it sounded way too simple, and it was gonna be all about positive vibes only. But it really isn't. It's really nuanced, and I really love it.
Now there are so many things from it that are so good, and I'm definitely gonna be coming back to it on future episodes of The Daily Pep. But the thing I wanted to focus on today is what he calls the choice trap. So he starts off by sharing that studies have shown that we make 35, 000 choices every single day, and each of those decisions takes cognitive effort. So it's no wonder we're feeling exhausted because every day, there's so many things we have to decide. And in a world where, often with things like Netflix, it can feel like we've got unlimited choices. The amount of choices that we have can actually do more harm than good. Now I know only too well that decision fatigue is real, And so many of the decisions aren't even that important. But the weight of the amount of decisions that we need to make on a day to day basis takes a lot of the energy from the actually important ones.
If we can reduce the amount of decisions that we need to make and make life a bit easier, we lower our stress, and I think life becomes a whole lot more fulfilling and enjoyable. So today, I want you to think about the different choices you can pre make that are gonna make your life that bit much more simple. I know for me, when me and Mr Meg had a stack of films that we wanted to watch, as opposed to sitting through endless choices on streaming services. We ended up enjoying what we watched so much more. I know that if I pick out what I'm gonna wear the day before, which I definitely don't always do, it takes away 1 less thing in the morning. And if I've got a bit of a meal plan for the week and I know what meals I'm buying for and we've got the ingredients for, At least then, we're trying to figure out which meal to have on what day rather than what the fuck do I cook. And I think, as well, we can have a lot of fun with this as multipassionates. I've said before that containers are so helpful.
We think that it restricts our freedom. But I think we can have so much more freedom within a bit of a structure. So, for example, you could decide for the summer that fiction wise, you're gonna find a reading list online, or you're gonna focus on a certain subgenre. You could also create a bit of a personal development curriculum for yourself based on the things you really wanna learn, which gives you the freedom to put everything else on the back burner. And maybe when it comes to decluttering, it's doing it 1 area at a time, and that is probably gonna make a bigger difference. So as you've been listening to this, there's probably been 1 area of your life that sticks out that you could make some serious progress on if you narrowed down your choices. And maybe if you decide, decide, for example, when you start on a morning routine or a bedtime routine, the 2 things that are really important and in what order, it's probably gonna make it much more likely to you to have a good start or end to the day. Sometimes, structure can, in a funny way, give us more control over our lives.
And even though so many of us would probably say that we like unlimited freedom, it can be quite overwhelming to have all the choices all the time. So see if you can have fun with it and think about 1 decision that you make every single day that stresses you out and see what is the easiest way to eliminate that choice. Do future you a favor. Have a think and I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1119: Hold 'em or fold 'em
Today we're turning to the words of Kenny Rogers to help us figure out whether to push through or surrender!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Friday to you. So this week I've been running reprises on The Daily Pep. Because in all honesty, I've been a bit fucking exhausted. Now this is something I usually give myself a pretty hard time about. But this week, I've had a song stuck in my head and I think it couldn't be more relevant. And the song is The Gambler by Kenny Rogers. I'm a big fan of country music, and it's got these lyrics that you might recognise from a meme.
So this song is all about how to win at the game of life through the metaphor of a card game. And the lyrics I have had absolutely stuck in my head is, you gotta know when to hold them and know when to fold them. And I think this is really relevant for so many of us. And I know I was wrestling with that this week. I never intended to do a whole week full of reprises. But every day, as I sat down to record, I just did not have the energy. And it was that decision of, do I push through? So do I hold them? Or do I surrender and look after myself? So do I fold them? And I think there's gonna be different answers for different days and also different answers for your energy levels and also the type of task that it is. While I'm certainly not aiming for perfection here, I have a certain standard when it comes to the episodes.
And I knew that, a, I wouldn't do a great job, and, b, the amount of energy it would take me to psych myself up to do it then actually do it was just way more than I had. And it wouldn't have been fair on me to hold him or push through. So as we wrap up this week on The Daily Pep, I want you to think about any decisions you're making or reflect on your energy levels as you're heading into the weekend and think about whether you're gonna hold them or whether you're gonna fold them. Is it time to push through, or is it time to surrender? There is no right answer, and your answer might change each day, and that's okay. And know that while having limited energy is a right fucker, it's a human thing, not a moral failure. So whether you're holding or folding, have a good 1. I apologize if I've just given you a new earworm. And I look forward to new episodes of the daily pack next week. Have a good 1.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1114: Use the plasters!
Today I'm sharing a really helpful reminder, and some really powerful questions to help you give yourself more of what you need!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Friday to you. We have made it to the end of the week. Now, I started off this week on the daily path both talking about my new adventures in the gym and also about how we're all climbing metaphorical mountains. And I'm wrapping it all up in a neat bow by talking about something that can connect both the gym and climbing mountains, and that is the blisters that can come with a new pair of shoes. It's fair to say that we've probably all had that experience of blisters on the back of our ankles or cuts on the back of our ankles from new shoes. For me, for a lot of my life, I was a hard fast dm wearer, and I knew that whenever I got a new pair, and my goodness, I would make them last, I was in for gruelling 1st week. I put on a really thick pair of socks.
I put on all the plasters because that's kind of just what you do when you've got really sore and bloody ankles. Now I'm bringing this up today because I have very sore ankles thanks to my new trainers. And I was just reflecting on how easy that decision is of how my ankles hurt. They're bleeding. I need plasters. We don't really put much thought into it. We don't think about whether we deserve plasters. It's more like, oh, shit.
Where are the plasters? Do I have any plasters? Rather than having to justify using them in the first place. Yet there are so many areas of our lives where we simply deprive ourselves of our needs. While there certainly are no fixes for everything in life, for quite a lot of things, there are equivalents of plasters. But if we're really to roll with this whole bloody ankle plaster thing, we tell ourselves that we can only use a plaster when the blood is streaming down our legs, or the pain is so unbearable that we can't even stand up. Now if we go back to literal plasters for a second, it's not about solving the entire problem. Essentially, it comes down to 2 things, and that is finding a sense of comfort or finding a bit of relief. And that's where I really wanna focus on. In what areas of your life are you depriving yourself of some comfort or some relief because you feel like you have to earn it, or you feel like the pain has to be worse to justify supporting yourself or reaching out? And in what areas of your life are you continuously putting on the pair of shoes, maybe lacing them up even tighter, and just telling yourself you've got to deal with it.
Now I get that these are not particularly comfortable, pun intended, questions, but they're also really important because we all deserve love. We all deserve support, and we don't have to qualify for that from ourselves or from other people only when the shit hits the fan. So my courageous challenge for you over the weekend is to have a think about what metaphorical plaster would be really helpful for you in your life that maybe you've been depriving yourself of or maybe you've not even really thought about. What is something that, to go back to the theme of this week, would make your life a bit easier, would make this period a little bit less challenging, and would provide a bit of comfort or relief. So have a think about it. Remember that often when we feel our weakest, we are usually exercising a huge amount of courage and that courage usually doesn't feel a lot like courage at the time. And remember that you are allowed to ask for help, including from yourself. So happy Friday, my loves. We made it. Here's to using the plasters. And I'll see you on Monday.
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A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1112: Treasuring the imperfections
Today I'm diving into the beauty that can come with imperfections, and sharing a reminder I think we all might need to hear!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Wednesday to you. So, one of the things I absolutely love is a really good maker's market. I love going around the stalls and I especially love a really good mug. Now, there is something I love about handmade ceramics. I absolutely love being able to see the fingerprint marks that were accidentally left in. I love the irregularity, and I fucking love the imperfections. I love a bit of wonkiness and I will actively seek out the one that is a bit more imperfect.
Now the reason I'm sharing this today is not only to enable you to buy even more beautiful mugs but as a reminder to all of us recovering perfectionists that alongside the fact that perfection doesn't exist many people actually seek out imperfection. It shows a humanness, it shows a vulnerability, it shows a certain sense of courage and I think living a life that is filled with imperfections can come with a lot of satisfaction that we miss out when we're trying to make things so damn perfect all the time. If you've spent time around fellow creatives, you'll know only too well the pattern of somebody showing what they've done and then immediately pointing out all the faults in it. And often, we're just staring at it like, I would never have noticed what you're pointing out if you didn't point it out to me. Or really? You think that's a big deal? Like, I think it's fucking awesome. So remember that your imperfections are massively exaggerated to you. Your imperfections may help you make some really genuine honest heartfelt connections And, also, no matter how hard you try, we're never gonna reach a point where our project or our life is perfect. So we may as well reclaim some of that time and energy back for ourselves.
Perfect doesn't exist, and if it did, our dream shitter would still find a way to beat ourselves up about it. Know that winning the game is opting out to be in part of the game. Know that your imperfections are gloriously, wonderfully you. And chances are, you are criticizing yourself a 1000000 times harder than anybody else, and also, it may be a case that nobody is criticizing you at all. So, have a good one, let this free you a bit today, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1111: There are flowers on the mountain
If like me, the fear of how hard the climb will be puts you off doing it in the first place, today I've got a different perspective (and an overextended metaphor!)
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers. And a very happy Tuesday to you. So, yesterday on The Daily Pep, one of the things we were talking about was this idea that everything has to feel hard all the time. We were talking about how when things do feel easier than we thought they would, rather than enjoying it, we immediately try to find how we're doing it wrong because it simply couldn't be the case that it's not that hard. And today, I wanna take that a bit further, and I really wanna dive more into our goals and how we view them. As I'm embarking on a new chapter, I am tackling goals that I have had for years, and I have so many bullshit stories that I have created and believed about them. And one of them is is that anything worth doing and any big impactful change that you make has to involve absolute blood, sweat, and tears. For me, it almost has this Hollywood feeling of this epic narrative with all the music, and it is just gonna be proper shit. And I've used that so often as a way to not do the thing because the time never feels quite right to embark on something that big. It has felt like too much work, and I've doubted whether I could do it.
Or quite truthfully, I just couldn't be fucked. Now I'm not about to do a whole 180 and talk about how easy our goals are because that's not the truth either. But a huge part of the story that's missing is the fact that these journeys often come with so many unexpected joys. We talk so much about climbing this impossible mountain, but but we don't actually talk about the fact that we can stop along the way. We might actually have a really great picnic. The views might be fucking amazing, and we might come across the most beautiful, colourful flowers that we've ever seen. Rather, we tend to focus on how far we haven't come, how far we've got yet to go, how achy and tired our legs are, and how impossible it feels. Now this is not to go or toxic positivity on you.
This is not to take away from the fact that when we're climbing that mountain, it does feel like a beast, and our legs do proper hurt. Rather, it's a case that 2 things can be true at once. And I think we've spent so much time looking at one side of the mountain that we've completely ignored that the other one exists at all. So if you are embarking on a new goal, you're in the middle of something, and it feels really hard, or you've got this idea that you want to do or this life that you wanna live, but the mountain just seems too fucking big. See if you can find the winds and the beauty and the unexpected joys while climbing it rather than just what it's gonna take from you and then waiting until you reach the summit to have any kind of moment of relief, success, or enjoyment. I truly believe that our goals get to be enjoyable, not gruelling. And that might be a hard one to wrap our heads around because it is so countercultural to so much of the stuff that we hear. As I'm embarking on this new chapter, one of the biggest questions I'm asking myself is how can this be fun, and how can this be easy? And while that does feel like an uncomfortable question to grapple with, It's also one that I can get really creative with.
It's one that I can put my curiosity to work with, and I think it's a hell of a lot kinder as well. So that's something for you to think of as you go about the day. What are the really good bits of the mountain? What can you do to notice the beauty of the journey? And what can you do to make the climb more fun and easier? So that's it for today's Daily Pep. As we are approaching the halfway point of the year and this mountain that is 2024, if you want to stop and pause in a really supported and guided way to actually acknowledge your wins even if you don't think there are any and flexibly plan the rest of the year. That is exactly why I designed my halfway huddle workbook. It's a really good way to have a picnic on the side of the mountain, to rest your weary legs, to get your breath back and to get some motivation to move forward. And you can find out more by going to therebelrousers.com/halfwayhuddle. I hope you find some unexpected joy today, And remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1110: Maybe you're not doing it wrong!
Around here, we expect things to be so hard all the time, and when it isn't, we immediately start wondering what we're doing wrong. Well, today I'm sharing a recent realisation I've had, that's been quite a game changer!
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Pepper, and a very happy Monday to you. So I have recently, as of last week, started going to the gym. Now, I had a huge amount of resistance to doing it. As somebody who's very much neglected her body her entire life and feels like a walking brain now, I have taken my own advice I often give you around here, which is how to make it easier. And for today's daily pep, I just wanted to share a bit of that journey and a reminder that I think both of us need to hear. So I did so much research, as I know a lot of us do before starting. I figured that the best way to set myself up for success, to take away as many barriers as possible and to try not to give myself yet another stick to beat myself with. So I landed on strength training, and I landed on a program that wouldn't leave me completely out of breath and soaked with sweat and something I could just get in the rhythm of doing.
And last week, I noticed something really interesting. Number one, my research paid off because it really was quite easy. And I got there thinking, okay, this is doable. This isn't actually that hard. But the more interesting thing happens with number two. Number two, I gave myself a really hard time because it felt easy, which there is so much irony in that, because the whole point was it was supposed to be fucking easy. To the point that I decided I was going to finish each workout with quite a gruelling five minutes on the row machine. Now, there was a large part of me that found that satisfying in that it felt like I was doing the hard work.
But as the days went on, I realized that it was actually more punishment than it was helpful. It was almost like I was trying to tell myself, well, things can't be easy. If they're easy, it means you're not working hard enough, so work yourself harder, damn it. And I had fallen back into very familiar old patterns. So I share this today as a reminder, both for myself and for you, that just because something isn't as hard as you thought it would be, doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. For so many of us, we just simply expect everything to be really fucking hard all the time. And when it isn't, rather than thinking, holy shit, that's a nice surprise, we instead internalize it and try and figure out what we're doing wrong or what we're missing. So my question for you today is, when it comes to things that you thought would be hard but actually feel easier, what if you're not missing anything? What if you're doing it in a way that honours yourself.
What if you found a more aligned way of doing things? And what if you're operating from your zone of genius instead? So that is my food for thought for today. And let's try it on size this Monday. What if Mondays didn't have to be so hard? What if it could be easier? What would you do differently? I'll see you tomorrow.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1109: The imperfect joy of a tatty notebook
Around here we’re big fans of notebooks. But with that love can come so much pressure to keep them safe and perfect. (Such a metaphor for life!) So today we’re embracing tatty notebooks and the imperfect joys that come with them.
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1108: Find The next question
Sometimes we can feel an enormous amount of pressure to have all of the answers to everything right now, so today’s episode is a permission slip to look inwards, and move onto the next question.
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers, and a very happy Thursday to you. So yesterday, we were chatting all about how easy it is to not tune into our own intuition or our own inner wisdom and automatically almost go into firefighting mode and look outside of ourselves. And I mean this for the little things as well. The times when you're starting something or finishing something scary and you pick up your phone and try to figure out the right way to do it or how other people are doing it before you look inwards. So I ended yesterday's daily pep all around how we often have the answers to our own questions. And today, I wanna add a bit of a caveat to that and just a permission slip that you do not need to know all the answers to everything right now. A lot of the times, what you need is the next question and take it from there and fall down the rabbit hole. Now for us recovering perfectionists, this feels mighty uncomfortable because we wanna do it right, and we want to do our best.
But often as eye roll worthy as this is, our best answers come from inside ourselves rather than outside ourselves. Often, looking outside of ourselves is what gets us stuck in research mode, And research mode can sometimes lead those of us who are perfectionists and questioners to stay in the research mode for much longer than we need to because it feels safe. We are also insatiably curious. So one answer leads to many, many more questions, and that can often feel more comfortable than doing the scary thing.
So for today's Daily Pep, I wanna pose this question to you. What if you don't actually need to know all the answers and you just need to know the next question? Knowing that there is no one right next question and just see what happens from there. My attitude as a coach has always been, you've got the answers, and I've got some helpful questions up my sleeve. So if you do want some helpful questions as we approach the halfway point to the year, I just wanted to do a quick shameless plug for my halfway Huddl workshop happening this Saturday and also my halfway Huddl stand alone workbook, which is full of really helpful questions to help you get a more accurate and more compassionate view of where you are, and it's also just full of really helpful questions to help you figure out what's important right now, what to let go of this year, and to help you create a flexible plan for the rest of the year, which feels enjoyable rather than another obligation.
You can find out more by going to therebelrousers.com/halfwayhuddle. I'd love to see you there on Saturday or support you through my workbook. But above all, here's to your own answers and knowing they are damn important!
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1107: Take the pause
As we reach the halfway point of the year, it can be easy to fall into the trap of focussing on what we haven’t done. So for today’s episode, I’m sharing a story to remind you to take the pause and get intentional!
ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1102: A sassy wednesday pep talk
If you’re sick of feeling like you can’t do it all, this one’s for you!
ABOUT THE DAILY PEP! PODCAST
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women.
If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines
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1105: Let's do this together!
If, like me, you're embarking on something new or going through a period of change, then listen up - this one's for us!
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The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1104: Let's bring more joy into our lives
For today's episode of The Daily Pep! I'm sharing a practical tip that will help bring some more joy into our lives.
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New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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1101: Enter: gentle beast mode!
We’ve discussed before here on The Daily Pep! the idea of fluffy days, maintenance mode, and beast mode. But what if there was an extra, more compassionate option?
Episode transcript:
Good morning, Daily Peppers and a very happy Tuesday to you. So quite a while ago on the daily pep, I was talking all about this idea of beast mode. Now, beast modes are those times where, for sometimes, no rhyme or reason, you have a day or you have a period of time where you are just getting so much shit done. What would usually take you so much longer is done with so much more ease, and you are just flying through your to do list. Now these beast mode days are tricky little fuckers because, a, they are fabulous. We feel like we are on fire. But the problem is it can lure us into this whole sense of believing that every single day could be like that. And while I would love that to be the case, beast modes just aren't sustainable.
So rather than enjoying them for what they are in the moment, we tend to wake up the next day expecting to get the same amount of shit done, and then we feel really shitty when we can't. We then tend to need a bit more of a fluffy day, which is kind of a day of recovery or a period of recovery where we give ourselves permission for not feeling like doing much, and we try to take the pressure off. Now for me, the most frustrating thing can be, going back to what we were talking about earlier, the fact that there is often no rhyme or reason as to why beast mode is activated. Sometimes we just wake up and we have a beast mode day, and it comes out of nowhere. But, also, I'm also very aware that sometimes life situations mean that we have to be in beast mode even when our tanks are empty, and that's what I really wanna dive into today. So if that is you right now, I really invite you to think about what I'm gonna call gentle beast mode. And it is getting shit done, but it is also with the awareness that there is too much on your plate and that unless you bring some gentleness into it, it's just gonna be cruel on yourself, and, also, you're more likely to reach burnout. I like to think of gentle beast mode as rather than pushing through no matter what the cost is, being more aware of what you're able to do, and working in fits and starts.
It's not just diving headfirst into your to do list, but rather it's working out what absolutely essentially has to get done and what would be the most efficient way of doing it. Essentially, it's the pause before the doing. It's knowing that as much as you'd like it to be otherwise, you do not have unlimited time and energy. And that when shit hits the fan, choices have to be made. It's also about putting some fluffy things in during that time to get you through. And knowing that if there is an option for you not just to have to push through, to take that one instead. So if you've got a shitload of things on your plate today, I really recommend taking the gentle beast mode approach. You will still get more done.
Chances are you might get even more done, but you're also honoring yourself at the same time. So take this one for a spin, see how it feels for you, and honor where you are energy wise right now. I'll see you tomorrow.
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ABOUT THE DAILY PEP!
New episodes air every Monday - Friday 6AM GMT
A short, snappy and sassy daily podcast to keep your internal - and external - dreamshitters at bay!
The Daily Pep! is the rebel-rousing, daily podcast for couragemakers, creative, multi-passionate and unconventional women. If you’re surrounded by people who don’t get who you are or what you do, if you want reminders you’re on the right path (no matter how scary it feels), or you’re sick of being your very own worst enemy, this is the podcast for you.
Every weekday, your host - writer, coach and professional rebel-rouser - Meg Kissack helps you build a creative and wholehearted life, one day at a time. Through short and snappy insights, reminders and stories, The Daily Pep! is here to remind you you’re not alone, and that everything changes when you believe you matter. Each episode is short and snappy, designed to fit in with (or help you start) your habits and routines.
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